So a little back story: I'm a 22 year old male and I recently proposed to my girlfriend. She is 20. We are now engaged and want to get married. We have had sex a few times and regret it but we are having a hard time staying pure. Me especially. I think about it all the time and I want it so badly. I know I need to get in a better relationship with God, but I'm afraid that I'll still be this tempted. If we could we would get married right away but unfortunately we both still live with our parents and have college to finish. I took some time off school to try to earn money but haven't been making enough. We can't afford a decent wedding or honeymoon and we definitely can't afford to live together yet. I've been struggling with what I can do about this. I was hoping I could get some advice. Thank you guys in advanced.
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Struggling with premarital sex
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My advice is to, as the Apostle Paul writes in the New Testament, learn to control your vessels (your bodies) with honor. What helped me was realizing God's purpose for sex is to conceive life (procreation), and when that purpose is negated and sex is used for selfish pleasure, that is what causes problems. So, don't have sex until you are married and want children. It takes effort, but it can be done with God's help and with understanding.
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ParentofChildren
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Hind site, I suggest you two get Justice of the Peace and tell parents. Anyone who has had sex more than once with a women they love has a hard and emotional road to travel. You talk about stopping actually creates mixed messages now. I had the same problem. Please discuss it with her, maybe seek out a wise older friend in confidence. Many couples lose virginity before marriage. For some of us it is our weakness.
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Is your relationship about more than just sex? Most likely it is, but evaluate yourself just to make sure that you were not too hasty in proposing to this woman.
Since you both live with your parents and have college to finish, you might not be ready for married life financially, even if you are spiritually and relationship-wise. With that being said, don't feel too guilty about the fact that you have had sex already, but focus on everything else at the moment. If you get this intense sexual desire all of a sudden, you don't have to get your girlfriend over. Just let it subside or try to touch without thinking of lustful thoughts (it's possible).
But don't get anxious too much about having sinned, or about your future. Just relax and know that God will provide
Since you both live with your parents and have college to finish, you might not be ready for married life financially, even if you are spiritually and relationship-wise. With that being said, don't feel too guilty about the fact that you have had sex already, but focus on everything else at the moment. If you get this intense sexual desire all of a sudden, you don't have to get your girlfriend over. Just let it subside or try to touch without thinking of lustful thoughts (it's possible).
But don't get anxious too much about having sinned, or about your future. Just relax and know that God will provide
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