Kiterius
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And in that case you and your wife are not equal in the decision making process, she submits to you. And that is, of course, a matter between you and your wife as to how your marriage works.
Now let me tell you a tale about a couple, this happens over and over again.
One of the spouses begins a slow decline into losing more and more mental functioning, usually said to be Alzheimer's syndrome. It is often the man. Over time, the ability of the mind slips. Things become forgotten. There comes a time when it is not longer safe to let the person drive. There comes a time when it is no longer possible for the person to write checks, plan shopping trips, dress himself, and finally at the last to remember how to feed himself.
Its a gradual decline over many years. A great tragedy.
At the last stages, clearly the wife of this victim is totally in charge of all decision making. Of necessity.
But what about the beginning? When it is not yet clearly seen what is happening? By what rule, and when, does a family basing its dynamics on a theory that the man is the head of the house to whom the wife submits, alter that dynamic because of the fading mind of the man? Is it necessary to wait until critical mistakes are made, or is it possible for the more alert and capable spouse to step in, when needed, before that stage is reached?
My wife and I are equal as persons and we have equal responsibility in decision making. You don't understand that two people can be equal yet different. That's your problem.
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