Me and my boyfriend have been struggling with sexual temptation for a few months now. We both have been watching porn for awhile and recently we've started struggling with physical temptations. We are both trying really hard not to fall into sin. His dad is a bishop so we are are kind of scared to ask a pastor for help because he might find out about it. What should we do?
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Waiting until marriage is hard, but it’s doable. If it’s something you strongly believe in, you will find the strength to pull through! You should have serious talk with your boyfriend and both of you should commit to waiting until marriage. Communication is key!
Find other activities to do as a couple –relationships are not all about sex; and try to find other activities where each of you can have your own space.
Find other activities to do as a couple –relationships are not all about sex; and try to find other activities where each of you can have your own space.
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Not watching porn might be good start. Though I'm not sure about Anglicans (I'm assuming you are), any discussion between a clergy and a laity is strictly confidential as such you shouldn't really fear of any discovery not that you should be hiding it anyway (I know it's hard).
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Yeah, definitely stop watching porn. Also, since you're both wanting to not fall into sin, avoid situations where that could be possible. For example, don't get alone together where it would be easy to slip, don't keep talking about it, don't get into heavy make-out sessions, etc. I know it's hard, but it's certainly doable especially if you're both on the same page. My girlfriend and I dated for over 6 years, and we managed to stay clean until we were married. You can too.
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Your age is a factor. Unless marriage is not too far away any sexual involvement is only going to add to the pressure. And, having an activated sex drive makes control even more difficult.
It's natural to be aware of your sexuality, and to be interested in sex generally - hence you have watched porn. But that is not a healthy thing to do. If you are still quite young you probably need to really sort out a few things. If yu are a bit older than some other strategies may be in order.
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It's natural to be aware of your sexuality, and to be interested in sex generally - hence you have watched porn. But that is not a healthy thing to do. If you are still quite young you probably need to really sort out a few things. If yu are a bit older than some other strategies may be in order.
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Create a boundary and don't cross it. You're tempting yourself and danging that banana in front of your faces and daring each other to take it. Limit the time you spend alone. STOP watching all porn. Porn will only ruin your future sex life and make it worse. It creates unrealistic expectations. Spend more time in groups. Have more bible studies with each other and praying and watching wholesome movies. The temptation will always be there, but you can lessen it and try harder to remain pure.
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Hi for one.. quite watching porn. Then go out in the fresh air and Have fun. Get involved with bf's church. get involved with ur community. forgive urselves. go to museums, get some edu
Nature culture as a couple. Define ur relationship between u and ur honey and God/his son. just have fun with each other. just a suggestion
..Btw plezd to meet u and hi
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Well i disagree... If they decide to get married.. Then they can consider looking at that stuff together.. Possibly learn new ways of satisfing each other in my opinion. just not at the dating stage. Possibly during their honeymoon and after. Again in my opinion. Hi to all btw..
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Interesting topic,
I struggled with porn a lot, but find it puts a hinderence on relationships and not a bond. Porn is there to please the earthly desires, god created sex to be a glorification of his love between (a husband and his wife). I found when a stuggled with this addiction it but walls and demons in my marriage., I hated my self, I was miserable because of being convicted and simply did not enjoy sex. Waiting to get married to have sex is an excellent way to glorify god but adding a worldly desire like porn will only remove that glorification when time actually comes. Instead focusing on porn and further tempting yourselves, you should learn what the women desire truly is and that is be loved. Focus on you relationship when the time comes it will be what it was intended to be and that is a glorification and not a pizza man without no pizza (lol). Enjoy each other companiship and remove the porn because later might be to late.
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I struggled with porn a lot, but find it puts a hinderence on relationships and not a bond. Porn is there to please the earthly desires, god created sex to be a glorification of his love between (a husband and his wife). I found when a stuggled with this addiction it but walls and demons in my marriage., I hated my self, I was miserable because of being convicted and simply did not enjoy sex. Waiting to get married to have sex is an excellent way to glorify god but adding a worldly desire like porn will only remove that glorification when time actually comes. Instead focusing on porn and further tempting yourselves, you should learn what the women desire truly is and that is be loved. Focus on you relationship when the time comes it will be what it was intended to be and that is a glorification and not a pizza man without no pizza (lol). Enjoy each other companiship and remove the porn because later might be to late.
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