Struggling with violent/depraved sexual fantasies.

[Ultima4257]

I am not sure if I am allowed to post here since I am a seeker, but I really need some input on how to stop these fantasies. Basically I struggle with multiple fantasies, all of which are strange and some are considered violent. It started out as a diaper fetish, but now it has over time escalated into rape fantasies, which involve both men and women being raped, and more recently it has started to include forced feminization/domination of men. I really am not sure why these things sexually stimulate me. Granted, I have never acted out physically with these fetishes, but I am concerned if I don't stop it may escalate and get to that point. I don't struggle with homosexuality at all which is strange considering some of the content. I believe what they all have in common is the humiliation aspect, which is why I am drawn to them all. Does anyone have any advice dealing with these fantasies? Unfortunately I am out of the job so counseling is out of the picture for the moment. I really lack the will just to stop it, although I think these fantasies are just a symptom of something much deeper, so I am not sure how effective that will be.

 

[Ultima4257]

Would anyone know if these are symptoms of a depraved mind, meaning I am getting to the point of no return?

 

[Purge187]

Not necessarilly. Martin Luther had recurring thoughts about Satan's rear end. (Yes, seriously.) God is in the process of helping me to renew my mind after quite a few years of mental chaos, and He'll do the same for you if you ask.

Always remember - it's not a sin to be tempted.

 

[Johnnz]

Was there some interest/involvement is sexual activity or materials that may be providing the 'raw material' for your fantasies. Was sex seen in a healthy was as a child?

John
NZ

 

[grandvizier1006]

I'm glad that you're willing to admit this is a problem. Most people see no need to change what sort of sexual thoughts they have, due to this idea that "thoughts don't harm anyone". but really, they do--yourself. I can speak from experience. Most of the pain I've felt in my life has just come from morally wrong, untrue thoughts.

I think these thoughts stem from a deep-seated desire for control, and maybe some sort of bitterness. Since you don't have access to a therapist right now, just ask yourself some questions:
1. Do I feel like I have any "bad experiences" in my past? (it doesn't matter how bad, or even if it really was all that bad, but as long as you have the mindset that something happened, then you will feel like you need something to "make up for" a bad past)
2. Why are my thoughts both violent and sexual? Why do I enjoy the idea of humiliating others sexually? In other words, why that specific thing?
3. What sort of positive thoughts are there that appeal to me to counteract these out-of-control fantasies?

Try to think of something else that counteracts the fantasy. For example, if you have a fantasy about raping someone, chnage it. Imagine yourself showing affection to that person, and them loving you back. imagine yourself helping them back into their clothes, and hugging them. Even if you're aroused by the idea of dominating over someone in a fantasy, in real life you might have second thoughts. Try to "correct" your fantasy--do what you would do in reality if a woman or man was suddenly vulnerable like that.

 

[joyfullyobey]

I couldn’t decipher if you meant that you’d be humiliated or you’d be the one doing it someone else. If it’s the latter, perhaps you’d feel less dirty if you imagined that you were acting out some of your fantasies alone with your future wife. You could imagine her in a diaper, and sexually dominating her. I say this because at least both of those things could biblically be considered okay. I can’t say fantasizing in this way has the all clear but at least if you focused your thinking on something that’s more pure in nature when you do succumb to the temptation, you’d may feel less guilty about it afterwards.