Struggling with being single

[MzManda]

I have been struggling lately with being a single christian. I am having trouble with understanding why and I seem to find myself questioning God more than I should. I am currently learning patience through another experience but I don't know if it's enough to help me with this either, lol. But I think what's making it harder for me is that I am a single mom, I am not sure I understand why still or anything... If someone could please help me and give me some incite... or just a few words of encouragement would help

 

[caitlincares]

Praying for you as a single mom.

Feel free to PM me anytime you feel like talking.

 

[gsmithcat]

Oh man! That's a tough situation. I can't even imagine being a single mom!

Here's some scripture that I think is way cool:

Romans 5:3-5
3 Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.

Ok, at first this sounds all crazy like "rejoice in suffering?" But I think it's cool because we don't rejoice because suffering is an enjoyable experience (it's way no fun!), but we rejoice because we have hope from God, which is a hope that does not disappoint!

I'll totally join caitlincares in praying for you!

 

[MzManda]

Thank you very much, just needed some encouraging words and that's what I got, thank you and thank you for praying for me

 

[LionOfJudah]

Greater is He that is in you Romans

I can do all things through Christ that gives me Strength. Phil

Trust in the Lord with all your heart Proverbs


No matter what God loves you and will never ever let you go and is always there for you. you may question Him, your may even doubt Him at times, but He will never doubt or question you, He is here for you, the only constant in this world is Him and His ever abounding love for us.

 

[Xen_Antares]

Although I sometimes find the words difficult to live by, I might share with you some words which have sustained me through long, dark nights of peril, loss, and heartache. And I quote: "Never think that God's delays are God's denials. Hold on, Hold fast, Hold out. Patience is genius."
- Comte Georges Louis Leclerc de Buffon

 

[Captain_Scott]

im about your age dude...and ive been single all my life. So i understand what you feeling. I went to campus crusade tonight, 3 of some of my best friends got engaged over the summer....ugh...i cried inside.

Youll get there though....prayin for ya man!

SS

PS, pm me if you wanna talk some

 

[Nater_Tater]

im about your age dude...and ive been single all my life. So i understand what you feeling. I went to campus crusade tonight, 3 of some of my best friends got engaged over the summer....ugh...i cried inside.

Youll get there though....prayin for ya man!

SS

PS, pm me if you wanna talk some

It's always hard seeing couples get married and think "When will it be my turn."

But when I look at my life right now, I realize that I am TOTALLY not ready to commit to anything execpt work and school right now....I guess what I'm trying to say is, Everything happens in GOD's time...when HE is ready.

 

[MzManda]

I know that things happen in Gods timing. But I know I am ready for a committed relationship. I have been ready for awhile for a committed relationship. Doesn't mean I'm not going to struggle ya know. I am praying about it constantly, I want God's will to be done not mine. But I have my days where I don't know and I question God. I know I should but I do. Most days I am content on being single and waiting for God to bring the right person in my life. But I do know what you mean, some people aren't ready for a committed relationship and I am. That's what makes me struggle more. But yeah, thank you all for your words of encouragement and for praying for me

 

[KeilCoppes]

I don't know the answer, but I understand how it feels.
God has reasons - I just don't know them. In the end we're who we are and He will use it for His glory.

One day at a time, that's all I know.

 

[bubblegirl23]

I bow to you. My cat & dog are enough for me! It's beautiful watching them grow up, but such work!

 

[IDOXLR8]

Ok I just got out of a relationship with a girl with a situation similar to yours. My ex-gf had a child at 17 and dated the father of her child for 4 years. Throughout that time he mistreated her and cheated on her. Well 3 weeks after they broke up she met me and we started dating. I thought everything was great but in fact I was wrong. I fell away from the important things in life and forgot about God. Although my ex-gf and I had so much in common we lacked that most important thing and that was God. We got into petty arguements and eventuall broke up after a year and a half relationship. A few days after we broke she started talking to her ex-bf again. Maybe he has changed but from what I remember he was still playing the same games of lieing.

Are you afraid because you feel that a man will not accept you and your child? If your answer is yes than I will be the first to say that it is not true. Your child a beautiful creation of God and I know you will eventually meet someone that will appreciate that special creation. The most important thing I can tell you is to be patient. Your man will come when God deems you are ready. Right now it is important that you allow God to control your fate. Trust in him and I will guarantee he will not let you down.

 

[wvmtnkid]

's MzManda. I wish I had some answers for me (and for me too! ) I look around at others around me in relationships and I sometimes think what are they doing right and what am I doing wrong? But then I have to remember that if my trust is in the Lord, then I have to trust that I am in the place that He wants me to be in at the moment. I may think that I am ready for a relationship, but there may be something that He has for me to do, or something that He has for me to learn before I can take that next step. I don't believe He withholds something from us just to be mean and cruel. Some verses I read this morning help me to understand this.


[bible]Jeremiah 29:11-13[/bible]

Also in those times when you are struggling, I would also add some verses from Romans. They have really helped me when I felt I was at the end of my rope and I just didn't know how to pray anymore.

[bible]Romans 8:26-27[/bible]

Lifting you in prayer, too!

PS-I read those verses in the NIV-slightly different text, but pretty much the same meaning!

 

[macspetra]

I know that things happen in Gods timing. But I know I am ready for a committed relationship. I have been ready for awhile for a committed relationship. Doesn't mean I'm not going to struggle ya know. I am praying about it constantly, I want God's will to be done not mine. But I have my days where I don't know and I question God. I know I should but I do. Most days I am content on being single and waiting for God to bring the right person in my life. But I do know what you mean, some people aren't ready for a committed relationship and I am. That's what makes me struggle more. But yeah, thank you all for your words of encouragement and for praying for me

I know how you feel. I am so ready for a relationship as well. I enjoy being living by myself, but still wish that I had someone to spend time with. I'm tired of cooking for myself and would love to cook for someone else and make sacrifices for him. My problem is that I feel like I'm getting to selfish right now because I just have to think about me, I don't need to think about anyone else.
I wish that there was some quick fix - but everything happens in time. (Wish I could offer more hope-but can't)

 

[JessB]

There are some good Christian matching sites out there. I am considering using http://www.eharmony.com/ -- but I'd really rather not meet through a 'matching site', that's too cheezy, you know? I am single myself, and I dream of a beautiful future with a wife, children, etc... And I know how rough it is. God bless you, and may both of us find the match we seek some day.

 

[MzManda]

thanks everyone!!