What do you think is a suitable age difference assuming that the guy is older then the girl and that the girl is 21 or older.
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Suitable age difference
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eatenbylocusts
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Randomly I'm going to say less than 8 years, but that's if the girl is 21. At my age I would say around 10 years, but that is just my personal comfort zone. Closer to 21 you're dealing with less life experience than someone who is 30 or older.
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it depends on the couple. if they're at the same place emotionally and spiritually speaking it shouldn't really matter if they're 1 year apart or 10 years.
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As long as both are adults, then I don't think age differences are a problem. Ideally, the couple would have some shared life experiences and hopefully the younger party would be mature for their age. If the guy or girl is underage, I would say it would be entirely inappropriate for an adult (18+) of any age to even consider dating them.
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PastorJer
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I have my own little theory on this one... take your age divide by 2 and add 7...
You can do that until you are 40... at which point the age difference should NEVER exceed 13 years...
You can do that until you are 40... at which point the age difference should NEVER exceed 13 years...
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well considering i'm 21 i think they oldest guy I would ever consider dating...if I was single...would be 30
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What is a "suitable age difference"? What does that phrase mean?
And why are we assuming that the man should be older?
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I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 12 years older then me (He's 38). I don't have a problem with it neither does he. I don't there is a appropriate suitable age difference if you know God has a say in the relationship.
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well i admit i was wondering the same thing... at least about the first Q
suitable? *shrug* I'm not ruling anyone out. My man happens to be older, but even if he was my age or younger, it's about him, not his age.
perhaps i misunderstand the OP's intent
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None of my friends have that much of a reaction. My mom was a little like oh no but once she meets him either Thanksgiving or Christmas she'll probably understand that he doesn't "act" 38. No clue what my dad thinks. My sister and brothers don't react much. My boyfriend is only a few years younger then my sister as well.
I figure this if I had a problem with it then that is concern. But as long as I am okay with it then age ain't nothing but a number.
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It's hard to define exactly what I mean by suitable. In a way its what society would find acceptable but that doesn't mean society's always right. Sorry I can't be more specific.well i admit i was wondering the same thing... at least about the first Q
suitable? *shrug* I'm not ruling anyone out. My man happens to be older, but even if he was my age or younger, it's about him, not his age.
perhaps i misunderstand the OP's intent
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I think I always knew I wouldn't date anyone younger than me. I kind of had it in my head that my cut-off would be 30 (that was when I was 22). Good thing my BF is 5.5 years older... but I probably would have made an exception.
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Diane_Windsor
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That depends on the couple. My fiancee is 12 years older than I, and we don't mind at all. For some couples a 30+ age difference is fine, but another couple might cringe at a 10 year age difference.
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If you're an adult, you can date or marry anyone you want. Period.
I know couples who have 20 years between them and have great marriages, so I won't be one to decide what's "right" for other people.
I know couples who have 20 years between them and have great marriages, so I won't be one to decide what's "right" for other people.
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KJVisTruth
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Its just a number.. but personally, about 10 years older or younger than me is suitable, max. Its really different for everybody. My SO is 5 years younger than me. =)
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If you feel your relationship is right, then go for it! My boyfriend is exactly 10 years and 13 days older than me. We are both spiritually mature and I am VERY mature for my age. I do not, and truthfully never have, felt comfortable around people my own age. There are too many immortal people out there. I am very fortunate to have such a respectful, kind and moral boyfriend who shares my beliefs and views. We are both adults and even though others may see it as "odd," I see no problem with two people who love each other being together. And to restate a good point: I love my boyfriend because he is who he is, not because of how old he is. That stuff is pointless when it comes to love.
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Rebekka
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I'll repeat what others have said: between adults, age difference doesn't really matter either way - the woman can be older too! If they're not of the same maturity level there might be problems, but that's more a state of mind, not an age issue.
My husband is ten years older than me and I never notice that, really - not in looks (he looks younger) and not in behaviour (we're both very similar). No one ever commented on it, not even my parents when I introduced him to them. Yes, they acknowledged that he was 10 years older, but that's it - they said age is just a number, and the older you get the less it matters.
My husband is ten years older than me and I never notice that, really - not in looks (he looks younger) and not in behaviour (we're both very similar). No one ever commented on it, not even my parents when I introduced him to them. Yes, they acknowledged that he was 10 years older, but that's it - they said age is just a number, and the older you get the less it matters.
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