Supporting an abusive parent.

[Caylin]

I spent several months living with my girlfriend's family due to a lack of anywhere else to live (cept for with my grandmother, but thats another story) and I found out one of the reasons they are constantly broke is because Elle's mother takes constant care of her father. She pays his electric bill, buys him food, and takes physical care of him because he is too obese to do things like make his own bed. The problem I have with this is that he was very abusive to her and her siblings as kids, and to this day remains verbally abusive to her with regards to my girlfriend.

Should she be obligated to do this? Would it be evil for her to take my suggestion and let him starve in the dark with a messy bed till he loses enough weight to do everything himself?

 

[wanderingone]

I spent several months living with my girlfriend's family due to a lack of anywhere else to live (cept for with my grandmother, but thats another story) and I found out one of the reasons they are constantly broke is because Elle's mother takes constant care of her father. She pays his electric bill, buys him food, and takes physical care of him because he is too obese to do things like make his own bed. The problem I have with this is that he was very abusive to her and her siblings as kids, and to this day remains verbally abusive to her with regards to my girlfriend.

Should she be obligated to do this? Would it be evil for her to take my suggestion and let him starve in the dark with a messy bed till he loses enough weight to do everything himself?

What one is obligated to do is a very personal decision. Unless she still has minor children to provide for then her being broke is her own problem and if she in turn is looking to other people to support her then it's up to those people if they want to help her when they know why she is always broke.

 

[Aeris]

Lol yes it would be kinda evil, and if any serious harm came to him it may be seen as neglect since he cant do it himself. I dont think that reducing his food (and feeding him healthy food) until he is at a weight where he can do things himself would be evil, but that would take awhile to loose the weight in a healthy way (like not too fast) especially if hes so overweight he cant even do things himself.

 

[Caylin]

What one is obligated to do is a very personal decision. Unless she still has minor children to provide for then her being broke is her own problem and if she in turn is looking to other people to support her then it's up to those people if they want to help her when they know why she is always broke.

She has an eight year old.