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I used struggle about sex and lust. Then, I draw closer to God and got over it, rejoicing that I've been set free. After some time later, I got myself hooked up to sex again. Again, I got free and it's going in a loop....like a never ending story. :(

Now, I'm struggling again and I felt the urge so strongly as well as wanting to leave God. I've lost faith in Him and I wanted to leave Him, go out, look for men to satisfy my strong sex desire. I've been wandering out there until a guy from CF spoke to me on MSN and he kept praying for me over MSN about it. I have some headache at the same time and felt so sleepy. The sexual urge got lesser and I do start to feel disgusted over cyber sex and fantasies.

What's happening to me? I'm very upset and felt like wanting to burn away the "No Apologies" card that I've signed on stating that I will save myself for marriage.
 

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You're getting there. Keep fighting, and don't give up. Just because God hasn't answered your prayers yet doesn't mean that he won't. Stay hopeful, you CAN do this. Meanwhile, keep busy. Use the time you would have spent lusting on praying, going to church and reading the bible. As a ancient
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Girl you are fighting a spiritual battle. The enemy wants you to give up, but you keep pressing on. Stay in your Word, try to start memorizing scriptures. The more you do this, the more faith you're going to have in God. So when sexual urges start attacking your mind, you're going to start to speaking those scriptures in the Spirit and the enemy is going to have no choice but to flee. In Phillipians 4:13, Paul says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens." Believe and walk in that. In Matt 4, the enemy tempts Christ but He never gives in and He just speaks in the Spirit.
Also, every time you gave back into your urges what had changed or happened in your life? What made it different from times that you felt like God had helped you to overcome this sin? Sometimes things that we take part in can expose us to more sins or thoughts that are not of God. If we aren't careful that starts to manifest in our minds. For this reason in James 4:7 we are called to "submit to God... Resist the devil and he will flee from you." This mean that we must try to surrender everything in our lives to God. That is very hard to do, but once you truly start walking in the Holy Spirit you'll start realizing that things you used to do don't seem like all that anymore. Or when you try to return to your old sins, you feel guilty and depressed about doing it, that's the Holy Spirit working with in you and letting you know that what you're doing isn't right and God has a greater path for you to follow. In Hebrews 12, we are reminded for those who God loves He chastens as a father would a son. God loves you and is always with you.
May God strengthen you and keep you and may His angels continually be upon you.
 
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Sure, you are a sexual being and will want sex, as well as the closness, and comfort and affirmation and affection that can go with it. These are all real components of being human. Its real uncomfortable having all these things going on inside, but anything less than sex as God intended wil not really make you happy and fulfilled.

Awakened sexuality can get pretty strong. God won't take it away. Cycles are pretty common. Don't let your 'failures' discourage you in your relationship with God. he is not 'down' on you because you struggle.

A full life, friends, good interests all help. Time alone and being lonely can be the worst situations to trigger you off again.

Don't be discouraged. Many, many single people struggle with their sexuality at times.

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Keep trying and don't give up on God, He won't give up on you. If you fail don't let the enemy convince you God is through with you. God loves you and wants to lead you out of this sin. God willing He will lead a man into your life that seeks to please God and someday lead this to marraige. Then you could satisfy this hunger for sex. God only knows what His plans are for your future. Hang on to Him though.
 
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I can tell you've been attacked by demons and you just need to fight back. Keep going...don't stop and keep telling the demons to leave your body in Jesus name! They don't own or control you!
 
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Spiritual attacks, I believe I'm in the battle field, fighting alone, without anybody to encourage me to win in this battle. To look for someone to get married, is very impossible because no one's knocking on my door and no one even bother about me. Guys here kept telling me that I'm so ugly and fat. I'm so addicted to just get online, surf the Net and talk on the messengers, to get to someone who I can release my urges on.

I'm thinking now to worship Satan instead....I don't know why!
 
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Although I've not physically met you, I strongly believe you are not ugly. To all those guys telling you you are ugly, some of them want sex from you, and one way they kind of keep their ego up after their request/move is denied is to say, she's ugly anyway. You're beautiful. If you want to meet people, I believe the church is a good place to start friendships. Sometimes we think we need a lover or sex or things of that nature, when all we need is someone to chat/discuss stuff, silly & important things with. I mentioned church because I've met good people from there.
 
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dear friend,

in our fights we are alone...

but there are always people backing up us by their prayers...

it is very often that in a spiritual war and before something good happens all seems to go off the road and directly to hell. all our life seems awful and bad and nothing matters and only "bad" thoughts come in our mind.

it is the nature of the spiritual war. don't be afraid. hold on there and the battle will end. it will take some time. but it will eventually end.

you could also seek for a pastor or someone that can discuss with you in person some things. the net is good but we need tet-a-tet relationships as well.


take care!
 
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VivDaGurl said:
I used struggle about sex and lust. Then, I draw closer to God and got over it, rejoicing that I've been set free. After some time later, I got myself hooked up to sex again. Again, I got free and it's going in a loop....like a never ending story. :(

Now, I'm struggling again and I felt the urge so strongly as well as wanting to leave God. I've lost faith in Him and I wanted to leave Him, go out, look for men to satisfy my strong sex desire. I've been wandering out there until a guy from CF spoke to me on MSN and he kept praying for me over MSN about it. I have some headache at the same time and felt so sleepy. The sexual urge got lesser and I do start to feel disgusted over cyber sex and fantasies.

What's happening to me? I'm very upset and felt like wanting to burn away the "No Apologies" card that I've signed on stating that I will save myself for marriage.
You must go to http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/home/ You will find lots of help there.
 
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