strained relationship w my mum

[iamnew]

hi everyone,

i'm a new christian...only abt 2 weeks old...and i have a problem... i hope to find some help here...

my mum doesnt approve of me becoming a christian...(she's of another religion, and i was for the 20yrs of my life...)..and now because i go to church and stuff, she feels like she's losing me as her daughter. she tells me she's very sad that i don't listen to her anymore, and that i do not tell her things anymore... but the fact is that i still do in general (at least i think so)....

i listen to her, other than with regards to going to church and all, because i believe i have to stand firm in this, am i right? i will continue to pray for her and i believe that she will be saved one day, but right now i just feel bad for hurting her so much and being the disappointment which she thinks i am...what should i do? how should i approach this problem??? anyone who's experienced this before?

god bless!

 

[inHisgrip]

I am so sorry you have to go through this.
But, welcome to the family of God!
We are told that we will be unliked because of our faith.
I have not expereinced what you are going through, but I would definetly suggest to continue praying for her, and as you grow in Christ, you will be able to share.
One thing to remember is that it is her issue, not yours. Let her know you love her and continue to share with her.
Best to you
In Him

 

[bliz]

Make a point of doing some mother/daughter things above and beyond what you usually do right now while she is getting used to the idea. When she sees that you still value her, still honor her and still desire to spend time with her she will be more accepting. Girls day at the spa? Make your own pottery places where you could each make the other a special item?

 

[Rafael]

Yes, please your mother in other ways. Love and honor her, but the Bible says that this will happen. Bliz is right. Show honor and love to your mother as best you can, but remember who your First love and Redeemer is.

Mat.10:35 I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
36 Your enemies will be right in your own household!
37 If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine; or if you love your son or daughter more than me, you are not worthy of being mine.

 

[KleinerApfel]

iamnew,
welcome, and what a sweet name - I love it!

I could be wrong, but I'm guessing that you might be at an age where your mother just feels she's losing you to the "big world out there" anyway, regardless of religion, althought that has become the major focus of it.

The advice so far is excellent and I'd agree:
make sure she knows you still love and respect her;
spend a little time with her when possible; and gently but firmly continue to assert yourself as you have been regarding your need to worship God and liveHis way.

God bless, Susana

 

[Jessica Lauren]

Just pray that she'll come to understand, and don't give up.

 

[iamnew]

my sincere thanks to every one of you... yes i will take your advice and continue to keep her in prayer!
God bless!!!

 

[rainbowprism]

Iamnew.... my family didn't respond very enthusiatically to my becoming a Christian. To be honest, I believe it is becauase non-Christians usually only hear or know about the "stereotypical" Christians, meaning wierd people that are always yelling about going to hell or just generally not living life in accordance to thier faith. Just work really hard on developing your new found faith...you dop't have to convince your mother you can just show her the change its brought in your life. Important piece of advice, never let your mother draw you into a heated argument about your faith....be gentle and firm and take timeouts if nessacary.

For some encouragement, here a little story and it's true! My mother has watched my faith grow and has seen an improvement in me in the past year....she recently gave her life to the Lord one month ago tommorow. God can do amazing things!

 

[iamnew]

wow rainbowprism!

i'm completely exhilirated for you! you must be really happy! well, this good news which u have shared with me has really made my day! God really has His plans! it's so wonderful!
thank you for the advice, i will continue to pray well, i'm glad my mum seems to be pretty ok right now...in fact she even took a look at my "daily bread" (even though she didnt read it...) well, but i suppose that's a start!

it's really encouraging to know that i am not alone experiencing such a situation...and i will continue to have faith!
May God bless you and your mum!

and to everyone reading this too...