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The beginning...

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we met off the internet funnily enough!
I saw his pic on a dating site and thought mmm he looks nice! And there was of course other things i liked about him
we chatted online for maybe a month i think
then we planned to meet

when we met i thought he looks like his photo, great, and then we spent a bit of time actually getting to know each other
it wasn't love at first sight, and i'm glad of that

he was a little shy at first and i liked that

anyway it has been great since then and im totally in love.......aaawwwwwwwwwww!
 
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Inperfected said:
Hmmm.. mines long.. and confusing... but I'll try...

It all start between 3-5 years ago. But by the sound of it, his started months before mine. He saw me at a youth group event (when we didn't know each other) and said, (pretty much) "she's hot, i want her"... My side started as just friends through email, and finally meeting at a friends school.

Months later wer started talking on the phone, and then he came down to meet me (with a full on 'crush'). Well first time was great, and second time he came down, he told me he liked me... and he got promptly shut down. And then again a few times over the next year.

By this point, he was my absolute best friend (this is where 3 years ago is) and we loved hanging out, and i could talk to him just about better than anyone. But i didn't like him enough.

School went by, i got a boyfriend, broke up, and went out with the exbf's best friend. Dont tell me it's silly, oh did i know. Sadly, that was started with my now fiance (W) in the room.. jealousy hit the roof so i was told. Me and this guy (B) who wasw my bf contined this relationship for about a year, and W had a couple of relationships in the time being. What i didn't know, was he was just pushing away the fact he loved me.

Well me and my (by this time) fiance B (yes not the one now) broke up all by his doing, and oh did it hurt. W was there constantly, and all the time really, and was best kind of support for me... And needless to say, i did rebound. That was 7 months before our relationship began.. but we were sort of in one, however i wasn't sure i liked him enough... So i play games for the next 7 months, and hurt him SO badly... Made it harder with 3 close deaths during the time for him. Then in April, we started going out, and july got engaged! :) The end

Oh not quite... I found a letter a few weeks back
Said ho he was wanting to marry me way back a year and a bit ago, just after i broke up... Made me so happy!

Well you were right it was confusing too, but I got it too. Well it sounds to me like your ready to settle down now. And that's AWESOME. I was my bf's first but he was my second "serious" All the crushes and the one week "love note flings" in public school don't count either. :doh: But thanks for the story, you must be getting excited to get married to your knight in shining armor. :blush: I know I can't . :sigh:
 
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Definately excited... Read that story i wrote and realised how immature i sounded... :( I played games coz i was so hurt that i didn't want someone (still loved B) yet deep down loved W... ... I really am more mature about all this than what that sounded like...

Oh yeah ... i think this was yet another relationship started via email.. (I.e. we got to know each other through email...) All mine have started like that i think..
 
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we met at work. i had been working at chic-fil-a for about a year when she got hired. her beauty just caught me and i was like WOW shes pretty! we flirted for over a year and a half as i was too shy to ask her out. i was quite the coward. we used to write down each others schedule to know when we would work together. we would seriously flirt so much i just wanted to ask her out but i was soooo shy. a week before November 20, i was driving to the bank when something told me to get money for a date. (thanks GOD!!!!) seriously it was like a voice in my head! i got the money and that saturday, november 20th, i asked her to go see SAW. we had a blast and have been dating over a year! i can't wait to see what life brings me and her! she is so special to me!
 
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f U z ! o N said:
we met at work. i had been working at chic-fil-a for about a year when she got hired. her beauty just caught me and i was like WOW shes pretty! we flirted for over a year and a half as i was too shy to ask her out. i was quite the coward. we used to write down each others schedule to know when we would work together. we would seriously flirt so much i just wanted to ask her out but i was soooo shy. a week before November 20, i was driving to the bank when something told me to get money for a date. (thanks GOD!!!!) seriously it was like a voice in my head! i got the money and that saturday, november 20th, i asked her to go see SAW. we had a blast and have been dating over a year! i can't wait to see what life brings me and her! she is so special to me!

You sound like you're a sweet Boyfriend, every girls could use one of those. :thumbsup:
 
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The greatest LOVE story ever told (but its true)!


Ok, so im in Blackpool with all my church youth group and like 3 youth leaders. Its a Christian weekend.

Friday night- got to the church and it was great, everyone getting to know each other (there where our circuit youth groups too). A few worship songs sang here and there. A very late night after supper (hot dogs).

Saturday- A great morning worship when we went to the big main venue in Blackpool (Winter Gardens). All of us in green and yellow (well nearly all of us, all the other churches from across England where there all coloured up for the event). Anyway... had a great day worshipping God and went to a show about love and relationships. Some nice guys in the show-one that sparked off with me (baring in mind thousands of people watching). After the show had some tea. About 8 all the bands start playing in concert. Some friends ask if i want to come dance i was like yeah. We met the performers from the show. I met this lad, 'Hi im Ric' he said, i was shy. But said 'Hey'. Got to know hiall a bit, obviously dancing and jumping up and down. I tried to keep talking to Ric (asked the time and things ). After massages on the floor (long story) we got broke up. We went back to our youth groups as it was late. Went in wait for our number to be called (mini bus) and saw him again (wow) a youth leader saw me go all shy and hide, she went up to him and said 'i think you have an admirer over there' he looked and he had this big smile come over his face i was like smile smile smile now. Then all his mates where pulling him to go but he wanted to come back and we where like stretching our hands out to each other. But it failed and we went back to the church we slept at over night, me a tad upset, me praying in the night to see him again (I had plans top acidently purposely bump into him tomorrow if i saw him).

Sunday- Went for the big worship in the big hall. Me looking around everywhere. I didnt see him at all. The worship was over. We qued to get out the building-to go to the beach front. Eventually got out and a few mins from the exits we saw the youth group and him there. I was shaking but i thought he should ask for my number, i wont ask for his. Went past i said 'Hi' he did this think, he clicked while pointing his finger at me kinda thing-cheesy cute thing. We went-i had no number. Kept walking down the hill to the front and my friend said 'he's still looking' i turned round and so he was !! He kept looking until i had gone around the corner. We had dinner on the front and took photos etc. I was getting upset (even crying a bit) i knew he was the one-something special. I knew it. I said 'If hes the right one G-d will bring us back together because it would be his will for it to happen'. Next thing i know i here my friend screaming my name 'JENNY!!!' i was like 'What what what?', 'Theres Ric'. My heart started pounding and i was shaking and my friend just grabbed my arm and took me over. 'Can my friend have a photo with you?' she said (im dying inside-theres no way hes gonna like me) and he said 'yeah' im thinking-he thinks im a looser. Got photo took and he came out with 'Do you want my number' i could see he was a bit shakey and i was like 'YESSS,,, I mean yeah kewl'. I got it and then we had to go. My friend dared me to text him saying [where was my goodbye kiss?xx] i sent it-well rather she sent it. I had a reply but we where quite far away at the toilets along the front. He says in his [You will have to come back for one if you want one] and i was thinking well im not allowed back and why should i, i sent him a text back saying [cant come back-youth leaders said. You will have to come here-im near the toilets on the front still]. I was thinking it will never happen. Next thing i know it i see him running to me im in shock ! I run towards him and we have the most loveing most gorge most EVERYTHING kiss. I didnt think about it at the time, i was lost in daze but there where alot of poeple around. After the iss, i hear cheering, i look back and all my friends are cheering me then i hear more and his friends are cheering behind him-us in the middle.WOW!That was love at first sight.

We are now a year and a half on and totally soul mates and knowing it.
He said that on the Saturday night he was praying to see me again and maybe accidently but on purpose bump into me-just like me


 
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We met at a party, the first week we moved into our halls of residence at university :) I live in block B, he's in block D, and the party was in a flat in block C - me and my flatmates had randomly decided to go. We all ended up talking to different people and I found myself stood alone, with my drink, when Ben materialised next to me. We'd been talking two minutes when these two other guys literally dragged him out of the room and to somebody else's flat across the hall - I laughed, figured I wouldn't see him for the rest of the night and started talking to another guy with tons of curly hair.

Then Ben found his way back and started trying to convince the curly-haired guy to go to the other party across the hall. The next thing I recall was us sitting in the room where everybody's coats had been thrown, talking like we'd known each other forever. And holding hands, which was strange but cool :) He spent the next couple of weeks texting me but it was hard to meet up, both of us being busy with friends and the new term at school, but eventually started hanging out and watching DVDs, still as just really good friends. We weren't an item until one night when we ended up on a 'proper' date in this club in town, holding hands again and exchanging lingering looks. I'll never forget the walk home afterwards, knowing I'd got him :D
 
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a bored girl playing some yahoo pool games in the university college library for hours when she was suppose to be doing her paper and a bored guy playing yahoo pool games while he was suppose to be busy logging data at work. hehe...

the first line though was from him it was "are you asian?" followed by months of chatting and phone conversations. Followed by airport meeting place leading to living together under one roof.
 
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Amy47 said:
Ok, so I'm curious how your relationship got started. Did you ask him or her out or did they ask you out. And tell me the story about how it all began. Oh and my favourite where did you or your significant other ask you out.

Well, he didn't actually ask me out, we just made an agreement that we were going to turn this from 'occasional coffees' and 'everyone THINKS we're dating' to an official thing.

We were part of a big group of friends, and he would regularly take girls out for coffee and dinner - not as a date, but just to hang out and talk. I was one of 3 or 4 I think.

The first time I THOUGHT he might be interested, was when he was in Perth visiting friends, and he rang me at midnight of my birthday, and kept me up for 4 hours talking. That kind of gave me a clue - he's a bit possessive of his sleep time. ^_^

It took about 2 more months for us to get our acts together and make a proper commitment. We broke up soon after (it was for ALL the wrong reasons).

Anyway, after about a year, I noticed some pretty big changes in him, and realised that maybe we could have a good future together. I took six months out to watch him and see if it was a real change, or just to impress other people. Then, I brought him into what I was thinking about, and together we both agreed to take 4 months out to do a bit of 'predating counselling', and sort out where we were both headed, what we both wanted from the relationship, and our own characters, and whether they were what we wanted in a future spouse.

4 months later we began our relationship, I moved out, and 11 months later we got engaged. :)

I still remember the night that we made 'D DAY' - he was acting cool as (I decided to let him make the decision, as he was the 'last one to know' :)), and I was a touch nervous. I remember I was standing on a chair fixing a light bulb when he came up (and I made a comment that it was nice to finally be taller than him!), and he said that there was noone else he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, and that if he didn't get his act together now, he never would - and he knew that this was probably the wisest decision he'd made in 2 years... :)

Sasch
 
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About 5 years ago.. when I was a weeee age of 12, I started meeting up with a small group of people to form a church plant in my city. At this point in my life, I hated church, and I thought everyone who went to church was a weirdo. Every time I'd go, I'd go into the school (we'd meet in a school) and sit down and pretty much not talk to anyone. I'd always see a girl there.. I figured she was my age. I thought she looked like a complete dork and there was no way I was going to talk to her!

I think it was year later she came up to me to ask me if I wanted to help her with an area of children's church. I figured, why not, this weird girl looks like she needs some help. :sorry: The rest of the night we pretty much talked and joked around with each other.. we were both 13 so everything was very immature, and very 13 year oldish (whatever that means). After the night was over, I got her email and emailed her right away. There was something about her that really captured my heart.

Time went on for the next couple weeks and we had a fun time every time we'd see each other at church. I even "broke up" this girl I was "seeing" at my school in hope of being free for this girl at church I finally got to talk to.

As time went on it was apparent, I think, that I liked her. She always seemed very friendly to me, and I read into a lot of whatever she would do or say. As time went on she really blew me off and treated me like dirt at times. I was quite stupid so I kept pouring myself out. I eventually came to grips that she was pursuing another relationship a couple months later. She always had a special place in my heart, but I was really seeing her as a snotty, bratty, insincere JERK. :sigh: I was only 13 at the time, but I think I remember thinking.. man this 13 year old relationship drama is ridiculous!

So the next 4 years we treated each other like we couldn't stand each other and she treated me like dirt. For some reason, she still had a special place in my heart even though I was treated like crap. I kept "hanging in there". I didn't pursue any other gals.. just her. Earlier this year, I finally came to grips that it was pointless to keep pursuing her. She has no interest and I was really setting myself up with disappointment. I decided no more.. I told God that I give the relationship to him. I told him I don't have anymore energy to put forth and that if he wants things to flow together he'll have to do it. That was February of this year. A month later, things started changing dramatically between the two of us. I can't explain it. It was definitely a God thing because attitudes towards each other completely changed. It was quite odd. We still don't know how to explain it.

So since this past March we've been pressing in to see where God wants to lead us. God has taken us through so much, I'm excited to see what happens after this "little" beginning...

Come to find out.. she didn't even want to come up and talk to me that day we first talked. She said her parents made her because they said I needed to be "included"... :sigh: She thought I was a dork too. Lots of feelings have been mutual as the relationship has progressed. :p

That's my story. As I read I can't believe the absurdness of it all.. :confused: I should also add that I don't think she's a dork. Well she is at times, but she's amazing, and I think she's very pretty. She's definitely not what I first perceived her.. I'm so thankful for her.
 
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i met my girlfriend sami at a school dance she was intrduced to me by my best friend nina and i fell in love with her at once , i tryed to dance with her but i could barley move (nervs) then i finally danced with her and i was sure she liked me to ,the following monday i got her number from nina and i asked her out and we have been dating for four month now
 
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My boyfriend and I met in a Physics lab we had together. I had forgotten my lab book so he let me share his. It turned out that we were in the same Physics lecture and we would talk a lot before and after classes. The next quarter I moved home for a short break from school, so I emailed him at his school address and he emailed me back with his AIM sn.

He was always the one to "ask me out" but he didn't make it an obvious date - usually he'd word it so that it sounded like he was asking me to hang out with him. We would sometimes catch lunch together, walk around campus talking, and then he started asking me to go on hikes and stuff.

Fast forward two years when I decided it was time to let him know my feelings for him. I kept it really short and simple, and he expressed mutual like. We decided to start "causal" dating and then a month later he asked me if he could start calling me his girlfriend and if we could be more of a serious couple. His reason was because his grandmother was wanting him to have a girlfriend. hehe..

In two days we'll be celebrating our one year dating anniversary and we've known each other now for about 3.5 years.
 
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I met my boyfriend at a small group bible study our college puts on called Homegroups, where a bunch of college kids meet at a family from the church's house every sunday night. Our group started out as all girls, but boys started to be invited, and he was one of them.

I didn't like him at first- he was quiet and didn't talk much, but then one Sunday we ended up sitting next to each other and he threw a receipt at me the entire time...lol. Eventually he found my AIM s/n, and IMed me casually, and a couple weeks later he asked me to get some coffee and walk around campus for awhile, so we did. From then on for about a month we played cards or other games about every day.

The school year ended, and he lives about an hour away, and one day we were talking online and he told me he liked me, and I said I liked him back, and he asked if he could come up to visit me. I said yes. A couple visits after that (which happened about once a week or so) we decided to make it official. That was 6 1/2 months ago. He's my first boyfriend, and Lord-willing, the man I will marry.
 
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