Temptations

Kristin06 · Oct 6, 2005

I have struggled with the topic of sex since I lost my virginity at the age of 16...I knew it was wrong but I liked the way it felt and totally lost control...I found myself throwing myself at guys for no reason other to get him in bed with me!! I am now come to the conclusion that this is not who I want to be and am now a born again virgin but I have temptations all the time and I have urges all the time...so far I am doing good but is this normal?? Just need some encouragement!!

2401 Penitent Tangent · Oct 8, 2005

You are doing great, anyone can be tempted, the devil even tempted christ! As long as you don't give in to it, you will be fine. When temptation strikes, look to Jesus for strengh. I'm praying for you.

pixieprincess · Oct 10, 2005

it is totally normal. i am tempted to. just remember all the bad things that can happen(i.e. pregnency, and being grounded for life). remember that the next time ur tempted.
praying always,
pixieprincess

SmackYouTwice · Oct 11, 2005

Yeah, you're doing awesome! Don't let him win!!!

And good on you for realizing that that wasn't who you wanted to be! Keep it up sister!

DjSpyda · Oct 11, 2005

same here happend to me but then things changed for me I had
sex when I excepted christ in my heart and DAMN I felt horrible. Just don't
have sex take it from my experince,you might even end up pregant that's
what happend to me too.*THINK*

Just know that it is wrong and when U want to have sex just pray for strength-peace-

Johnnz · Oct 12, 2005

At 16 your hormones really kicked in. Sex was high on your source of enjoyment list. A young girl with normal sexual devlopment may begin to touch, look at porn, try some nudity (usually alone or with a close friend) or take up with guys.

The reasons can be

Lack of moral comittment to sexual values
Hormones
Natural curiosity
External pressures - peers, a guy, internet etc
Desire for closeness and affection
Comfort from a hurtful past
Affirmation of one's desirability.

Once our sex drive is activated is wants continued satisfaction. That's why porn, masturbation or sex can be so hard for young people to stop.

If you have a normal to high sex drive a Christian comittment to abstain won't push an 'off' switch - sorry about that uncomfortable fact!

So, yes, you are very normal and not in the least perverted or wayward. You are a normal person with a normal sex drive experiencing the normal after affects of an activated sex drive. It is now a matter of learning how to handle your situation.

Bless you

John
NZ

2401 Penitent Tangent · Oct 13, 2005

Johnnz said:
At 16 your hormones really kicked in. Sex was high on your source of enjoyment list. A young girl with normal sexual devlopment may begin to touch, look at porn, try some nudity (usually alone or with a close friend) or take up with guys.

The reasons can be

Lack of moral comittment to sexual values
Hormones
Natural curiosity
External pressures - peers, a guy, internet etc
Desire for closeness and affection
Comfort from a hurtful past
Affirmation of one's desirability.

Once our sex drive is activated is wants continued satisfaction. That's why porn, masturbation or sex can be so hard for young people to stop.

If you have a normal to high sex drive a Christian comittment to abstain won't push an 'off' switch - sorry about that uncomfortable fact!

So, yes, you are very normal and not in the least perverted or wayward. You are a normal person with a normal sex drive experiencing the normal after affects of an activated sex drive. It is now a matter of learning how to handle your situation.

Bless you

John
NZ

If Christianity can't help, how can you stop?

Johnnz · Oct 13, 2005

God is there to help. Change is a process. But what God does not do is to simply erase our brains of all the bad experiences. We need to work with Him to get healing and wholeness. This includes our sex drive. Old habits and associations need dealing with while we continue to have a normal sex drive. Recognising this basic fact can help prevent a lot of guilt and confusion.

John
NZ

Mr.Cheese · Oct 15, 2005

It may take a bit for you to get a handle on things. You are used to feeding your desire on a regular basis and it has probably developed quite an appetite.
Perhaps now you are experiencing its hunger.

You're human. So you're not weird for any of these things. This is how we're made.

Hang in there. You'll get things figured out.

I'm proud of you.

porkchop · Oct 15, 2005

Hey,
First of all temptations are normal and they are not wrong, just wrong to give into. Think about it this way. Jesus was tempted in every way possible, even the ways you are tempted in, and he never gave in. God never gives you more then you can handle. In the James 1:13-14 it says that we fall into temptation when we are drawn away from God and we are enticed by our desires. So if your having a hard time resisting temptation, stay next to God.

MarxistFever · Oct 16, 2005

Kristin06 said:
am now a born again virgin!!

Uh....what does that mean?

DjSpyda · Oct 17, 2005

she got baptized or she excepted Jesus in her heart and
now she's a new person.

Kristin06 · Oct 17, 2005

MarxistFever said:
Uh....what does that mean?

For a long time I strayed away for Christ and that path and did my own thing...but I found my way back and after lots of prayers and forgivness I feel like I am new again...and now want to stop having any kind of sex until I find that right guy for me....

anointedtruth · Oct 19, 2005

Hey Kristin,

You're doing great so far. Definitely stay in prayer. When you feel tempted try reading your Bible or volunteer somewhere. Sometimes temptation can flow from utter boredom. What are the times you're tempted most? Also keeping a journal may be a good thing. It may help you sort out your thoughts... like if you're thinking about sleeping with someone... write down pros and cons. Then look at what's more important to you. It may seem kind of kindergartenish but whatever gets you through. Hoping for the best for you.
May God continue to guide you.

StephanieD · Oct 20, 2005

Temptations are absolutely normal, as most others have said. I agree with anointedtruth in that you need to know how you are most tempted. Is it when you're alone or while watching a certain tv show or whenever. Know when those times are and I would encourage you to keep yourself from those things by reading your Bible, journaling, hanging out with friends instead or whatever else you can do to focus on something else. God will always be there for you in the midst of temptation and He always provides a way out.
As you know, God has forgiven you and He is there to encourage you in the midst of your struggles. Just be smart about it and realize when you need help to take you out of tempting situations...and take action. Don't allow your body to be treated as anything less than a gift of God and a temple of the Holy Spirit, which it is. Take care.

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