strugging with hating someone

[aflower4God]

I know that I said I would only stick to my blog on the Christian Forums blog section as in vent only there, but I felt the need to vent I know this. I know it is unchristian-like to hate, but I actually hate someone, I mean hate! I pray that God forgives me for my hatred, but you see that guy who used me threw away a pillow that I hand made JUST for him and he showed no remorse about throwing it away (no sorry from him, nothing), and his reasoning behind throwing it away is cause he "was angry at me". He is the reason I hate most men, he is the reason I will never date again and now he is the reason I hate him I mean I know we should hate the sin and love the sinner but I don't feel that in my heart towards this guy, I genuinely hate him. He is one of those who tries so hard to look good in front of others and some people don't see the evil jerk he really is, but my close friends know all about him and know how much of a jerk he really is. I hope that everyone will get to see the jerk that he is I PRAY at least, he is SO much a wolf in sheep's skin well a wolf using sheepish words! NO JOKE I hate everything about this man, HE IS A JERK!
PLEASE I don't need harsh words towards me about this cause I ALREADY KNOW that Hate is NOT of God.
Please, I just need prayers to learn to not hate ANYONE!
Another person I can't stand to the core is my mother, she wants nothing to do with me and she thinks I am a loser, her ignoring me says it all, but I don't hate her, thinking of the way she treats me makes me just hate myself!
Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[ToBeBlessed]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Learning that someone is not the friend we thought they were is hard.

I pray that the Lord helps you come to a place of peace.

 

[aflower4God]

Such a weak reply.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Learning that someone is not the friend we thought they were is hard.

I pray that the Lord helps you come to a place of peace.

Thank you both God bless you both

 

[God Is Immortal]

There once was this dog that came up to me. It came right up, and I picked it up and placed it upon my lap. I tried to play with it but it would just ignore me. I even tried to find it's soft spot, didn't work. Truth is, it only wanted onto my lap so that it could get closer to its master.



It barely ever looked at me. I was wasting my time. It just stood there..staring at her...

 

[Jeshu]

Oh Flower it is hard to love our enemies isn't? Especially when they rejected us or our presents to them. Evil people can be so cruel isn't it?

Still I would pray for this person Flower and pray for myself, that the hate would turn to love and I would be free of such strong negative emotions.

Fight the hate Flower please don't let it destroy your good life it ain't worth it.

 

[pink kitty]

(((((flower)))))

 

[aflower4God]

Oh Flower it is hard to love our enemies isn't? Especially when they rejected us or our presents to them. Evil people can be so cruel isn't it?

Still I would pray for this person Flower and pray for myself, that the hate would turn to love and I would be free of such strong negative emotions.

Fight the hate Flower please don't let it destroy your good life it ain't worth it.

Thank you my dear sweet brother for your awesome advice!!!! The best I can do is avoid this guy at all cost so I don't have to be reminded of him. Besides he wronged me for 2 years. I was told by a friend that I should feel sorry for this guy as the guy who threw my pillow away once told me that he brutally beat up with five solid punches an old roommate of his who is dating the girl he is in love with. The reason I should feel sorry for him is that he has a lot of anger issues and it is obvious with the way he was so violent towards his old roommate. God bless you dear bro ((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))) to you my friend.

(((((flower)))))

Awww Thank you so much my dear sweet sis ((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))))))) to you

 

[Criada]

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[Criada]

Forgiveness is really hard, Flower - it helps though to remember all that God has forgiven us for.
I have had trouble forgiving people who harmed me in the past, but is find that if I keep praying for them and asking God to show me how He sees them, it is possible.
Praying that God guides and strengthens you to let go of the hurt : hug:

 

[High Fidelity]

Forgiveness is very hard. I was and, if I'm brutally honest with myself, still quite unforgiving, but I'm working on that.

What I typically ask myself is what the hatred or anger achieves? It doesn't make the situation any better and, if anything, it makes it worse for us, not them.

 

[RuthD]

(((((flower)))))) I love you dear sweet sister. I hope you get all the love in the world from now on. I've had so much anger directed at me lately it made me feel hate, too. I know what it feels like dear sister. Maybe if people started loving you more you'd be okay. I know the same goes for me. Love you sister!!

 

[aflower4God]

(((((flower)))))) I love you dear sweet sister. I hope you get all the love in the world from now on. I've had so much anger directed at me lately it made me feel hate, too. I know what it feels like dear sister. Maybe if people started loving you more you'd be okay. I know the same goes for me. Love you sister!!

(((((((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))) to you my dear sweet sister Ruthie! Thank you so much for your kind loving words and you totally deserve A LOT of love, you have a HUGE kind tender heart! I pray you find love. Thank you for being a great friend to me sweet sis, love ya lots!

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Praying for you sis.

Love you sis.

 

[brinny]

bless yer heart, precious....we've all been there. Our feelings don't turn on and off like a faucet. We have real feelings coming from real places in our heart n' soul and from places that are wounded and hurt and are raw. God's grace is ABLE. Yes, venting is healthy. It's how we work out all that we have inside. Powerful hurting = powerful feelings in response to the hurting. Soooooo glad you posted. God WILL move in your heart, mind, and spirit as hE sees fit and in HIs timing. TRUST HIm in ALL of this. Lay it ALL out at His feet. He knows you are hurt. And THAT is what HE focuses on most. He LOVES you. YOu are a most precious, beloved daughter of the Most High God. He is a GOOD Shepherd, and HE WILL guide you through this and minister to your heart, mind, and spirit as only He can. Praying (((hug)))

 

[miss-a]

Flower,

You have a very dear and sweet heart and a very powerful Father God. He is faithful to complete the good work He started in you. He will bring you to a place of forgiveness.

Your dear sweet heart has been hurt, and it takes time to get over that. I'm very sorry this guy did not see your value. It has happened to me before. You are not alone in this. It is not a reflection on you or me, but on those who could not see our value.

Hang in there with Jesus, the one Who values you greatly, and He will bring you to forgiveness and healing. Tell Him all about and ask Him to lift the burden. He knows all about it, but He loves hearing from you because He loves you so much.

Prayers for you,
a

 

[Chococat]

I know that I said I would only stick to my blog on the Christian Forums blog section as in vent only there, but I felt the need to vent I know this. I know it is unchristian-like to hate, but I actually hate someone, I mean hate! I pray that God forgives me for my hatred, but you see that guy who used me threw away a pillow that I hand made JUST for him and he showed no remorse about throwing it away (no sorry from him, nothing), and his reasoning behind throwing it away is cause he "was angry at me". He is the reason I hate most men, he is the reason I will never date again and now he is the reason I hate him I mean I know we should hate the sin and love the sinner but I don't feel that in my heart towards this guy, I genuinely hate him. He is one of those who tries so hard to look good in front of others and some people don't see the evil jerk he really is, but my close friends know all about him and know how much of a jerk he really is. I hope that everyone will get to see the jerk that he is I PRAY at least, he is SO much a wolf in sheep's skin well a wolf using sheepish words! NO JOKE I hate everything about this man, HE IS A JERK!
PLEASE I don't need harsh words towards me about this cause I ALREADY KNOW that Hate is NOT of God.
Please, I just need prayers to learn to not hate ANYONE!
Another person I can't stand to the core is my mother, she wants nothing to do with me and she thinks I am a loser, her ignoring me says it all, but I don't hate her, thinking of the way she treats me makes me just hate myself!
Thanks for letting me vent.

I can relate to what you said dear sister as I fell out with a couple of friends a few years back as you probably remember me telling you and for a long time even after I had cut ties with them I was very bitter and angry towards them because they had hurt me so much. I too find it very hard to forgive people who hurt me. What I did was pray for them and pray constantly for the Lord to help me forgive them and, although it didn't happen overnight, eventually my anger and bitterness disappeared.

As for your mother it is obvious she has a lot of problems herself so it sounds like all you can do is let her go and pray for her as well. From what you've told me in the past she did not get a lot of love when she was growing up so that's probably why she finds it hard to give love to others. Meanwhile look forward to hearing from you soon

 

[brinny]

(((((hug)))))

 

[aflower4God]

I still am struggling with hate towards that guy. I (very recently) found out that he is with a girl much younger than I (by several years) and she has darker hair as he told me that he always was hot for a girl who had long dark hair who is a big time flirt. The good thing about him is that I am becoming more like an angel, I really do think I am asexual but I will not know for sure until I can afford to go to a counselor and talk more in death about this topic.
He NEVER thought I was pretty, he was only with me cause he liked the attention as he needs attention in my opinion. So maybe being with a guy is not for me, NO I am not gay so that leaves me a sexual. Maybe I have been hurt so badly by men that I am no longer attracted to men, it is no use I get rejected. Oh well, there are much better things to think about in life than a man TRUST ME, men are the last thing on my mind at this point in my life.

 

[BlessedMommy05]

I know how you feel, I have some un-forgiveness towards my ex, working on that myself for the divroce n all but I am also trying to forgive myself as well for my mistakes. I think its one thing that you love some one and they do the un-thinkable at least to us who are close to them and go wow, never seen like Dr Jekle and Mr Hyde. Exactly what I had and still deal with at times. One thing though I am SLOWLY (Forgive the caps) is learning I can only change myself and how I act towards him and other "men" in my life.

Me personally, I am trying and this is part of one advice and support so you can take it or what not with this... Accept what is/have happened. You cant change someone only that person wants to change. Trust me I learned that, and its not over night nor a long term thing either, but takes time. As the Bible tells us. Change what we can and accept what we can not change.

Also another peice as well, unforgiaveness can in my personal opinion others may very on this thought but it does give power to them that they have some measure of control over you that they go oh youre still mad or upset ect.. Dont let anyone but God to have the control over who you are in Christ and as a person. The only way someone has control is you submit your will and control to them or by allowing it...

So those are the two I'm learning and still dealing every day, but through love and support and prayer to God I can find peace evenatually. I pray you do as well ((Hugs))

 

[aflower4God]

I know how you feel, I have some un-forgiveness towards my ex, working on that myself for the divroce n all but I am also trying to forgive myself as well for my mistakes. I think its one thing that you love some one and they do the un-thinkable at least to us who are close to them and go wow, never seen like Dr Jekle and Mr Hyde. Exactly what I had and still deal with at times. One thing though I am SLOWLY (Forgive the caps) is learning I can only change myself and how I act towards him and other "men" in my life.

Me personally, I am trying and this is part of one advice and support so you can take it or what not with this... Accept what is/have happened. You cant change someone only that person wants to change. Trust me I learned that, and its not over night nor a long term thing either, but takes time. As the Bible tells us. Change what we can and accept what we can not change.

Also another peice as well, unforgiaveness can in my personal opinion others may very on this thought but it does give power to them that they have some measure of control over you that they go oh youre still mad or upset ect.. Dont let anyone but God to have the control over who you are in Christ and as a person. The only way someone has control is you submit your will and control to them or by allowing it...

So those are the two I'm learning and still dealing every day, but through love and support and prayer to God I can find peace evenatually. I pray you do as well ((Hugs))

Thank you so much my dear sweet loving sister for this advice. I do pray for God to help me not hate this guy as I think he is the worst person in my life. He is older than me too. I had so many friends online and my best friend tell me that this guy was bad news but I didn't listen and kept on going into his web of abuse, my best friend likes most people but she could not stand this guy, she thought he was truly evil indeed. See he told me how he use fist fight with his old roommate (who is seriously dating a woman he has crushed on for years), he even RECENTLY told me a time when he was younger and still in school about how he use to bully kids and take their food (lunches) RIGHT OUT OF THEIR HANDS and how he made one kid cry and then pushed them on the ground, I was SO disgusted by that, I wish he told me that he was a bully before I would have NEVER talked to him in the first place!. He even once told me how (when he was in his late teens/early 20's) he sold his soul to get all the of the ladies but tried to come to God. The reason I am telling you this is cause I AM TRULY CONVINCED that the devil sent this guy into my life to destroy it. BUT I am not going to let the devil win nor will I allow this guy to win. He is truly evil for what he did to me. I pray for his soul every day. I am not going to allow this man OR ANY MAN make me feel ugly cause I don't have dark hair. In fact, I was told the other day, by my landlords mother in law that I was beautiful and she is beautiful herself. That really made me feel good. SO you see this guy may be full of evil, in my opinion, and is trying to do the devil's work to make me feel UGLY by dumping me for a girl several years young with dark hair, but God sent this woman (landlords mother in law) my way to tell me WHAT GOD thinks of me (and all of his children), beautiful!
(((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))) to you sweet sis