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To love God is to know Him -such that we value and place Him first above all else. That comes in time, to the extent that we become sickened, jaded, by the values and offerings and idols of this world, by created things over Him, and begin to place our faith, hope, and ultimately and, most importantly, love, in something better, something higher, Something eternal.
 
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I don't get why you think you don't (or sometimes don't) love yourself. We all do.

Hating yourself doesn't mean you don't love yourself. We may not always treat ourselves well, or look out for our own well-being or like ourselves, but love is another thing entirely. We are ALL without exception self-interested —even the most self-destructive of us does what he does out of self-interest.
 
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Self-destruction is not love. Everything we do that's destructive, inflicting pain on ourselves is not born from love but from pain and hate. Often people are selfish because there is something lacking within (love) and we seek to fill the void or numb the pain with external things. Even people with inflated egos don't truly love themselves. What drives people to achieve and put their identity and self-worth in those achievements is often due to not knowing God. Love comes from God, so does our true identity and worth as a human being. The world we live in will always tell us the opposite is true and so believing God (faith) is critical to the healing process. When we truly believe God loves us, we are then able to see ourselves as he does and can then truly love others without being hindered by our feelings or our ego.
 
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I think pride is directly opposed to love. And to the extent that pride rules inside of us we’ll tend to feel superior to others (not love), when we think we’ve met the standards of this imposter, this pride, or we’ll feel inferior, ashamed (also not love), when we fail to meet its standards, standards which change over time since pride only cares about how things “look”, in the moment, not how things really are with us. Just some thoughts.
 
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Great points... and pride comes from the enemy. He likes to stroke our egos and is why I believe we get caught up in the web of lies spun by the world. We need God to humble us.
 
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They are 2 commandments but as Jesus said, the first is the great(est) & the first. The second one is homoios - like/similar to the first. John in 1John explains we can't love God if we don't love one another and if we don't love one another then we don't love God.

These commandments are essentially circular and inextricably linked together. Within God's commandments we are instructed what love for God and for one another is. Since He commands how to love one another, how can we love one another Biblically without obeying Him, which is to love Him?

God is first. Neighbor and one another are second. If we obey God, we love God. If we love neighbor, we're obeying God, which is loving God. It's all about loving God, which is obeying God, which is loving neighbor and one another.

To be loving Biblically I don't think we can reverse the 2 commandments. They are looped together. But God is always first. It's difficult to break into a circular argument and speak a priority, but He is love and we love because He first loved us. Some dimensional reasoning seems best.
 
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