Stillbirth

[christinerm]

Has anyone here dealt with a stillbirth? My son was born still at 34 weeks, just this past december.

Christine

 

[lovesdolphins]

Oh honey - I am SOOOO sorry. I have not personally dealt with it - I cannot imagine the pain you are going thru. I will pray for you.

 

[RenFaireSprite]

I have not personally experienced stillbirth, but I have miscarried. A few weeks ago my brother and his wife arrived at the hospital overjoyed and in labor at term, only to find out the baby had passed before delivery was complete. It has been heartbreaking for our entire family - and we continue to reach out to them in love and support. They have their son's memories displayed in their home - footprints, photo, ceramic casting of his little hand. He is their son, he is in Heaven now and they will be with him someday - but they are actively grieving right now.

I am praying for you!!! I know how hurt you are right now. I will pray that you have a strong support system of family and friends, and you are able to work through your grief. Make sure you find someone you can talk to - it helps to have someone who cares, and who will just listen when you need to talk about it. If you ever want to chat, you are more than welcome to PM me.

Hugs to you - you are in my thoughts and prayers!

 

[christinerm]

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother and sister-in-law's loss. I understand the feeling of being completely shocked that your baby is not longer living inside of you. I couldn't believe it when my doctor could not find my son's heartbeat. It had been so strong at every appointment. I have my son's memories displayed in my home as well. I have pictures, hand and foot prints, a lock of his hair, and a beautiful heart shaped urn with his tiny little ashes. I also have some of his ultrasound photos displayed as well. I think it's good to have those out in the open.

Zane will always be a part of my life. He is and always will be my first son.

 

[RenFaireSprite]

Yes - I think it is good, too! I'm so glad you have your memories in the open. I spoke with another member who has a brother 3 years older than she is - he was stillborn, and she never "knew" him in life, but they celebrate his birthday every year, and talk about how old he would be now, and what he would be doing - and so, he has been "alive" in her life, for her entire life. It's important to keep your baby's memory alive - for he exists.

When I miscarried, I spoke with a grandparent that lost a grandchild not long before my loss. The little 2 year old loved to run around picking handfuls of flowers and giving them joyfully to everyone around. This grandparent was so thankful her granddaughter will never know they were only weeds -

It's so painful that these little ones are not here with us now, to hold close... but it is some comfort knowing they will never know pain or heartache, and they will never know "weeds". Only the love and beauty in the arms of our Saviour, and one day we will be there, too.

God bless you - I hold you in my thoughts and prayers!

 

[JudyB1169]

I am not a mom, but I still feel grief over women who lose their babies. I know you will see and hold your son one day when you go Home. I know that doesn't do much for the pain you are currently feeling. I will pray God's comfort floods your heart.

 

[heatherq17]

I am so sorry for your loss!!
My son was stillborn two years ago. I was 37 weeks along! If you ever want to talk feel free to message me! ((Hugs))

 

[FaithfulWife]

I'm so sorry. I also lost a son at 34 weeks and it was so devastating. He was so very lively and heartbeat was so strong and then just gone. At first the shock was so numbing--it just COULDN'T be happening--and then the numbness wore off. I'll be praying for you and if you ever want to talk, please feel free to PM me any time.

 

[AnchoredInChrist]

I lost a daughter at 20 weeks and it was so devastating. They termed it a stillbirth even though her heart was beating and continued to for quite a while. Her lungs were not developed enough for them to help her. I truly felt helpless and was devastated at her loss. But God has given me strength and I am reminded often that she is in heaven with our Savior, she never had to know any pain or heartache. I will be praying for you and asking God to comfort you as only He can during this time!!

 

[synsi]

I also had a still born at 34 weeks on May 29, 2008. It still is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. I miss my baby girl so much and it hurts so bad. I can't wait until the day comes when we are reunited in heaven.

 

[JesusFreak2008]

Kalleigh was stillborn at around 32 weeks. She was due September 11th, but was stillborn on June 15th 2008. Previously I have had 3 miscarraiges..