Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
We have three biological children. Number 1 needed the spankings. No doubt. Very strong willed. The rod of discipline (not punishment) was applied. I think the scripture is clear that it's acceptable.
Two and three just needed stern words and looks for the most part. They got a couple of seats every now and again, but not like number one.
God gave us these children to raise. It's not anyone's business how we chose to do so unless there was abuse (which there wasn't).
If someone doesn't think spanking is right, that's between them and God. I'm not going to judge them.
Good morning,
Using scripture just gives us something else to argue over... In my opinion, spanking is a useful tool for parents to have in their tool box if it is administered correctly. It's really a matter of common sense, and our rule of thumb is to only spank for willful disobedience, to always give the opportunity for reconciliation afterwards, and to never spank in anger.
Sorry if I derailed your OP.
Kind regards,
Dave
People can be a lot more creative than that.
If you use a rod on a child you will quite rightly be arrested and your child will be taken from you permanently. So to say that it is a literal description of how a child should be disciplined is just incorrect.
A 'rod' can take all kinds of forms. Do you know this scripture too:
thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Is that rod a 'spanking' rod?
A rod for discipline can be anything that a parent uses to correct their child.
We have never, ever spanked our children, and they have turned out just great. They are law abiding, polite, good students, and two are in adulthood already. They have said that they were glad that we did not spank them, that they understood that they were being punished/corrected in the way that we did it, and have said that they will bring up their own kids the same way we brought them up - this is despite the fact that, during some stages of their lives, they said that we were "too strict" with them. Now they are older, they understand the restrictions that we placed on their tv/movie viewing/game playing, and why we always insisted on knowing where they were going/who they were with and why we would punish them if they lied about this. Two are safely at adulthood, the rest are on their way, and I'm glad we didn't hit them hands, spoons - or rods.
You've provided adequate Scripture...
I'm old enough to have had some first hand experience with corporal punishment, both from the giving and receiving end of the paddle. Looking back on it now, I'd sum it all up by saying "Show me where frequent spankings took place and I'll show you some very poor parenting."
That's not the way it works. You should try other things before spanking. After spanking, what is next? If striking a child so that it feels pain does not work, what next?If you have to spank often they are not working, and some other method should be tried.
Another spanking. They eventually tire it.That's not the way it works. You should try other things before spanking. After spanking, what is next? If striking a child so that it feels pain does not work, what next?
Another spanking. They eventually tire it.
Are you serious?
Wow.
I'll bow out, because I can't agree with spanking on top of spanking. Discipline should not move immediately to hitting children, and when that does not work, hitting them more.
That's not the way it works. You should try other things before spanking. After spanking, what is next? If striking a child so that it feels pain does not work, what next?
General practices.
Then how do you explain that the Hebrew word translated "rod" -- choter -- can only be translated "branch," "twig," "rod"?General practices.
The implication is there, whether you want to admit to it or not. And none of your replies to me have made an effort to refute anything I said.Show me where I used the word 'victims'.
Total strawman.
Adequate for you to think that spanking is not an unbiblical practice?
I wouldn't disagree. Spankings should not be a frequent thing. If you have to spank often they are not working, and some other method should be tried.
if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.
So let me get this straight. In this text, striking with a rod means everything BUT striking with a rod? It means every general practice you can think of for discipline, other than what is actually stated?
I am not sure I can accept that description of the text.
You should look up what the rod was for in shepherding. It's pretty enlightening.
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?