Struggling with Bisexuality

[dragonbesas]

OK so...i'm bisexual. I go to a Christian school and have many good Christian friends. I read in the bible that it's wrong to practice homosexuality. But...ok so..i want to follow God and obey His word, meaning i'd give up having a girlfriend if that opportunity came around, but at the same time, i want to have a girlfriend.
it's kinda confusing...i'd really appreciate bible verses or thoughts on this. is it really wrong? is the bible timeless, or because times have changed, is is ok to practice homosexuality? is the desire wrong? is it possible to have a healthy, godly relationship with a Christian girlfriend?

 

[Ariel]

Hello dragonbesas,

I believe that when you find a commandment not to do something in several places in the Bible, New Testament as well as Old, it means DON'T DO THAT. In this sense, the Bible is timeless: God is a holy God, the same yesterday, today and forever, Hebrews 13:8. What was prohibited in the New Testament is still prohibited today.

There are many, many verses that speak again homosexuality in the Bible. I will post them in my next post as I need to run my son to school in a few minutes.

But think about it this way: God says He is holy, and commands us to be holy, 1 Peter 1:15. This is a great commandment we can praise God for, because when God commands something, He also helps us to obey. If this wasn't true He would not be just.

Can you be delivered from homosexuality? I believe so, I've known people who have. Will it be easy? No. It will be a fight. But God is for you, He will help you. He doesn't give a commandment and then just leave you on your own.

I am praying for you. (((hug)))

 

[UnitynLove]

Here are some scriptures on homosexuality. Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13, which declare that for a man to "lie with a male as though lying with a woman" is "an abomination."

 

[Ariel]

Bible verses about homosexuality:

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do no be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexual, nor sodomites, nor thieves, not covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such we some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."

See also Romans 1:26-27; Jude 1:7; 2 Peter 2:6

Old Testament verses:

Leviticus 18:22 "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination."

See also Genesis 13:13; 19:5-24; Leviticus 20:13; Judges 19:22; Ezekiel 16:49-50

 

[dragonbesas]

am i an abomination for being bisexual? is the feeling i have for girls a sin? am i sinful?
i really do want to trust and follow God. in fact, a few months ago, i made it my goal to marry a husband, not a wife; i'm willing to give up a wife for God.

 

[Criada]

You are not an abomination, you are a beloved daughter of God.
Temptation is not sin, sister... I know how hard it is, but, your determination to please God is wonderful, and He is proud of you.
God bless you, sweetie.. I am praying for you, and if you need to talk to someone who understands those feelings, please PM me.

 

[UnitynLove]

am i an abomination for being bisexual? is the feeling i have for girls a sin? am i sinful?
i really do want to trust and follow God. in fact, a few months ago, i made it my goal to marry a husband, not a wife; i'm willing to give up a wife for God.

No. Always remember God hates the sin but never the sinner. I think the physical act is the abomination.

 

[John-Phillip]

Its very difficult....you maybe should look for other Christian bisexual women who have worked this out. No point in blasting people with scripture. Hope it works out for you....what I mean is:- in the same way that there isn't much point in single people advising married people how to manage their sex life nor is there any point in a non-alcohol drinker giving advice to an alcoholic, in the same way people who are not tempted in this way are not best qualified to advise. I think that others who have found peace despite their homosexual feelings are in a better position to advise. There is no point I feel in 'bombarding' people with scripture sometimes because it can drive them away feeling unworthy and defeated. The key in all this is to be able to believe that what God gives is better than what we try to give ourselves. Quoting Dr Larry Crabb - we try to 'dig our own wells' rather than rely on gods provision of living water.

 

[girlofmanycolors]

Hi sister , I am a 24 year old Christian woman and I am bisexual as well. Because of my faith I have never acted on those feelings and don't plan to but the feelings are still there. The fact that I am the daughter of a gay man has made my confusion and torment that much worse since I love my dad and he's a great guy despite his sexuality. There are no cut and dried answers here except that Jesus IS the answer. The closer you walk to Him the easier it will be. PM me if you're interested in talking privately. I'd love to be a friend to you.
Debra