Spouses sharing an email address

[Redguard]

Do you believe that it's a general expectation that a husband and wife share a common email address rather than each of them having their own personal email address?

 

[felinity]

To me, this seems more like a relic of couples who were married before there was e-mail. My in-laws, for instance, share an e-mail address because... I don't know, why would they need a second one?

My husband and I, though, have had separate e-mail addresses for the last ten or twelve years, and it makes no sense for us to combine them. He gets his Calvin and Hobbes and Dilbert e-mails, and I get my Hunger Site and photography e-mails, and we're all good. I've got no reason not to trust my husband in his e-mail activity, but I know his password (and my e-mail is always up on my computer), so we've got no big e-mail secrets from one another.

 

[c1ners]

I have a lot of married friends that share an email account. And I have some who don't. We don't. What's right or wrong is up to each individaul couple. It's not a Christian thing, it's a personal thing.

 

[gracepaints]

Hubby and I had a joint account when we had a ISP that only gave us one e-mail address. Now that we have cable, we use separate web accounts.

That's more of just how things worked out, not really an issue of accountability. I find it odd that some married people will share a bed, but don't trust one another enough to have separate e-mail accounts. Just seems weird to me.

 

[Ari5]

We have 1 account, I think unless you have a reason to need a seperate account you should just have 1. I know many problems can occur when things are not shared & truthful. Ari

 

[MikeK]

We both have our own, I have 3 actually. It's so much easier when you have one for friends, 1 for work, 1 for business, etc. If we shared amail addy's I'd get very sick of all the fluff emails and faorwards in my inbox. wife likes that garbage in hers.

 

[BrBob]

We have one. I have two more (work and Hotmail) and she has one more (work).

No problem.

 

[spiersdodgerblue]

We have one that we share.

We share the mailbox outside why not the one inside.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I'm pretty on point about keeping my email sorted and filed and all that and my wife...isn't. lol From an administrative standpoint, I much prefer having my own email account.

Knowing my wife as I do, I really don't think she'd even want to take the time to sift thru all my spam.

 

[momofone]

I think that having separate emails is okay, and in many cases can be practical. However I think that you should allow your spouse to have access to your email if they desire. If you have nothing to hide, then your spouse reading it shouldn't be a problem.

 

[Redguard]

We have one that we share.

We share the mailbox outside why not the one inside.

I would think that emails are a lot more personal and conversational than the bills and coupon flyers that one receives in their regular outdoor mailbox.

If I were to make a comparison, I would compare sharing an email to having your spouse stay on the other line while your in the middle of a phone conversation.

Now, that isn't to say that they COULDN'T do that. But I figure that's the reason that some people have for giving their spouse the password to their email, so that they can go in and read your emails at their own convience (and curiosity).

 

[Cygnus]

We have separate email accounts though we both know each others passwords. That's just because some online notifications etc go to mine and some to his...sometimes one of us may need to check something that's been sent to the other ones account.

 

[spiersdodgerblue]

I would think that emails are a lot more personal and conversational than the bills and coupon flyers that one receives in their regular outdoor mailbox.

If I were to make a comparison, I would compare sharing an email to having your spouse stay on the other line while your in the middle of a phone conversation.

Now, that isn't to say that they COULDN'T do that. But I figure that's the reason that some people have for giving their spouse the password to their email, so that they can go in and read your emails at their own convience (and curiosity).

We have more than coupon flyers and bills that come to our outside mailbox. And as I stated "We" it works for us.

 

[Redguard]

We have more than coupon flyers and bills that come to our outside mailbox. And as I stated "We" it works for us.

Amen!!

 

[Cordy]

The main account that my husband and I use is a joint account. I like it! We have several young married couple friends with joint accounts, too, and it seems to make things simpler that way – especially for making plans to get together etc.

We also have separate accounts. We use those for things that wouldn’t interest the other person (school, work, subscriptions etc.), and we each know the other person’s password. It is not because we don’t trust the other, but just because we just generally keep things open and are sometimes interested in an email they received or something.

 

[TCat]

I think the individual couple needs to decide this issue. My parents share one address as my mom rarely cares about the computer and most of the e-mail is directed to them both anyway.
My DH and I have a joint account as well a seperate ones. I get personal replies from friends and jokes and so forth on mine. He gets treasure hunting and marshal arts stuff on his and we get family. church and school stuff on the joint account.
No big deal.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

The main account that my husband and I use is a joint account. I like it! We have several young married couple friends with joint accounts, too, and it seems to make things simpler that way – especially for making plans to get together etc.

We also have separate accounts. We use those for things that wouldn’t interest the other person (school, work, subscriptions etc.), and we each know the other person’s password. It is not because we don’t trust the other, but just because we just generally keep things open and are sometimes interested in an email they received or something.

Good point about the passwords. I know my wife's password and she knows mine. Anytime, either one of us can check the other's email.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

We have separate accounts (one personal and one work) and we pretty much share the same passwords for everything, and if not he knows mine and I know his. I can check his email if I want and he can check mine... no need to share one. I trust him, he trusts me no problems here.

 

[Amélie Unbound]

Wow, it's never even occurred to me that we should have the same e-mail account. I think that would get confusing.

We each had our own e-mail accounts before we got married, and we just continued using our own. My husband uses his mostly for work.

Our computers are in the same room. His is against one wall, mine is against the opposite wall. So at any time, either one of us can turn around and see what the other is doing if we want to. And I'm always logged into my account, and he's welcome to look at my e-mail if he wants to, although I can't imagine why he would want to. It would not be interesting to him. I get e-mails from my elderly aunt telling me what she had for lunch. He doesn't want to read that.

 

[TCat]

LOL, I get e-mails like the elderly aunt ones too!