Dear Struggler,
I will be praying for you as well. You know, you've been hurt so much by so many people... Their selfishness and their own torment has touched your life in a way that few if any could understand or comprehend. But I am assured that the Lord identifies with you... He really knows your deepest woundings, and the fact that you are searching for help, searching to understand, searching to find healing at CF (and in other ways, I imagine), is a good indication that you WILL find help, you WILL find healing, you WILL come to a place of understanding yourself, and most of all, you WILL be used by the Lord to bring healing to so many others who will suffer their own abuse stories.
I think if you examine same sex brokenness, you already know, by your own conscience, that something isn't right about it. When you are in that situation and practice it, your conscience issues a warning to you that you've crossed a line, that you need to go back across that line to be safe.
Did you know that the Bible talks about conscience quite extensively? Over 25 times in the New Testament. If you're not a believer in Christ, it is a bit more difficult, but even nonbelievers will have a sense when they do something that is "wrong."
GOD loves us, but He will not force His love upon us, nor force us to obey Him. He is a gentleman who only comes when He is invited. The fact is, we can invite Him to leave our lives, to open the door, see Him depart, and shut the door loud as He goes out. And this is described in Romans 1 & 2 when the apostle Paul writes that God can give people over to the mindset that they want to have.... If you want to be a homosexual, or an adulterer, or a fornicator, or a drunk, God will allow you to go into those things, to practice them, to even enjoy such a lifestyle. But this is in itself a deception that originates from our own flesh, and the enemy of God, the unseen forces that seek to enslave and destroy us. The deception says you are all right, that you can do it because it "feels right," because you were "born that way," because you are a victim of abuse, etc. But it is still deception that leads to great suffering and misery, and eventually, eternal separation from Him and all that is good.
Read Romans 1 & 2 for yourself. There are other passages, but the point of it is that we can either couple ourselves with Him, or try to walk life's journey without Him. We are the ones who have been designated the power to choose. We have been given a limited power to choose, but that choice is huge. It is important to choose wisely what we will do, for it will lead to our eternal destiny.
You may be tempted till you die regarding same sex brokenness. But that does not mean you must comply with those temptations. You must obey the Lord first and foremost. You may always be tempted, but temptation is not sin. As long as you reject temptation's advances, you will remain close to the Lord.
When you are tempted, often it is because you feel a need to feel something...like to feel loved, to shake off that numbness of life, or just plain boredom that we suffer. Whatever the core reasons, we need to learn to run to the Father in Heaven... He is Abba to you, sweet sister. He will take you into His arms, by the Spirit, and release His love upon you. He is quick to forgive you, but never take advantage of His generosity or His grace. Run to Him when you feel wounded, empty, hurt. Run to Him even more when you awaken from a nightmare or when the past's painful memories paralyze you. Run to Him... His throne is a throne of grace...
I'm praying for you... I care about your life, even though I don't know you. As I wrote this, as I read your question, I felt a burden for you... Thus my response. If I feel this way toward you whom I've never met, never seen, how much more must the LORD love you and care for you. Perhaps He is using my words to reach to you..to tell you that YOU ARE SPECIAL, that your past is the past...that you CAN overcome, to go forward, to never look back, to use the pain and works of darkness so that they glorify your God, so that they help others who have also been violated. Our Lord died upon the Cross... He understood the utter hellish loneliness upon that tree... Remember, He became the curse. He became sin for us...
And one more thing... You must forgive those who hurt you. This may seem impossible. And it is, without God's supernatural power working in you. You must see those people as Christ sees them. Don't worry...God will judge them thoroughly. But pray that God's mercy and grace would reach them... Release them (and yourself) of any unforgiveness, hatred, or bitterness. This is a big part of being able to move forward and allow the past to be less impacting in the present and future of your life.
I am, in the LORD, your friend,
Sean
And there is always hope when we run to Him. 
