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With the closing of IDD, there will wind up being instances of people with too much time on their hands with too little to do. These people will be more prone to surf new fora and participate in them. That means we can expect an influx of non-Catholics into OBOB asking all sorts of things, and debating several others.

As we all know, the instant a Catholic (or Orthodox) member of CF as much as shows their nose in P/R/E, a vocal minority there starts screaming bloody murder. Doesn't matter that they don't call their own P/R/E brethren on the carpet for coming into OBOB, they act as if Catholics posting in P/R/E is a huge crime, worthy of immediate suspension.

So, if I may make a suggestion: Catholics place a moratorium on posting in P/R/E. I mean, no posts whatsoever. No fellowship, no correction of lies and slander, and especially no debating.

Given the tone of several posts that I have read in OBOB and in P/R/E, warnings will come hard and fast, and I don't think much will be done to curb it. So, I think it's in our best interest to just avoid that place.

Just my two cents. Keep the change.
 

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nyj said:
With the closing of IDD, there will wind up being instances of people with too much time on their hands with too little to do. These people will be more prone to surf new fora and participate in them. That means we can expect an influx of non-Catholics into OBOB asking all sorts of things, and debating several others.

As we all know, the instant a Catholic (or Orthodox) member of CF as much as shows their nose in P/R/E, a vocal minority there starts screaming bloody murder. Doesn't matter that they don't call their own P/R/E brethren on the carpet for coming into OBOB, they act as if Catholics posting in P/R/E is a huge crime, worthy of immediate suspension.

So, if I may make a suggestion: Catholics place a moratorium on posting in P/R/E. I mean, no posts whatsoever. No fellowship, no correction of lies and slander, and especially no debating.

Given the tone of several posts that I have read in OBOB and in P/R/E, warnings will come hard and fast, and I don't think much will be done to curb it. So, I think it's in our best interest to just avoid that place.

Just my two cents. Keep the change.
I hope this post doesn't break any rules in this forum, but I'm gonna risk it anyway, and if I perish, I perish. (Or if I'm banned, I'm banned, anyway. LOL)

That's probably a really good idea, nyj. I know that you guys often feel that you're only responding in that forum to "clear up misconceptions about your faith," but the thing is, often the people posting those "misconceptions" don't see them as misconceptions. Think of it this way. People in this forum feel perfectly free to say things like, "Protestant Christianity didn't exist until the 16th century," without fear of contradiction. According to your interpretation of history, you see yourselves as the original church, and Protestants as late-comers, and most of the people here, apparently see this as an "objective fact," not under dispute. But that's not how we see it. I read a good deal of church history, myself, and the way I see it is that the particular ecclesiology that developed into modern day Catholicism was the development of one particular tradition in the church, but not the only one.

But if that way of looking at it is difficult for you to follow (especially without a bunch of historical stuff to back it up), perhaps another view is easier for you get my point. According to the ecclesiology of some Eastern Orthodox, there's the view that the Western Church departed from Apostolic Christianity and the Eastern Church remained faithful to the apostolic traditions. According to that view, Catholicism was "the first Protestant church." Now you can dispute the validity of that view, but what if there were an Eastern Orthodox forum where Catholics couldn't debate. An Eastern Orthodox could put forth that statement, and you would be forced to let it stand, even though you'd consider it a misrepresentation of Catholicism. The same is true in the PRE. I can't come in here and debate with you over whether or not Protestantism was a "latecomer," even though you can state it all you want. I consider it a misrepresentation, but I can't debate it. The same is true for you guys in the PRE. So if your only reason for coming there is to clear up "misrepresentations", then it's probably better to stay away, just as you expect us to stay away if we just want to come in and clear up "misrepresentations" about Protestantism.

Now I'm not saying that I necessarily agree with everything every Protestant says about Catholicism in the PRE. I'm not saying that everything that's said in that forum is true while everything that's said in here is false. But I know many different Catholics who hold different views about Protestantism, as well. I've known of some who can represent Protestantism in what I consider a fairly accurate way, and still disagree with it. That's fine. Others latch onto the poorest expressions of Protestantism and try to portray them as a correct representation of same. And certainly, some Protestants point to the very worst of Catholicism and hold that up as a correct representation of your beliefs. But, like it or not, when it comes to the PRE or the OBOB forum, we need to leave it up to the fellow members of each others respective communions to correct them. And if that isn't happening, then we just have to accept it.

Is there anyone here to whom any of this makes any sense?

(I decided that, as a gesture of good will, even though I dispute the "catholic" nature of your communion, I'll edit my post and refer to you merely as Catholics in this forum.)
 
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Some of that make sense, and I think that the main hope is

we need to leave it up to the fellow members of each others respective communions to correct them.

If Protestants would correct their brothers and sisters when a newbie comes in and says we worship Mary, and we did the same when someone says that Protestants believe that a sinners prayer is all that is required for salvation. Of course you still have the problem that most of us really don't know what the other believes :)

As a positive example I have seen tigersnare (a Protestant) exhort his brethren to watch what they post over in PRE

I disagree with

And if that isn't happening, then we just have to accept it.

because the world, and this MB is not a static system :)
 
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What you say does makes sense. And for the first time you and nyj agree on something. If we don't want outside interference, we should allow others the same privilege. Thank you for your even handed assesment of the current situation. No one is beyond reproach.

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Oblio said:
If Protestants would correct their brothers and sisters when a newbie comes in and says we worship Mary, and we did the same when someone says that Protestants believe that a sinners prayer is all that is required for salvation. Of course you still have the problem that most of us really don't know what the other believes :)
I agree with this and the misconceptions that led me to this place were of that nature and I was fired up when I got here.
I would LOVE to agree with the OP as well because I am angry but at the same time I can't justify it if someone actually comes here looking for information. Just because they do it does not mean we have to reduce ourselves to the same behaviour. It isn't right. Now if someone comes here just to argue that is another story altogether but to just ignore them altogether because they have a problem with us posting over there is IMHO reducing ourselves to the childish level they are displaying. And trust me I would love to reduce myself. It still doesn't make it right though.
But what if you all had this motto and I came here looking for info now in my slightly angry state? I would not be where I am now would I? Because you would not acknowledge me. So I would still hold all my preconcieved misconceptions and what has happened to transform my life would not have occured. Is this really what we want?? Ask yourselves that before making a decision out of anger alone.
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But what if you all had this motto and I came here looking for info now in my slightly angry state? I would not be where I am now would I? Because you would not acknowledge me.
I think you misunderstood me Debi. Never did I say that we should ignore Protestants who come here to OBOB asking questions, or even attacking us and our doctrines. All I said is that we should stay out of P/R/E. There is a distinct difference between the two.
 
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nyj said:
With the closing of IDD, there will wind up being instances of people with too much time on their hands with too little to do. These people will be more prone to surf new fora and participate in them. That means we can expect an influx of non-Catholics into OBOB asking all sorts of things, and debating several others.

As we all know, the instant a Catholic (or Orthodox) member of CF as much as shows their nose in P/R/E, a vocal minority there starts screaming bloody murder. Doesn't matter that they don't call their own P/R/E brethren on the carpet for coming into OBOB, they act as if Catholics posting in P/R/E is a huge crime, worthy of immediate suspension.

So, if I may make a suggestion: Catholics place a moratorium on posting in P/R/E. I mean, no posts whatsoever. No fellowship, no correction of lies and slander, and especially no debating.

Given the tone of several posts that I have read in OBOB and in P/R/E, warnings will come hard and fast, and I don't think much will be done to curb it. So, I think it's in our best interest to just avoid that place.

Just my two cents. Keep the change.
Acknowledged and agreed. I think it's a good idea.

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nyj said:
I think you misunderstood me Debi. Never did I say that we should ignore Protestants who come here to OBOB asking questions, or even attacking us and our doctrines. All I said is that we should stay out of P/R/E. There is a distinct difference between the two.
Yes then I did misunderstand you. And for that I am sorry. But for those that I hold the above notion I think it would be something to think about. I read it wrong then. I have either been on too long or need to get my eyes checked again or most likely both.LOL Again forgive the misunderstanding.
 
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debiwebi said:
Yes then I did misunderstand you. And for that I am sorry. But for those that I hold the above notion I think it would be something to think about. I read it wrong then. I have either been on too long or need to get my eyes checked again or most likely both.LOL Again forgive the misunderstanding.
Don't worry about it Debi. I'm sorry if my post created any confusion. I would certainly never condone acting uncharitably to people who come to OBOB. Now, I'm not always the best example of leading by example, but I think it imperative that we always give people who come here a good example of what it means to live lives worthy of Christ. :)
 
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Yes then I did misunderstand you. And for that I am sorry. But for those that I hold the above notion I think it would be something to think about. I read it wrong then. I have either been on too long or need to get my eyes checked again or most likely both.LOL Again forgive the misunderstanding.
And even right now, in another thread here in OBOB, there is a PRE mocking our beliefs, yet we don't jump up and down yelling and throwing fits . . not only do we allow PRE's in our threads, we don't react much even when the do something like this . .

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And even right now, in another thread here in OBOB, there is a PRE mocking our beliefs, yet we don't jump up and down yelling and throwing fits . . not only do we allow PRE's in our threads, we don't react much even when the do something like this . .

Peace in Him!
I am slowly learning because as we all can see I am a very slow learner look how long of a Journey it took me to get here. LOL Heck I am going to be 37 next month. ssshhh don't tell. LOL That all we do when we fight back is fuel them more. And actually I am finding in life this too applies greatly.
Besides I have proven to myself time and again that when you are arguing you are so busy fighting that you can't actually hear in order to listen and learn. You are to rapped up in what is your next move to outwit the other. And since I like to learn and do not like being stagnant I think listening and learning is better.
Besides in all honesty I am just too tired to fight anymore it is a wasted effort if the other person isn't listening anyway.
 
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nyj said:
So, if I may make a suggestion: Catholics place a moratorium on posting in P/R/E. I mean, no posts whatsoever. No fellowship, no correction of lies and slander, and especially no debating.

Excellent suggestion.
And I will add my own Modest Proposal:

Considering the developments of the last two days since the closing of those two fora (which, imo, needed to be closed),
perhaps we should not respond to Protestant posts for a short period. I use the word Protestabt to distinguish them from the Orthodox.

Can someone design a poll for Catholic members only which would ask what members thought of
1) a period of time to be 'on retreat';
2)not visiting PRE
3)not responding to, or ignoring, "foreigners"

With the IDD closed, there is a strong likelihood that OBOB will no longer the fruitful place it has been heretofore. Perhaps a hiatus, a TEMPORARY retreat, would be a chance to discuss how to handle rowdy intruders, and many other questions.

Or, a poll on other possible ways to do this?
 
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I agree. Let's start out of PRE. I'm done right now. Sign your name below this post if you agree to stay out of PRE (at least for a good few months).

Now remember guys, this is no matter what. Trust us Mods to make sure nothing hateful goes on in there. Sign now!
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