Soulmates?

[Angel*Eyes]

Does anyone believe that God has a soulmate for everyone? Personally, I do. Of course, our flesh can be attracted to many people. But God has given each one of us such detailed personalities that only one person can be compatible with us on a mind, body, and soul level. It is kind of hard to explain. Even a person's oddest habits that might annoy someone else are actually accepted or even appealing to his/her soulmate.

 

[celestial_ANGEL]

I don't know much about that......the kind of intuition thing ,but I do pray God will keep me happy and content whether I become married or not.

 

[CSMR]

I don't see any reason to believe that God cares about compatibility. If you marry someone other than your "soulmate" I don't see what God having a soulmate for you could mean in any beneficial way.

 

[Angel*Eyes]

God has created a plan for each one of us to make us happy. He gave us all a purpose in order for us to glorify him, win souls for his kingdom, and to bring us joy. Likewise he has given us soulmates to bring us joy and to complete us. I strongly believe that our destinies are tied with our soulmates. Your soulmate will have strengths to build upon your weaknesses and vice versa.

 

[Starcradle]

But God has given each one of us such detailed personalities that only one person can be compatible with us on a mind, body, and soul level.

Is there a Biblical premise for the notion of soulmates?

If it is true that only one individual is designed for us, then there is no room for human fallibility. If only one person failed to marry their "one and only," they would cause an interminable chain reaction of individuals coupling themselves with the "wrong" people due to necessity. For example, if Joe married Lorraine and he was "supposed" to wed Jacklyn, now Jacklyn is forced into the position of marrying another man who is not her soulmate, since Joe was supposed to be hers. The pattern would continue endlessly.

See the dilemma? It would be a very rigid, impractical system that would require consistently perfect judgment on the part of every human being involved, which is impossible. It allows for no error whatsoever.

 

[Angel*Eyes]

I believe that there are so many divorces because people aren't waiting for God to send them their soulmate. Many couples are in lust not in love. Marriage is supposed to be an offering to Christ not just for our pure enjoyment. I believe that if a person does marry in error God can bring correction to that situation.

By the way, many things that in scripture are just revealed by the Holy spirit. I have heard of several couples who have been shown there soul mate through dreams. Most likely,we might have different personality types. So, I am not sure of the best way to explain it to you.The best thing you should do is to ask the Holy spirit to reveal his truth to you.

 

[ThinkJesus]

Wow, that is a very logical and compelling statement, Starcradle!
I totally agree.

 

[Angel*Eyes]

Our Lord is a God of purpose and detail. There is nothing random about him. Heavenly wisdom surpasses our wisdom. Only living by our own understanding and reasoning can only lead to error.

It is our choice whether or not we want to follow God's perfect plan for our lives. He doesn't force anything on us. But once we get to heaven, we will be upset about all the blessings we missed out on.

God has already put it in our heart exactly what we want in a mate ( personality, type of humor, style of dress, eye color, etc.) However, we are socialized into accepting who society says is the perfect person.

 

[Angel*Eyes]

We each have so many layers to our personality. Our soulmate should fit us like a puzzle. Extroverts bring out introverts,a intuitive person needs a feeling person, a sensing person needs a thinking person, and someone who is perceptive needs someone who is judging. Also, there are many other deeper levels to our personality which only one person can satisfy.The opposite function is needed to make each of us become balanced. A lot of times people develop a mid-life crises when they realize their spouse to satisfy all of their needs.

 

[bogie]

Well after a little research I have come to the conclusion that the bible doesn't mention a single thing about a soulmate for each of us. It does however give us certain criteria for a Christian based marriage.

1. Our mate must be someone of the opposite sex (Romans 1:27)
2. we must marry someone of like precious faith (I Corinthians 7:39; II Corinthians 6:14)

With these criteria in mind I believe that there are many people out there for us, but our choices are what will bring you to the person you will marry. That doesn't necessarily mean that is the only person that is compatible with you. To conclude, there really isn't a single soulmate for us, but there should be only 1 marriage for us.

Bogie

 

[Nico]

very well said starcradle and bogie. i do however, believe in people connecting more strongly on the soul level, but not that there is 1 person predetermined to be your mate. different people have different needs. i need a soul connection (again i do not believe this is limited to just one person), others need stability, or whatever it may be. i personally listen to that intuitive, soul connection but i definitely know that others don't--and not to a fault. perhaps it's unknowable to them. perhaps they don't care. but i don't think it's wrong to not understand or believe in soul connections, i just personally think it's pretty important for me.

 

[vinc]

Although the Bible does not mention explicitly regarding a soulmates, there are examples wherein God directed His children to marry the person He had chosen for them.

For example,

In the case of Adam, God saw that Adam was lonely and created Eve and brought her to Adam.

In the case of Abraham, God told Abraham to take Sarah to be his wife.

In the case of Isaac, God directed Eleazer (the chief servant in the household of Abraham), when he prayed for guidance regarding Isaac's match. God showed that Rebekah was the chosen partner for Isaac.

Later in the case of Jacob, Jacob fell in love with Rachel but was craftily led to marry the eldest daughter Leah by the clever Laban (his father-in-law). Later, however he was allowed to marry Rachel (his love) too. This was a different case however.

So, like Adam, Abraham and Eleazer, if we can wait upon God instead of hurriedly rushing in to marriage and seek His will, God is going to guide us and reveal to us His choice of life-partner.

There is also chances of committing mistakes in understanding the true will of God depending on our spiritual maturity. One ought to develop a good personal relationship with God before coming to marriageable age so that one may not have trouble in finding the true will of God as far as life-partner is concerned.

There is also a possibility that even though God shows us His true will, we may not be able to get married to that person due to difficult circumstances, hesitations and fears. So, the present world scenario is as such that there are 100% chances of loosing the person whom God has designed for us and we may end up marrying some one else altogether. Even in that case also, our merciful God is able to help us in making the most of our married life.

Also, unfortunately not all of us are able to find out God's perfect will regarding our life-partner and we are left with our God-given wisdom and experience to make the choice. In that case, our decision should not be based on lust, but should be based on spirituality of the person. If we marry seeing the physical beauty alone, then, we are sure to make a mistake and may end up having a broken marriage. If we marry someone seeing the inner beauty (spiritual beauty) of the person then we have made a wise decision.

A sincere, committed and diligent christian will not miss out God's will in marriage.

 

[Starcradle]

I believe that there are so many divorces because people aren't waiting for God to send them their soulmate.

I personally believe that many get divorced because they are not truly following Christ to begin with and hence are unequipped by the Holy Spirit to love sacrificially and with a strong sense of commitment. Our human nature is such that we are constanty inclined to question, "What is in it for me, what will you do to fulfill my needs?" instead of possessing the mindset I firmly consider should be that of an individual entering marriage: "How can I glorify the Lord in this marriage, how can I better serve my spouse, what can I do to care for their necessities?"

Many couples are in lust not in love.

Unfortunately, some cannot discern the difference between the two.

Marriage is supposed to be an offering to Christ not just for our pure enjoyment.

I agree. Love is not based upon the unreliable ebb and flow of sentiment--it transcends it and is much more deliberate than some realize: it is a conscious act of the will.

I believe that if a person does marry in error God can bring correction to that situation.

Yes, our God can restore even those bonds that seem severed beyond repair. Nothing is impossible with Him.

The best thing you should do is to ask the Holy spirit to reveal his truth to you.

I simply wish to take great care in not believing anything that contradicts Scripture, whose divine truth I know the Holy Spirit would not oppose.

Wow, that is a very logical and compelling statement, Starcradle!
I totally agree.

Thank you, ThinkJesus. It is nice to see you again, and in this area of the forum.

Only living by our own understanding and reasoning can only lead to error.

Precisely, hence my query on whether or not there was a Biblical premise for the notion of soulmates. I do not wish to lean upon any fanciful or unnecessary ideas.

Extroverts bring out introverts,a intuitive person needs a feeling person, a sensing person needs a thinking person, and someone who is perceptive needs someone who is judging. Also, there are many other deeper levels to our personality which only one person can satisfy.The opposite function is needed to make each of us become balanced.

I agree that certain opposite traits are both healthy and productive, yet I also consider that it would be disastrous if I joined myself with an individual who was at the opposite end of the spectrum from me in most areas. It would create a great deal of conflict and marriage can be stressful enough on its own.

However, that is merely my viewpoint.

Well after a little research I have come to the conclusion that the bible doesn't mention a single thing about a soulmate for each of us. It does however give us certain criteria for a Christian based marriage.

1. Our mate must be someone of the opposite sex (Romans 1:27)
2. we must marry someone of like precious faith (I Corinthians 7:39; II Corinthians 6:14)

Thank you for posting this, I was reading these very passages last evening and was thinking of including them in one of my responses.

 

[jenn82]

There have been so many things that have been said that I think are so good and also so important to address.

This particular issue is something that I have spent a lot of time in prayer about!

If it is true that only one individual is designed for us, then there is no room for human fallibility. If only one person failed to marry their "one and only," they would cause an interminable chain reaction of individuals coupling themselves with the "wrong" people due to necessity. For example, if Joe married Lorraine and he was "supposed" to wed Jacklyn, now Jacklyn is forced into the position of marrying another man who is not her soulmate, since Joe was supposed to be hers. The pattern would continue endlessly.

See the dilemma? It would be a very rigid, impractical system that would require consistently perfect judgment on the part of every human being involved, which is impossible. It allows for no error whatsoever.

I believe Starcradle said this on the first page, the feeling that I have about this is that God has a perfect will for all of us and say Joe was supposed to marry Jacklyn but he married Lorraine. God knew that was going to happen and He made a provision for Jacklyn. God doesn't make mistakes, He knows what is going to happen before it does. A lot in the same way we know what happened in the past, we can't change it but we know it happened. God knows what we are going to do but He doesn't dictate what we can do. He allows us to make our choices.

I believe that there are so many divorces because people aren't waiting for God to send them their soulmate.

I believe that divorce is caused by people not being willing to wait for God's timing and taking thier life into thier own hands and not letting God have His way.

1. Our mate must be someone of the opposite sex (Romans 1:27)
2. we must marry someone of like precious faith (I Corinthians 7:39; II Corinthians 6:14)

I know these were quoted above but I believe they are very important! Like faith is a major necessity!



Another post that I would like to comment on was vinc's.

So, like Adam, Abraham and Eleazer, if we can wait upon God instead of hurriedly rushing in to marriage and seek His will, God is going to guide us and reveal to us His choice of life-partner.

Look at those stories and you will find many good points! Another thing that I like to think about is the story of Ishmael and Isaac, I know it's not really a story of relationships. But it shows what happens when you don't wait for what God has promiced and try to fix the problems yourself. Abraham god a some but he didn't get the son that God had promised first.

If we apply the principals in this story to our thoughts about relationships it sheds a different light on things. I say often, "I am waiting for my Isaac." No I don't think his name will have to be Isaac but it's a symbol for me of waiting for God's perfect timing. Isaac didn't come when Abraham and Sarah wanted him, he came when God's timing was perfect! I have made mistakes and I am not saying that I have always or am always just content to wait. I would like to be married and have children but I know God's timing is better than mine so I pray often for His peace and that He will stregthen me as I wait.

Sorry that was so long hope it ministered to someone,
God Bless,
Jennifer

 

[joeman1]

See I envision my self as waiting for a rebecca or a rachel. I know their name probably wont be that but I know that when I find the right women she will be perfect for me just like the Lord provided for Issac and Jacob. Jacob new who that he loved and even though He had to wait he never faltered and his hart was always directed towads her. I hope that is the same way that I can be with the right woman.

 

[the_man]

In addition to the good sense Starcradle has mentioned, I think adopting a view of having soulmates can be dangerous for the Christian. This snippet in Matthew (also found in Mark and Luke), is the closest to directly addressing the question of soulmates I could find in the Bible.

Matt. 22:23-32

That same day the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. 24“Teacher,” they said, “Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and have children for him. 25Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. 26The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. 27Finally, the woman died. 28Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?” 29Jesus replied, “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. 31But about the resurrection of the dead–have you not read what God said to you, 32‘I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob’[a]? He is not the God of the dead but of the living.”


The question in vs. 28 could also be 'who will be recognized as her mate when we dwell as souls? who is her soul mate?' Christ essentially said that there is no such thing as soul mates because in heaven, souls will not be tied to a mate. We will be like angels. Hence brings me to my chief concern with believing in soulmates. That is by believing there is such may put me in danger of raising marriage to a level of importance that it is unfit for. That I should not know the "power of God" to sustain me after this earthly life without marriage. (i.e. marriage is not necessary after this life).

Now having said that, one might go the opposite extreme and say that if one doesn't believe in soulmates, one believes that one can marry anyone. I think that is ridiculous as well, as it does not follow Biblical teachings on marriage. All in all, it is more important to place oneself in the will of God and let Him guide you, just as He guided Adam, Abraham and Isaac.

 

[Glorianna]

Does anyone believe that God has a soulmate for everyone? Personally, I do. Of course, our flesh can be attracted to many people. But God has given each one of us such detailed personalities that only one person can be compatible with us on a mind, body, and soul level. It is kind of hard to explain. Even a person's oddest habits that might annoy someone else are actually accepted or even appealing to his/her soulmate.

Agreed.

 

[Angel*Eyes]

Who here believes that God will send you a person that completely fulfill you in everyway if you just ask him in prayer? If God can give you direction for your purpose and other matters, he can surely do so in this area.

I stress the point that everyone should just pray for God to send them the mate perfect instead going around dating the wrong people and forming emotional and soul ties. I have heard of couples being revealed through dreams, visions,etc.For instance, there was a couple on the show Celebration (on Daystar Tv) who said that they got
dreams about one another before meeting. The man who lived in the U.S. even saw a flight number in his dream and one day he decided to take a step of faith and flew oversees where the woman lived. It was love at first sight when they met.

Anyways, God didn't make it impossible for at least to know who or what our mate should be like. We were not born blank slates. I have an identical twin sister who is my best friend and even we disagree who an ideal mate would be. We were born with dislikes and likes. People should just be true to themselves when they come up with a criteria for a mate instead of listening to society and their family.

 

[JWBZ SVT]

Is God so small that He would only create "one"?


Scenario: A woman marries husband #1 who dies 10 years after they are married. Later she remarries and likewise stays married for 10 years to husband #2 who dies. She never remarries again or falls in love with another man. Which one was her soul mate? I would say both. God isn't so small that there is only one. Just because you love someone and it doesn't work out does not mean that love is any less valuable or has any less merit. God heals the wounds so they no longer plague us, so I also believe God works other miracles...providing for His children until their cup runs over...

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Does anyone believe that God has a soulmate for everyone?

Nope, and Starcradle has explained it perfectly. There is nothing in Scripture that supports the idea, and until some evidence is brought forth than I see no reason to believe the claim.

once we get to heaven, we will be upset about all the blessings we missed out on.

Do you really think anyone will be upset or disappointed in Heaven? I think not.

There are many divorces today because people don't know what the words committment and love mean, not because they did not marry their "soulmate". As I recall Cokie and Steve Roberts have been married for 30+ years, and they are of different faiths too.

The_Man-interesting Scripture verse.

Diane