Originally posted by Nucleon
You have it out of context
Well, please explain what it means in context then. Thanks.
God doesn't destroy anybody anymore
God is immutable. When He destroyed people before, it was a righteous act. His Law did not change. When you say "destroy" what do you mean? Even if you think that we choose not to "accept" God of our own "free-will" what do you think God will do with those that don't "accept" Him? Do you consider being condemned to an eternity of torment not being destroyed?
so God abhors them, it doesn't say their fate is sealed.
I never said that their fate was sealed. God can, and does, change the heart of all of us
that are saved, from being His enemy to being His beloved. But,
if God does not change their heart they will continue to be His enemy and will, therefore, perish.
When Jesus came to die for our sins, things changed.
How so?

The path to salvation was always the same.
Un believers will be cast into the lake of fire, not destroyed
Even if this is the final disposition of the damned, don't you think that's being destroyed?
in the OT, yes God was disgusted and flooded the world, he promised to never do that again.
The state of humanity was no surprise to God. It's not like He said, "You guys all turned out bad even though I expected you to turn out righteous." And, He didn't promise not to do it again because He felt like He'd made a mistake. God never makes mistakes. His reason, whatever it is, for choosing to never do it again was just as righteous as His reason for doing it in the first place.
God sent Jesus and promises ALL that believe in him will have eternal life.
I agree completely. However, I'm saying that the only ones that believe in Him will be the ones He gives the necessary grace to do so. The fallen heart will never believe in God or accept His authority of it's own "free will" because it's will is not free, it is enslaved to a fallen, depraved, totally evil and sinful nature. The fallen man will
always choose according to it's fallen nature. This negates the possibility of "choosing" God before He chooses you and changes your heart from fallen to regenerate.
God knowing our fate and predestining our fate are 2 different things
I agree and have never said otherwise. One (knowing our fate) is omniscience, the other (predestining our fate) is omnipotence or sovereignty. God, however, is both.
and I believe someone asked you to explain how this unfair God CHOOSES his victims?
I'm going to respond this under the assumption that you didn't mean it nearly as sarcastic as it came across. I believe I answered that question
here. As far as being "unfair," what would be "fair" in your opinion? Here is the reality of mankind and you share with me what you think would be fair:
Adam, a representative for all mankind, sinned against God's righteous Law. As a result, he, and all mankind after him, inherited a fallen nature. This means they were spiritually dead and separated from God. They could not do anything that would reconcile them to God. God had to do something to change the relationship. His Law was righteous and He said that the "wages of sin are death." Someone
righteous HAD TO DIE for the sins of mankind. Since no man was righteous He had to send Jesus.
Only He could be an acceptable sacrifice, a propitiation for our sins because
only He had never sinned.
Now at this point comes the crux of understanding God's righteousness. Jesus' death reconciled God's elect. It's important to understand what it means to be a propitiation. And, it's important to acknowledge what it means to "be reconciled."
To be reconciled means "to restore to friendship or harmony." Obviously not everyone who ever lived, or will live has been restored to a state of "friendship or harmony" with God. Further, a propitiation is "an atoning sacrifice." So, Jesus atoned for the sins of those that were restored to friendship or harmony with God. It is also important to note that the atonement was sufficient. No where in God's Word does it say that His death needed action on our part to make that transaction complete. The mere fact that we can now desire to live according to His righteous Word is proof that we were change by His sacrifice, not our desire.
Now, since no person that has been made righteous by Jesus' death will perish, the death afforded to those who have not been made righteous is deserved. They couldn't keep God's commandments without His grace. If they could, they wouldn't go to hell. They would deserve to go to heaven. No one, except Jesus, ever kept His commandments so what is fair is that everyone deserves to go to hell. It easy to see in this form:
We all sin. Therefore we have broken His Law. The
deserved penalty for that transgression is death. He said if we break
one commandment we are guilty of breaking all of them (James 2:10). Therefore, everyone deserved death. That would have been fair. It is even better understood in this way:
Justice - Getting what you deserve (this would equate to all of mankind dying because we sin)
Mercy - Not getting what you deserve (this would equate to not dying because we sin)
Grace - Getting what you
don't deserve (this would equate to being granted eternal life in Heaven)
You see, if you are saved because
YOU chose to submit to God then what do you deserve? Eternal life, right? Justice for you would be eternal life. However, even though the fallen man would never choose to willingly submit to God, He saved some. Is that fair? Is that Justice? No. The fact that He gives some "what they don't deserve" makes us saved by His grace, not our actions. Our actions are a result of His grace.
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I hope I have.
God bless.