Soulmate

[Omid]

Fair to say that I got a problem and need advice!

I'm recently got hurt, and did a bit of hurting myself wtih my girlfriend, and we broke up (long distance relationship).

Prior to knowing her; I did have experience in a long distance,as I was involved with someone else before her. Who btw.cheated and ended up pregnant. Knowing the implications, I went on, and got envolved with this amazing girl I met in Germany, who happend to live across a few bounderies away.
Just caused I liked her very much. I pursued this relationship, and started to believe more and more that it was real. At that time, I was non-religious and she was christian. She thought that her believes about Christ wouldn't effect us.

Obviously, she was wrong!

It was a big part of her, and she made the decision of leaving me. We became "only Friends" still with the hope of more, as she needed to figure out what was happening. I was broken hearted, and a mess! (wanted to commit suicide)

Now, I believe it was the Lord's attention to have met her, cause I would never embrassed his holly message, if it wasn't for her. I even think he touched me through her.

But before I realized all. I hurt my girlfriend, for have made that decision of leaving me, and couldn't face not being more then friends. (as I was patiently waiting for her to love me again) But when I visited her, it was clear that she didn't want it to happen, as she was avoiding me and asking her parents to intervene and have a watchful eye. I did not know what to do, I was shocked to see into her eyes and feel no hope.

Now today, the friendship seems to be gone as she hasn't emailed me back for the longest time ever, and I don't want to loose her. I pray in Jesus name that she will forgive me, and not ignore my presents. I put her second in my heart after the lord, and I'm lost in reasoning with the Lord about her in my life. I truely believe she is my soulmate, and don't want to be with anyone else. Is this this foulish to believe, and what could I do other then praying for her to forgive me ?

God Bless, Omid

 

[Dawn Marie]

It's not foolish to believe that. If you really believe it then you may be right.

 

[rach]

I was (and actually still am) in a similar situation. Only he broke my heart, and all I can say is that you need to go to God about it, and if it's meant to be, it will be. I know this sucks, and that you really want to "fix it" but really if she no longer thinks of you as her love, then there is nothing you can do but give it to God and pray about it. If you think it's right, then maybe she will come back to you, but don't, again I stress DON'T think this will happen, because if it will happen then both you and her will need to be changed by God first, before it can happen. So you really need to let go...which I know is hard.

Gosh I need to listen to my own advice, but God knows I am trying to, but anyway, I KNOW how hard it is to follow the advice I just gave!!

 

[Omid]

Thank you for your thoughts !

I hate to see someone else in the same boat as I, but I guess it's something that alot of us struggle with. Love is big ordeal! It's surely frustrating, and thought provoking isn't it ?

I mean you see a couple enjoying every bit of their blessing to be together, holding hands, and kissing. Driving you mad, not to share that beautiful feeling with the one you worship.

I mean what else could I do to then wait and see, I can't intervene, no matter what !

I think, I was transformed a bit, as I accepted my sin and taking the step towards the light, and therefore was born again, from being nothing but an ignorant non-believer to a christian. Now, I pray that she'll see the good news in me, and the light within my soul, and love me for who I am in the name of christ.

I wanna say I've gradually released from trying to manipulate her in getting back with me, and left it in the Lord's hands. It has been 3 weeks in which I've not written or pleaded her to talk to me, and let her decide if she wants to talk again. It's hurting crazy though...

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

Have you actually apologized to her? If you haven't apologized to her, that's the first place to start! If you did, but it was only a tiny small one, try giving her a bigger reason to WHY. Don't excuse your behavior, but just tell her why.

Other then that, there's nothing really you can do. You can keep trying to be friends with her, but it depends on her too. God will heal broken relationships. Even if you're not meant to be together as a couple, I strongly believe He heals relationships. So rely on Him.

 

[Omid]

So far, I've frequently appologized, and explained why I acted the way I did, and I let her know that I never intended to hurt her. I never imagined I ever would, cause I adore her!

It's only a matter of time for her to forgive, and look back for the beautiful times we had. I hope we be at least friends again, as much as I want more to happen. But in respect to "what she has to find out" for herself, I'll be silenced and let go, and seek God for understanding why this relationship was not attented to go for distance

All, I'm looking for is forgiveness, and not ignorance or forgetting I exist!

 

[joelbarrutia]

Omid I feel for you man!!!

I am not in the same boat, but the same ocean as you. I have been in a long distance relationsiph with who I really think is my future wife. We get along great, and when ever she gets a chance to fly back "home" we have the best times, I really really dont know how I could hold on if we broke up. oh wait... that has happened... she broke up with me to date this other guy, I wanted to talk but we didnt for 4 months, the longest 4 months of my life!!!!
But God is good and when he is in our lives he gives us strengh. It took a lot of praying, a lot of friends, and a lot of hope, but I knew 1 thing, (take note of this)
God wants us together
or
God does not want us together
and if that second one is true, then it must mean that she has a better husband in store then I could have been to her, or I have a better wife in store then she could be for me.

So my advice is this, PRAY and take peace that God has his hand in your relationship, whether he is going to take it apart or put it back together thats for God to decide, but you know it will be the best for both of you!

(oh, and the happy ending is, she realized that the guy she broke up with me for was not the one for her, now she is even more sure that we are to be together! but I must warn you, no matter what its going to be a long road, it has been for us to get back together)
and dont forget, love puts HER first

 

[Omid]

Hehe, nice to hear from a guy for a change !

Don't get me wrong ladies; I do appreciate your replies, every one of them, but I also seeked for a guy's oppinion about this issue.

I'm glad you had a happy ending, and makes me hopeful. Not, in the means of us getting back together. But in the understanding that God, if he doesn't think this relationship would have gone anywhere, has something much greater in store. Perhaps this was, if we dont' get back together again, a sense of preparation for the relationship to come ? Only God knows...