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Subtle digs at Christians

JohnDB

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I find it quite hypocritical & bigoted to claim a negative generalization about any group including Christians.

How anyone can claim the higher moral ground while stepping on others is beyond me. This is usually the case when someone doesn't have a real, personal relationship with God.
 
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At my workplace we have several Christians who are at various places in their walks with different temperaments and personalities.

The other day one of the guys who isn't a believer was out back with 3 of us and we had gotten on a discussion about churches that go too far into legalism and miss the point and churches that sit around preaching love and kittens while not caring about the law.
One example of this is churches that are supportive of the homosexual lifestyle.

He was shocked that we'd say something like that and we obviously heard "So you hate gay people?" where we explained that we don't hate the person but we don't approve of the sin. He still couldn't believe that "such nice people" would be unsupportive of that lifestyle.

My mom said it well...
"If it walks like a duck and flaps its wings like a duck, its probably a duck. Any idiot can use a duck call to imitate a duck...trust me most ducks can tell the difference."
 
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At my workplace we have several Christians who are at various places in their walks with different temperaments and personalities.

The other day one of the guys who isn't a believer was out back with 3 of us and we had gotten on a discussion about churches that go too far into legalism and miss the point and churches that sit around preaching love and kittens while not caring about the law.
One example of this is churches that are supportive of the homosexual lifestyle.

He was shocked that we'd say something like that and we obviously heard "So you hate gay people?" where we explained that we don't hate the person but we don't approve of the sin. He still couldn't believe that "such nice people" would be unsupportive of that lifestyle.

My mom said it well...
"If it walks like a duck and flaps its wings like a duck, its probably a duck. Any idiot can use a duck call to imitate a duck...trust me most ducks can tell the difference."

This is exactly what I meant by my last post! ---->


Huh, I just had a thought....

Are Christians really MORE judgmental?? Or are we judged more harshly by others because we are Christian???

(i.e. A Christian makes a statement that could be seen as a judgment, but because he/she is a Christian, they should know better = AUTO-LABELED JUDGMENTAL)
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That because Christians do not support a homosexual lifestyle, that automatically deems us "haters" of gay people.. The secular world has taught our society to look for any flaws in a group of people, so that the position that they hold appears reasonable and logical.

Christians don't support a murderer's lifestyle either. Does that make us "haters of murderer's"? No it doesn't! It is the sin that is not acceptable.
 
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I've encountered statements like the following:

"Most of my atheist friends are better Christians than those who claim to follow Jesus."

What do you make of it? Can that be true? Or share a similar one, along with your thoughts.

Here's another: (from post #18)

"As a Christian, the primary (if not only) reason you do good things is to please someone else (your invisible sky daddy, I've taken to calling him). As an atheist, the only reason I do good things is because it's the right thing to do. The Christian may think it's the right thing to do, too, of course, but obviously, one of us has ulterior motives, the other's motives are plain and simple and pure."

What say you? Is it true? Are Christians guilty of this? Or, if I could phrase it biblically, is "do all for the glory of God" a worse or too-complex motive than "do because it should be done"?


I think the sayings are mostly true. Christianity and Christians have a long and sad history of being legalistic and lacking in love. (And make no mistake, where there is legalism you will not find love and where there is love, you will not find legalism).

But I would say that this is human nature, not 'Christian nature' that is being observed.

Any group of people who are convinced in their own minds that they have the exclusive ownership of truth, that anyone who disagrees with them about truth is a heretic and an infidel and certain to burn in hell forever is going to fall into the classic human error of pride. Then comes the holier-than-thou attitude, the looking down noses, the marginalizing of 'the other', the false love ("we'll accept you if you do x, y, z first) which is legalism, etc, etc.

An observer can see the same behavior in any religious group, but, as someone else mentioned, especially the "Abrahamic faiths" (i.e. Judaism, Islam and Christianity) because they hold tightly to the exclusivity of their faiths. The behavior can also be found in non-religious groups of people. For example, look at the rhetoric and vitriol in politics.

In my experience with atheists and agnostics, most just would rather "live and let live" with regard to moral life choices. I, personally, wish more Christians would learn to do the same.


Also, my understanding of the "Christian life" and the motivation for doing good as taught to us in Scripture is that we will do good works because good works are in our heart to do, not because we're afraid of displeasing "Sky Daddy."

I also believe - I didn't used to - that most people are generally good in that they're generally rational enough to realize that being decent human beings who treat their neighbors with kindness is in their own best interest. Threat of punishment for not being kind, imho, tends to muddy the waters and make people more likely to be cruel, not less.

If your measure of "good Christian" is someone who follows the Golden Rule.... then IME, generally speaking, atheists are better at it than Christians. But that's probably because so many Christians have been spiritually abused to the point that they sincerely believe abuse = love.
 
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I've encountered statements like the following:

"Most of my atheist friends are better Christians than those who claim to follow Jesus."

What do you make of it? Can that be true? Or share a similar one, along with your thoughts.

Here's another: (from post #18)

"As a Christian, the primary (if not only) reason you do good things is to please someone else (your invisible sky daddy, I've taken to calling him). As an atheist, the only reason I do good things is because it's the right thing to do. The Christian may think it's the right thing to do, too, of course, but obviously, one of us has ulterior motives, the other's motives are plain and simple and pure."

What say you? Is it true? Are Christians guilty of this? Or, if I could phrase it biblically, is "do all for the glory of God" a worse or too-complex motive than "do because it should be done"?

Pleasing God and doing it for the right reason are the same thing, as I understand it.

Even an atheist - if he does something good - solely because it is good - whether he likes it or not - this is acknowledging a moral order beyond himself.

As for "bad Christians" vrs "good atheists" - by what measure? Are we in competition? Not everyone is given the same upbringing and has the same experiences in life, nor given the same knowledge or understanding.
 
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41 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Luke 6:41-42

8 “But you are not to be called ‘Rabbi,’ for you have one Teacher, and you are all brothers. 9 And do not call anyone on earth ‘father,’ for you have one Father, and he is in heaven. 10 Nor are you to be called instructors, for you have one Instructor, the Messiah. 11 The greatest among you will be your servant. 12 For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
Matt 23:8-12

I sometimes wish all christians were required to read passages like these two more often... That would maybe help out with the problem that many of us have: the way that they act worse then all the atheists around us. And the way that people will get so uppity about being christian that they'll forget that it's not just a name that you have, it's a life view, it's following him who is the only perfect person who ever existed. That means being christian: following Christ. Now, because of that an atheist won't be a good christian. A good christian does those good works because they follow Christ; they'll have the Holy Spirit guiding them and giving them abad concience if they do wrong or don't do the good they should. Then again a good atheist does everything they do for whatever other reason, and then their actions won't matter at all. Period.

Well, because the things atheists do won't matter to them in the end since salvation comes through Christ, doesn't mean that christians should stop doing works because they already have a meaning in their life. The opposite. They should be ashamed that people wish christians were like atheists and start living according to their faith. They should live the way the Holy Spirit will lead their conscienses to be like and pray to God that they'd have guidance every day. And shame on them if they do something else for a faith without works is dead.

I think Stravinsk made a good point as well though: different people have different difficulties and backgrounds. Someone from a rougher past might have a way more difficult time doing one thing that might be considered a good work then another from a good family and all will have making a hoard of things. God will know it as well and he'll judge people based on the change in their hearts and actions instead of the amount of things they do, he's above the way people would judge after all. Also, a major change in one's life might seem to a stranger like nothing but mean a lot to those who really know the person and act as a huge testimony to the closest ones of them. So judge not and you shall not be judged.

Ugh, this became long. :sorry: well I hope it makes some sense anyways.
 
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