Still feeling unlovable

[unlovable1]

I had gotten out of a difficult situation recently. I had been feeling so desperate that I was at the point of saying yes to almost anything.

I feel I scared off the one person who might like me and that I won't be given another chance. I feel like I'll be alone forever. I feel like a loser.

Even though I keep trying to stop thinking about all the times I've been rejected, I can't seem to and I feel like I'm too ugly for anyone else to have a chance of finding anyone else, even though it doesn't make sense,

 

[NickCamp]

Everything will be okay. Use this to grow in faith.

My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you.
Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways.
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image.
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake,
for all your days are written in my book.
Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth
and where you would live.
Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother's womb.
Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.
Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented
by those who don't know me.
John 8:41-44

I am not distant and angry,
but am the complete expression of love.
1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.
1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child
and I am your Father.
1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.
Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.
Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.
James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.
Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3

My thoughts toward you are countless
as the sand on the seashore.
Psalm 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.
Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.
Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you
with all my heart and all my soul.
Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.
Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart,
you will find me.
Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you
the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.
Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you
than you could possibly imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you
in all your troubles.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted,
I am close to you.
Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb,
I have carried you close to my heart.
Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away
every tear from your eyes.
Revelation 21:3-4

And I'll take away all the pain
you have suffered on this earth.
Revelation 21:3-4

I am your Father, and I love you
even as I love my son, Jesus.
John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.
John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.
Hebrews 1:3

He came to demonstrate that I am for you,
not against you.
Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression
of my love for you.
1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved
that I might gain your love.
Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus,
you receive me.
1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you
from my love again.
Romans 8:38-39

Come home and I'll throw the biggest party
heaven has ever seen.
Luke 15:7

I have always been Father,
and will always be Father.
Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is...
Will you be my child?
John 1:12-13

I am waiting for you.
Luke 15:11-32

Love, Your Dad
Almighty God

 

[Jeshu]

I advised you last time, and this time again, to drop this whole emotional upheaval at His feet and leave it there.

And have you considered preparation time? Spend this time on your character, be at your very best, if you got loose ends then tie them up. Be ready, not desperate, a woman runs a mile when she meets a desperate man, but ready to meet the woman of your dreams.

Some men are not ready to get married, generally women avoid them, the same as men generally avoid women who are not ready to get married.

Be wise let Jesus fix this all up for you, would He not know best?

 

[Chris G]

Stay strong, friend.
If all else fails, just know that at least a stranger on the internet cares for you. And I will pray that you can feel more loved; cause I'm sure you are - even if it often doesn't feel like it.

Best of luck,

 

[chrisstavrous]

I had gotten out of a difficult situation recently. I had been feeling so desperate that I was at the point of saying yes to almost anything.

I feel I scared off the one person who might like me and that I won't be given another chance. I feel like I'll be alone forever. I feel like a loser.

Even though I keep trying to stop thinking about all the times I've been rejected, I can't seem to and I feel like I'm too ugly for anyone else to have a chance of finding anyone else, even though it doesn't make sense,

Heres my thoughts on what I think ugly means. The messure of attraction is not the same for all people, whats ugly for one person is beautiful for another and whats beautiful to many is plain to some.

 

[miss-a]

Yes, Jesus has so much love for you. We all have times when we cannot feel it. These are times when faith is built. We walk by faith not by sight. In those times, for me, it's important to keep the truth always in front of me. So I listen to Christian music ( links you can start listening to right now www.klove.com and Solution FM - Powered by ChristianNetcast.com ) and I watch and listen to teachings that encourage me and remind me of God's love for me. Here are some links for that. Videos | Gateway Church and How Winners Think | Gateway Church .

Prayer and God's word are also important when you are feeling like this, and always. Here's a link that combines the two. It also has an encouraging testimony. Redeemed and Summoned by Name: Bible Verses for Panic, Depression, Anxiety

It's largely about replacing the lies that say you are unloveable with the truth that you are dearly loved by Jesus, Almighty God, the Holy Spirit and many people who you may not even realize care because the lies are masking the truth. One of the lies is that how we look matters, and so many of us fall under the horror of that lie. But I used to sell engagement rings and many--many--women and men came in getting engaged who were what our culture would consider ugly, plain and unloveable, yet there they were, in love, loved, getting engaged, diamonds and all. Why, because the lie didn't win.

The post NickCamp gave you up above, print that out and post it all over your life, in your car, carry it in your pocket, put it by your bed, read it and read it and read it and ask Jesus to help you believe it and feel it. And don't stop until He does.

And finally, please stay in touch with us here. We love you and want to walk with yo through this to the other side, because there is another side of this. Jesus is healing you and one day you will get to tell others who feel the way you do now, how Jesus faithfully brought you through and built you up.

And would you do me a favor? Please do change your user name to something that says to you, to us and to Jesus, that you are willing to believe even when you cannot see the truth. That's really all Jesus needs is a willing heart. You exercise that by doing things like have been suggested on this thread, and He does the rest.
Thanks. And if you do change the username, don't forget to tell us about the change so we can stay in touch with you by your new name.

Blessings and prayers,
a

 

[jamesup7777]

I had gotten out of a difficult situation recently. I had been feeling so desperate that I was at the point of saying yes to almost anything.

I feel I scared off the one person who might like me and that I won't be given another chance. I feel like I'll be alone forever. I feel like a loser.

Even though I keep trying to stop thinking about all the times I've been rejected, I can't seem to and I feel like I'm too ugly for anyone else to have a chance of finding anyone else, even though it doesn't make sense,

Praying.