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Stop Wasting yourself! (1)

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Hey guys!

I have decided to write this little article to inspire your struggle against masturbation. I am 19 and started that at the age of 16. My strugle was lasting for 3 years and I can STATE that with God's grace I have finally managed to get rid of that. Here, I would like to share my own point of view. (All these facts are based on my own experience)

Many people say that M helps you to relieve your sexual drive. First of all, this drive "resides" in our own mind. You dont really need to M in order to escape it. Simple distraction techniques like prayer,reading,music e.t.c can help you with ease. Sexual drive is normal to all and there is nothing wrong with that. However, if you abuse it, depravity will be inescapable

In addition,other people essert that M can be done without lust. Well, I also thought like this,however lust in inevitable in this case. I tried not to think about well you know... but,filthy images came to my head in all cases. Even if I didnt created them on my own. The main reason is that, this act(M) stimulates your drive which starts to create additional sources in order to "boost" yourself.

Overmore, according to some researchers, M inst mentioned Bibile, so it's permited and there is nothing wrong with it. Hmmm Lets check this chain. God gave us sexuality( I mean in health way/meaning) so we could SHARE I repeat again SHARE and I repeat 3rd time SHARE our love with partner i.e wife/husband. In contrast, what do we have in case of M? sexuality->only you->and? NOTHING. Natural chain is broken. Instead of caring of your partner, you ONLY FOCUS on yourself. You were supposed to LOVE(in pure way) This leads to anti social behavior. YES IT'S true! When I was M for a long time, I was thinking only of myself. I didnt care of other mates, people. I knew one thing for sure. Nothing esle will never disturb me. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE LIKE THIS? Even if you still contact with your friends, your mind automatically looks for things in order to get sexual arosal.

Sometimes people believe that M eliminates sperm,which is produced by our body. However,there are so called "wet dreams" or nocturnal emissions. You dont need artificial things to eliminate your sperm. Thus, you cant justify M in this way.

Many teenagers (like me) think that"hmm Once per week is ok! I will never do more and everything will go FINE" Little by little, M will turn into addiction. YOU CANT avoid this stage. I tried many times, however this "once" will turn into "twice" and... In consequence,you wont be able to control yourself.


In the first part I wanted to present common concepts about M. Human always blames external factors, God or anything else, in order to justify troubles which happened to him. However, if you look inside, all these problems come from us. In my opinion, christians should never M. As I stated it takes us away from God. M is a dark arrow which separates us from normal view of the world, which was created by God. If one doesnt M, his worldview will change immediately.

In the second part( I will post in a few days) I will show some useful ways to defeat this enemy!

God Bless You!

 
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