We have a woman in our church who has become very nasty and rude with several people in our congregation. The sad part is, she is our church (volunteer) secretary and has managed to "fool" our Pastor and other important people (elders, etc.) into thinking she is a very sweet, nice person.
She has become very combative and argumentative. When none of the church officials are around she becomes very demanding, pushy, and almost intimidating at times. The amount of venom that comes out of her is overwhelming. She is a massive control freak all the way down to the last detail - including having to drive everywhere she goes with people and picking out the restaurant we eat at.
It has gotten to the point where I and several others of us in the church, basically avoid her so as not to get another butt-chewing from her, usually for something we have nothing to do with nor any control over.
We feel she has taken her (volunteer) job as our church secretary completely out of context. She has assumed authority where she doesn't have it. And basically walks around "barking" orders at different people when the Pastor is out of earshot.
Several of us have caught her lying, as well as going behind the Pastor's back and making decisions she should not be making. She has even undercut some of us in our ministries - she makes decisons for us without consulting with us and giving us a headsup.
Three of us get the distinct impression she has a major "thing" for our Pastor -who by the way is married - because of some things we have witnessed.
We have tried to talk to her face-to-face as the bible says to, but it has thus far been to no avail. She becomes very combative and defensive and there is just no talking to her about it. With one of us, she "appeared" to have atoned for her sin against that person, then turned around and started several problems with her just after that.
We have prayed and prayed; studied the Word on strife, dissension, and contention in the church - but we are still leary of contacting the Pastors and the Elders about this. I know how easily she has fooled them so far.
At first I just thought it was me she had difficulty with but then just over the last week or so, three other people have come to me and told me similar stories like I went through, with her in my ministry.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you and God Bless!
She has become very combative and argumentative. When none of the church officials are around she becomes very demanding, pushy, and almost intimidating at times. The amount of venom that comes out of her is overwhelming. She is a massive control freak all the way down to the last detail - including having to drive everywhere she goes with people and picking out the restaurant we eat at.
It has gotten to the point where I and several others of us in the church, basically avoid her so as not to get another butt-chewing from her, usually for something we have nothing to do with nor any control over.
We feel she has taken her (volunteer) job as our church secretary completely out of context. She has assumed authority where she doesn't have it. And basically walks around "barking" orders at different people when the Pastor is out of earshot.
Several of us have caught her lying, as well as going behind the Pastor's back and making decisions she should not be making. She has even undercut some of us in our ministries - she makes decisons for us without consulting with us and giving us a headsup.
Three of us get the distinct impression she has a major "thing" for our Pastor -who by the way is married - because of some things we have witnessed.
We have tried to talk to her face-to-face as the bible says to, but it has thus far been to no avail. She becomes very combative and defensive and there is just no talking to her about it. With one of us, she "appeared" to have atoned for her sin against that person, then turned around and started several problems with her just after that.
We have prayed and prayed; studied the Word on strife, dissension, and contention in the church - but we are still leary of contacting the Pastors and the Elders about this. I know how easily she has fooled them so far.
At first I just thought it was me she had difficulty with but then just over the last week or so, three other people have come to me and told me similar stories like I went through, with her in my ministry.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you and God Bless!
