Special Needs Adoption?

[1SweetJream]

*Just wondering*

As fellow Christians,......How do ya'll feel about Special needs Adoption?

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What would you do if the child your expecting to adopt already (if you have a birthmom all picked out),...... is born with special needs? What would you choose to do,.........

a) walk away & wait for another child.

b)accept that baby as if you'd given birth to him/her yourself ?

Not tryin to cause a *stir* or a *fuss* here I promise

Just *Real Life* food for thought,...........ya Seee,.... I have my own *very special adopted blessing*
So I've come into this situation, & I've made my own *Un-regreted* choices already.

So really I just want any1 who's considering adoption to perhaps give these questions some thought. And those still deciding on what kind of adoption you want to persue or may feel *GOD* leading you to persue.

Certainly there are many children around the world,.... special needs children are the least wanted & need the LOVE the MOST

 

[auerpower]

Special Needs Through The Foster Care System Is Also Any Child Over Five. Isnt That Crazy, They Say That Five Year Olds Are Older Children.

As Far As Already Having A Child Picked Out Only To Find Out That He Has A Special Need...i Would Like To Say That I Would Continue With The Adoption. However, Until You Are In That Situation...i Guess Only God Knows What You Would Do. You Have To Know What You Can Handle Also. I Am A Single Male...im Just Not Sure If I Have It In Me To Deal With Some Of The Situations That Will Come Up...i Would Have To Pray For Gods Will.

Wayne.

 

[Hisrosebud]

My husband and I are actually looking to adopt special needs children. Some would ask, WHY?


I grew up in the foster care system. I got a BS in social work and spent my career days as a social worker with children in the foster care system that had special needs. Their needs ranged from medical to mental health and everything in between.

We bought a fixer upper of a house because it has 6 bedrooms and land all around us. We only own 2.5 acres but in the area we live, that is a good amount. We have a dream that we call Hannah's Haven. It is based on Isaiah 54, You oh barren woman enlargen your tent for many will be your children. . .and so on. We have three wonderful children of our own and two babies in heaven that never let us see their faces. Our middle son was diagnosed with microcephaly and is currently being evaluated for autism. I was a foster mother for years and stopped when I married my husband. Now together we are building our dream, our call of Hannah's Haven.

I guess I am writing a book, did not mean to. I want the most hurting children because I believe that God made me to reach them. I believe that all the pain that I have endured has been returned to me as joy to extend to others as love. I want to reach out to the most needy because they are the most rejected and I feel well trained to help them.

It is not for everyone. But something everyone should think about in adoption. When I was licensing foster parents for these children, many parents were worried about getting attached to these children and then having them return to their biological parents. The truth is we as biological parents are not even promised tomorrow with our biological children. They belong to Him. They come in all different abilities.

I have been asked, do you love your foster children as much as your biological ones. . .
My husband is not my oldest son's father. It was interesting for us to realise that Joseph was not Jesus' biological father. . .

It is His blood that makes us all related. . . .

Just some of my thoughts,

Jane

 

[auerpower]

I Am So Sorry About Your Loss...i Have Never Had Children, But My Sister Lost Her First Baby Two Years Ago. Mikey Was Stillborn, Full Term...just A Few Days Before We Were To Meet Him. It Has Been A Very Hard Two Years...since Then My Sister Has Had Another Child...tony. He Is Healthy And A Blessing From God. I Have Two More Nephews And A Niece Besides Those Two. They Are All A Blessing. Good Luck With Your Dreams. Sounds Like You Are On A Mission. Wayne.

 

[Hisrosebud]

Thanks for writing. The losses were incredibly hard. I actually experienced first hand the promise that God will never leave or forsake me. I believe that he has those children in the palm of His hands as scripture tells us that he knew us while we were knitted in the womb.

Thanks for your encouragement.

Jane

 

[1SweetJream]

Wow, HisRosebud that is so Awesome!! It sounds like a God Inspired dream & I pray that he will Bless you & your Family for Opening your hearts & home to "His" most Special little ones

I'm sorry for your losses as well.

I'm still greiving a most recent loss of some1 close to us who's little girl Emma Grace was only a couple of week's from being born. They lost her heartbeat on valentines day but she wasn't delivered till the 17th. She was a beautiful baby & they haven't been able to find out what happened.

They are christians though & they know she's with Jesus. And though we may never know how her purpose was fulfilled in such a short time from within her mothers womb we know God doesn't make mistakes

 

[Hisrosebud]

I agree, God doesn't make mistakes! Emma Grace, what a BEAUTIFUL name, I get tears in my eyes reading her name.


Years ago my step brother was in the Persian Gulf Crisis. His wife was pregnant. The baby died at 40 weeks gestation. I am convinced it was the lack of medical treatment in the particular military medical center that she was at. Anyway, my son was 7 at the time and anticipating this new cousin. I wrote a story to help him understand. This was years before I lost my two as that child is now 17 years old (can anybody say, they grow up too fast!). I wanted to share a jist of that story with you;

It was about a catapillar that was absolutely beautiful. He roams around the countryside doing exactly what he was made to do by God, being a catapillar. When the fall time comes, him and his family (butterflies and catapillars mixed) are excited about the new transition that he is going to make. He builds his cocoon around himself. Everyone anticipates his transformation. When the great day came, the cocoon does not open. The family members are confused, anxious and sad. Then a voice from heaven (GOD) speaks gently, "see, he is not here. He has risen for a purpose of My heart. . . "

and that is how it ends. It helped us to deal with the loss of their daughter. They had twin boys a year later by the way. . .funny sometimes how God works,

Jane

 

[CarrieAg93]

This is a tough question. If I already had a birth mother and the baby was born with some kind of disability I would most likely still adopt the baby. If it were my birth child I would not even think twice about keeping him so why should a birth adoption be any different. On the other hand, I don't know if I would knowingly adopt an older child with a disability. If it were a physical disability I would probably say yes. Emotional or behavioral issues would be different mainly because I have 2 small children whose safety and well-being I have to consider.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I would without a second thought. I grew up with special needs people all around me, one of whom is my older brother.

 

[AdJesumPerMariam]

I think my husband & I would adopt every foster child we have ever had! We do have custody of our nephew, who's mom is a drug addict, and we are getting custody of a 14 year old who has been sexually abused sice she was 3. We had her as a foster child for about a year & a half, she went home & it happened again. Now, both these children are 'special needs'. We do want them, though.