Spousal Upgrade Patches

[Redguard]

In the men's forum, I asked them if they'd allow their wives to get that new "Sex Patch" that they're speaking of on the news in order to increase their sex drives.

I guess it would only be fair to add a similar discussion here. But I'll add one more question.

How many wives would be interested in a patch for their husbands that made them show more affection (ie. saying "I love you", buying flowers, giving foot rubs, etc).

Would it make you feel happier, or would you feel burned knowing that he's only doing this because of a foreign chemical presence in his body?

 

[Redguard]

That's pretty much how I feel about that patch they're now advertising.

My wife suggested getting it in order to "help her out" and I said I wasn't interested in "fake desire".

I left that thread in the men's forum because I think it'll get responses from extreme opposite ends of the spectrum.

 

[andiesmama]

I agree, it seems like a "quick fix" and in essence isn't really fixing the "problem"...both with the female patch now & the "theoretical" male patch you were talking about. I personally wouldn't want it, either....

Now, if they could make a patch so that I would LOVE housework and couldn't WAIT to get it done, that I might consider!! hehehe

 

[lancers1990]

Here is my response copied from the other forum.

If someone's sex drive was abnormally low I don't see any problem with trying to correct it.

You don't just suffer with a headache, you take an asprin.

Realize that you're not to keen on the idea of your wife needing chemicals injected into her body in order for you to want to have sex with you.

This might not be the case, she might be quite eager to have sex, but her body might not respond properly, much like erectile disfunction.

 

[Singin4Him]

Well, the patch actually wasn't approved by the FDA so it won't be on the market just yet. If it were though, I don't see anything wrong with it if the sex drive was low as it was said above. It couldn't hurt anything and I don't think it's "fake" I think it could be a tool used to help improve a marriage.

 

[GirlieGirl]

I agree with the aspirin analogy. I've never thought of men taking viagra as having "fake desire". They want to enjoy sex still but their body isn't cooperating. What's the difference if this happened to a woman?

As far as an "I love you" patch - well that is a dramatic oversimplification of what wives want. If this patch existed, and my hubby choose to take it, I would not feel like his loving actions towards me were cheapened. The fact that he wanted to take (granted I wasn't crushing up the pills and putting it in his wine glass, heh heh) that "medication" would be an act of love in itself. We analyze this stuff too much.

 

[LegacyOfLove]

I don't know...things like this patch...and Viagra for instance....if there is truly a physical deficiency that this would help to assist with...then that I think is perfectly acceptable. However, I have heard of too many guys using things like Viagra just so they could have more "relations" with their partner or go for a longer time during love-making. I think that's pretty well being extreme! After all....isn't it the content of love-making that is more important than the duration/frequency?

 

[okiemommy26]

I dont think i would like a patch for my hubby either, yeah he isnt perfect but neither am I. I love him the way he is and that is why i married him. I wouldnt want him showing me affection because a patch is making him to. Also in the sex patch thing, if you think about its not because it a physical thing, it is probably an emotional thing is why her sex drive might be low, too much stress, too tired, too much on her mind. I know that always brings down mine if everything is fine i have a high one. So i dont think its right unless it is something physically wrong with a person and the sex drive.

 

[bliz]

In the men's forum, I asked them if they'd allow their wives to get that new "Sex Patch" that they're speaking of on the news in order to increase their sex drives.

ALLOW? I do not think it is a husband's place to allow or disallow a wife's taking any prescription medication! Should this medicatinon come on the market, it should be something that a husband and wife should discuss, but final permission does not rest with my husband!

 

[andiesmama]

ALLOW?

I do not think it is a husband's place to allow or disallow a wife's taking any prescription medication! Should this medicatinon come on the market, it should be something that a husband and wife should discuss, but final permission does not rest with my husband!

I didn't take it quite that way....

Perhaps she, however, is interested in a real orgaasm....

Wow, I don't think that was called for! I don't think it's anyone's place to assume what if ANY the issue is with his wife....

 

[Redguard]

For 'clarity', the problem (so to speak) is not [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], but one of low sex drive post baby... something I'm sure that many women are familiar with.

But let's try not to make this thread a focus on my situation.

 

[Cordy]

No, I wouldn’t use such a patch, nor would I want my husband to use one for affection. As far as I am concerned, my husband is the best man in the world. He is incredibly loving and affection, and still does the laundry and dishes every night! *swoon* - now that is a real man!

 

[okiemommy26]

No, I wouldn’t use such a patch, nor would I want my husband to use one for affection. As far as I am concerned, my husband is the best man in the world. He is incredibly loving and affection, and still does the laundry and dishes every night! *swoon* - now that is a real man!

I totally agree that is a real man

 

[Changed]

I have no problem w/ the patch.But I personally wouldn't take it b/c synthetic hormones are not safe long term. I'm assuming it may have some of the same side effects as other synthetic hormones,ie mood swings,weight gain etc. Also I wouldn't be surprised if someones wife started to grow a mustache due to the testaserone....then he'd probably need something to get HIM in the mood.*blush* Hope I don't/won't have to repent after this thread lol

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

If a woman does have a low testosterone levels that decrease her drive, I know dr's will do injections for this. I have a friend who did have low levels and had these sort of issues and did get the shots. At this way it's being monitored and less likely to be abused.

Too much testosterone may increase a woman's sex drive, but there are a lot of bad side effects of having too much testosterone in your body.

 

[E-beth]

Sure! I will put on the patch to increase my sex drive...all for my husband!!!

Of course, the patch makes facial and back hair grow, makes the voice deeper, and ya get those nasty mood swings, but it's all for you baby

 

[andiesmama]

Of course, the patch makes facial and back hair grow, makes the voice deeper, and ya get those nasty mood swings, but it's all for you baby

 

[Redguard]

Hmm...

I agree about what the increased testosterone can do to women...

But is this to say that women who have naturally high sex drives have naturally high levels of testosterone, and thus are likely to have chest, chin, and back hair?

 

[Yitzchak]

ALLOW? I do not think it is a husband's place to allow or disallow a wife's taking any prescription medication! Should this medicatinon come on the market, it should be something that a husband and wife should discuss, but final permission does not rest with my husband!

I was skimming through a book on marriage at the christian bookstore one day. It talked about how the same trait in a person can be perceived differently depending on the mindset of the person. For example, what was seen as affectionate during dating was seen during the divorce as smothering. Assertive became controlling. A gift for leadership became bossy. Same traits in the same person. Different perspective.

I guess each couple has to decide for themselves what they are comfortable with in their marriage.

My wife and I consider that our bodies do not belong just to ourselves but to eachother as the scripture points out in 1 Corinthians 7. I would not even consider doing anything with my body which was not a mutual decision between the two of us because my body belongs to her and not just to myself.

 

[Yitzchak]

I am not sure what my final answer would be about this question since I have never discussed it with my wife. It has never been an issue.

Theoretically speaking, I do not see ir as something wrong in and of itself. I agree with the posts which pointed out that it is best to get to the bottom of what else might be the problem. But if it was determined that this patch would help either one of us and it was important to the other, I see it as a good thing and not a bad thing.

There is no subsitute for a good relationship and sex should be more about intimacy than just the physical. As should the romance. I agree that if it doesn't come from the heart then it will not be all it should be.

So with certain givens and theoretically speaking, I could see it being a good thing.