On Tuesday my step niece ran away from home again a third time. However, this time she didn't seek out my husband for help, she rode her bicycle to our home while my husband and I were at his job, she broke into one of our utility buildings, stole a couple Kung fu weapons, a firearm and my dune buggy and took off. We found out when the police apprehended and they contacted me because she crashed my dune buggy into a meter pole.
We declined to press charges and my husband lied to the officers by telling them that he verbally told her in the past that she could use the dune buggy any time she wanted and that he "gifted" her the firearm so she would not be charged with theft of a firearm and grand theft auto.
This time we called CPS due to the serious nature of what happened, that coupled with the fact that my sister in law is a stay at home mom and she only became aware of the situation when we called her to inform her the police apprehended her after burglarizing our home.
People in the last thread were right, my sister in law hates us for calling CPS. She even has it in her mind that we called the police in response to the break in when we should have called her (this is in true as we found out about this when the police called us in response to the wrecked dune buggy which has street legal plates).
More perplexing is that she blames my husband for this entire issue. She told the rest of the family plus CPS the reason that her daughter is having discipline problems is due to my husband's negative influence, despite the fact that my husband is never alone with her and really has no contact with her unless they are both at the same family gathering. My husband made avaliable to CPS the recorded conversation from the last time she ran away, the one where she talks about her fear of my brother and her fear that her mother won't protect her. Of course my sister in law is furious that he supplied that to CPS.
I honestly feel for the kid, but one of the most infuriating things for us is that despite the fact that my sister in law wants to blame my husband for all her patenting woes, she is of the opinion that it is our responsibility to financially provide for my step niece's therapy. She argues that we are of means, we don't have children of our own yet, and that we need to do what's in the best interest of the child. She has already taken this charge to our families and to the church I use to be a member of. My husband has already flat out refused and told my sister in law to "kindly go die of cancer". I personally am off the opinion that he is right to refuse the money but wrong to hope she dies of cancer. Is it wrong of me to believe that we already did them a favor by not pressing the issue of the firearm theft and the vehicle theft? (We have to eat the cost of the dune buggy because insurance won't cover it since my husband claimed he gave her permission despite the fact that she didn't have a permit, my husband told me he would fix it at his works shop and that it is worth it not to subject my step niece to an auto theft charge). What would be the polite Christian way to tell my sister in law that she and my brother have to figure this one out on their own because this isn't our issue?
We declined to press charges and my husband lied to the officers by telling them that he verbally told her in the past that she could use the dune buggy any time she wanted and that he "gifted" her the firearm so she would not be charged with theft of a firearm and grand theft auto.
This time we called CPS due to the serious nature of what happened, that coupled with the fact that my sister in law is a stay at home mom and she only became aware of the situation when we called her to inform her the police apprehended her after burglarizing our home.
People in the last thread were right, my sister in law hates us for calling CPS. She even has it in her mind that we called the police in response to the break in when we should have called her (this is in true as we found out about this when the police called us in response to the wrecked dune buggy which has street legal plates).
More perplexing is that she blames my husband for this entire issue. She told the rest of the family plus CPS the reason that her daughter is having discipline problems is due to my husband's negative influence, despite the fact that my husband is never alone with her and really has no contact with her unless they are both at the same family gathering. My husband made avaliable to CPS the recorded conversation from the last time she ran away, the one where she talks about her fear of my brother and her fear that her mother won't protect her. Of course my sister in law is furious that he supplied that to CPS.
I honestly feel for the kid, but one of the most infuriating things for us is that despite the fact that my sister in law wants to blame my husband for all her patenting woes, she is of the opinion that it is our responsibility to financially provide for my step niece's therapy. She argues that we are of means, we don't have children of our own yet, and that we need to do what's in the best interest of the child. She has already taken this charge to our families and to the church I use to be a member of. My husband has already flat out refused and told my sister in law to "kindly go die of cancer". I personally am off the opinion that he is right to refuse the money but wrong to hope she dies of cancer. Is it wrong of me to believe that we already did them a favor by not pressing the issue of the firearm theft and the vehicle theft? (We have to eat the cost of the dune buggy because insurance won't cover it since my husband claimed he gave her permission despite the fact that she didn't have a permit, my husband told me he would fix it at his works shop and that it is worth it not to subject my step niece to an auto theft charge). What would be the polite Christian way to tell my sister in law that she and my brother have to figure this one out on their own because this isn't our issue?
