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Soulmate Question
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stealingheaven said:
if your BEST friend backstabbed you (say they slept with your husband or whatever) and you are hurt beyond ANYTHING..you have a CHOICE. love them, or leave them. its the same with a marriage partner-your not always going to LIKE them ALL the time. you still have that feeling, but in the heat of an argument you just want to make them an enemy...
you also CHOOSE to forgive (rather than have an elevated, floating in the clouds feeling of forgiveness). just like we CHOOSE to love God. i cant tell you i have a floaty feeling about God all the time and i dont always want to go to church or sing his praises-but i CHOOSE to, because i made a promise to him I would not turn away from my faith
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I really don't know how to address this. I have friends who I can tell you that I will never in any way shape or form be attracted to them. Therefore I "choose" not to take any avenues that would lead in the direction of a more intimate arrangement but that intimate arrangement isn't possible to begin with so there we are. I think that while maybe we don't choose who we fall in love with there are some people who we are predisposed to being able to love in that manner and then there are those with whom we are not. I think the "love is not a choice" arguement sometimes is phrased in such ways as to imply that as far as love is concerned that we are a bunch of minless zombies wandering through life waiting for cupid to "shoot his arrow" into us and then we will be hopelessly in love with someone for no reasons in particular. I think that based upon a person's abitlity in themselves to meet our basic criteria we can "choose" whether or not to allow them into a closer relationship with us.
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