Struggling as a Bisexual

[DifficultPath]

FIRST: Recently I've returned to my faith but I've always been struggling. Honestly, I've never went to church because I'm the closest thing to a Christian in my family; the rest are pretty much atheist.
This has always been a difficult topic for me, but I've fallen in love romantically with a guy and he's Christian as well. He goes to a church and I want to join him eventually but I wanted to do this through being his boyfriend. This is the issue...I've realized that homosexuality is looked down upon in Christianity. Although I probably can fall in love for a woman, I'm head-over-heels for this guy(I'm more physically attracted to men as well) and I pray to God about 3 times a day for help. Many people suggest searching for help but I'm not sure if it will really work. I've never chosen to be attracted to both sexes and I'm not sure if it can really be changed. I'm really lost right now and I don't know what to do @_@. I want to be at least his equal in terms of religion (it doesn't seem he's too serious(kinda sins a lot imo) but he participates in countless church activities.) Any help would be appreciated, thank you!

 

[WillRise]

I'm a gay celibate christian and it's very hard not because of being gay and celibate, but because of lust and loneliness. I kind of lack social skills, I guess. I've grown up to be very anti-social and I don't know how to change it. It's easy to be gay, ops, I mean, what can I do about it? I can't stop being gay, so what I do is pretty much not be with anybody of either gender. But lust it's something hard to struggle with.

About being bisexual, you can't do anything about it. And you have two choices that are considered to be true christian choices so to speak: first one is abstention from sexual activity followed by straight marriage OR celibacy. In all of those you still will have to fight lust in your heart and you should try to get help for that in church.

As a gay man I also have the option of having a straight marriage, but I'd probably get divorced later in life because my wife wouldn't please me in a sexual way. I just don't find women's body sexually attractive in any way. I'd hurt her and probably my children, if I had them. This option is easier for you to make IF and only IF you want a straight committed relationship for life, and I think as a bi guy your wife would be attractive to you in that way.

And celibacy... is the other option.

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Go to church, get baptized and stick with God and Jesus.

 

[DifficultPath]

Alright thank you! I'll see what I can do

 

[faithguy917]

Very interesting story..God doesn't want any of his children falling because of lust or desires of the flesh. I hear you mentioned that you didnt choose to be attracted and you are correct to an extent. You and everyone else in the world DO NOT have control over your mind and your thoughts. God is in full control. See 1 Corinthians 2:9..however satan has been given the right to tempt and test us with thoughts in our minds. We need to have the ability to pick up on when God is putting a thought in your mind and when satan is working. Christ was tempted right after his baptism See Mark 1:9-12.. he was able to differentiate the two voices..we have too! Call on the name of Jesus when you are being tempted and doing a prayer is the best way for a solution. In order for God to listen to your prayer you must ask for forgiveness. See John 9:31. Ask for the holy spirit for guidance.

 

[st24769]

Hi DifficultPath, no joke, but I seriously registered for an account with Christian forums so I could reply to your post. I too am a male bisexual, and unfortunately more attracted to other males more so than women. But there are some girls that I find attraction for. Anyways, the reason I wanted to respond to you is because I was pretty much in the same situation as you in terms of being head over heels for another guy. And when I say head over heels I mean like madlyyyy in love with him. He absolutely had no clue I don't think, I'm closeted so people I guess think I'm straight. Anyways for probably a whole 3 years I don't think even one day had gone by where I didn't think about him and not just sexually, but I wanted to be with him soo bad. He was literally my whole world. We were actually close friends, although I don't think he was that great of a friend to me. I met him in college and he didn't have a car at the time so I would give him rides to just about anywhere he wanted and help him in other ways as well. Basically I was bending over backwards to be there for him whenever he needed me, while at the same time just making it seem like I was a brother that really cared about him instead of someone that likes him. Although, sometimes I wonder if he ever suspected anything. Whenever I needed something from him he would only help if it was a convenience for him, otherwise he would ignore me or make up some excuse. So as you can see it was sort of a one-sided friendship. I remember I used to get so sad if he didn't respond to my texts or things like that. Anyways, while we were in college together he used to text me all the time and we hung out a lot, but the next year we transferred to different schools so I didn't hear much from him. It made me sad because I felt like he only hung out with me and texted me all the time when we first me just so he can use me, but after he was done those texts were only a once in while type thing. Regardless, we still maintained a friendship. However, it got to a point where I needed freedom from this emotional bondage. I knew I couldn't have him and I wanted to get over him so bad, but I just couldn't help the way I feel. One day I posted a prayer online on some Christian website talking about being in love with someone I couldn't have and wanted to get over him. Fortunately, someone did pray for me and gave me an email response. I also, put away certain things that reminded me of him like for example I had a poster that he gave me for my bday which I took off my wall and just put it away so I couldn't see it anymore. I also, decided I wouldn't text him unless he texted me so basically just cut down communication between us. Eventually by God's Grace and God's Grace only I have 100% gotten over him! We still text or keep in touch from time to time on snapchat or whatever, but I definitely am not in love with him anymore! I even look at some of his pics and stuff and wonder how in the world I was in love with him in the first place. I'm not saying I'm not attracted to him no more, but even the sexual attraction I had towards him has diminished. But most importantly I simply don't have the feelings like I used to have towards him anymore. I guess my basic message I wanted to get across to you is that it is most definitely possible to get over this person who you are in love with. I honestly thought I would have to go my whole entire life having these kinds of feelings for him, but I'm telling they are all gone now. I'm hoping now God will make me completely straight so I don't have to be attracted to any more guys ever. But yea, that's what I wanted to tell you. I already prayed for you this morning that you would get over this guy, but remember it's up to you on whether or not you are ready to get over him, and then let God take care of the rest.

 

[susie12345]

Luke 1:37


37 For nothing is impossible with God

He can heal you if you let Him