Tempted to have sex :(

[Billnew]

I was 15 or 16 when I lost my virginity. I became pregnant and then miscarried before my 17th birthday. Things never worked out for me, I was into drinking, and smoking and things that I swore up and down to my Mother that I would never do. But in turn I did them.

I became very sexually active throughout my Senior year in High School and also became emotionally and physically torn. My parents at the time were associate pastors of our church and I was "in the youth." It was like I was living a double life...

It eventually got to the point when I just broke down and couldnt take it. I could take it physically or emotionally any longer. Now as a born again Christian I have come to realize that it is very hard to get away from things like this. I struggle everyday.

What my point in all this is...when you get into something such as sex and drugs and drinking...it is just a evil cycle and its VERY hard to overcome it. I can remember when I was really struggling with it...my Mom would be there for me the whole way through and she said "Sex may feel good at the moment, but eventually the moment ends." That is so true and it made me think. Think about what comes along with sex. Potentially pregnancy, disease, addiction, conflicts with family...Many things come out of just a few minutes of pleasure.

Its not worth it...I can tell you from experience and knowing that as much as you want it now...Wait...Wait until you have a wife...wait until you are financially stable to have a family if that happens. God has so much more for our lives other than sex. He did yes create it but he intended it for marriage. Keep that sacred. Find the person you will marry and enjoy her and enjoy being friends with her, and really search out what God wants for your life before you give something up that you can never take back.

God Bless,

~*JeNn*~

.::Feel free to PM me::.

Like sex, Drinking and drugs will be a lifetime of temptation.
It is easier to not know what they will do for you and leave them, then to try them and then leave them alone.

 

[HomeChicklet]

Alot of good advice was given to you above. Here is what I want you to know...

Number 1 I am praying for you
Number 2 You are not alone. The pressure in this area is put on everyone at some point or another. I just happen to have gotten past this and broke up with a guy simply because he wouldn't respect my answer or no. I will say I wanted to... but in saying no it made me feel better about myself.

Number 3 If you ever just need someone to talk to or vent to... PM me
In Christ,
Mandy

 

[ysl_75]

Pray to God that you won't be tempted... I believed that only God can help you in this problem. I agree what they say too many people are tempted in this thing. So, just pray hard that you won't fall into this trap! you can do it! God is with you!

 

[Cherub8]

Hi!
Okay, I am in a bit of a weird stage of life at the moment. I really want to have sex with someone, and what makes it worse, is i know i probably could (i have a few people who fancy me and would). I really dont know how to get out of it or how to fix it. I know if i do, then after I will feel really bad, although eventually I will get over it. But then saying that, i will want it again, and again, and it most likely wont be with the one girl either
Please Help
Pete

We're in this battle together.
I'm under constant temptation at college. It is getting better, as I grow closer to the Lord. I will pray for you; please pray for me also. God bless

 

[bliz]

You are 19 years old and you are temtped to have sex? Congratulations!!! You are normal!!!!!

Several suggestions...

Make this a matter of prayer.

Find an accountability partner - Ideally a guy who is a little older than you, but it could be someone the same age who might be more spiritually mature with whom you meet and talk and pray honestly about how you have been doing with this particular temptation.

Avoid situations where you could easily move beyond temptation into action. You are probably to too likely to have sex in a bowling ally... but alone in a girl's apartment is a much greater temptation. Keep yourself in places where it would be more difficult to act. Yes, mature adults can handle situations that could be turned into sexual situations without allowing them to do so... but why test your limits?

Monitor what you read/watch/listen to. Just waking up as a 19 year old male every morning is a temptation to be sexually active, I understand. But if you are watching TV or movies with lots of sexy scenes or sexual focus, or playing video game with sexual imagry or heroines or villans, you are only making it more difficult for yourself.

Select which women you spend time with. Yes, I now, any woman alive is a temptatin at some level, but there are women who try to dress modestly, avoid sexual topics of conversation and don't fl;aunt their bodies or touch you in provocative ways, OK, any ways! Going out with a tease is going to make it harder to remain pure. Cut yourself some slack!

Be physically active. In combinatin with other things, it helps.

 

[goofygirl16]

Hi!
Okay, I am in a bit of a weird stage of life at the moment. I really want to have sex with someone, and what makes it worse, is i know i probably could (i have a few people who fancy me and would). I really dont know how to get out of it or how to fix it. I know if i do, then after I will feel really bad, although eventually I will get over it. But then saying that, i will want it again, and again, and it most likely wont be with the one girl either
Please Help
Pete

Pray, and remember that purity is Gods will. I will be praying for you Pete

 

[Mebby01]

l was in the same boat as you were about sex l wasn't sure if l should wait either. Or just do it l know it is hard like I had sex with a guy I dated for a very long time I was temped to do so and I did it. I feel really stupid for doing it l wish I waited until marrage I feel horrible and depressed about it. I would wait If I were you. But thats your choice I can't stop you from doing what you want to do. But I strongly think you should pray to God as well

Good luck I hope everything works out for you
God bless,
Mebby