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Soul Ties

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Hi Openheart, I'd like to say that yes I have heard of a kind of "bond" that you are talking about, I believe that when God blesses you with that special person and you find that bond and get married you will continue to share that love with the Lord. In this day and age it is a sight to behold when a couple can bond together and you know it's a blessing from the Lord; and I believe you will know each other in heaven.
 
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I believe when you are married you and your spouse bond (become one flesh). Read Eph Chapter 5 and it tell about marriage and our duties to each other. Women are to be submissive to their husbands and men are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church. So I believe if that bond is ever broken you will feel a great loss.
 
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I personally dont think sex has much to do with what God said in referring to becoming one flesh. When one reads "Read Eph Chapter 5" and lives by those guidelines then they are one flesh. The "soul tie" has way more to do with the guidelines of marriage than it does sex. I do believe however if a christian follows those guidelines ... sex is enjoyed in a way that no other could ever feel...."sacred sex"....that is what me and my husband refer to it as.


Just because you have sex with someone does not make you one flesh...thats not a good answer for someone who has been raped or molested.
 
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Gen 2:24 - For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

"united" to his wife is refering to Sex.

1 Cor. 6:16 - Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh.

Sex - unites two people - they become one flesh.
 
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Corinthians 6:16 refers to being married to a harlot...
refer to corinthians 6:15, Paul says "our bodies are members of Christ".... does this also refer to as being one flesh....in the sexual sense.? Thats not the knowledge that God gave me in my reading...

I can unite with members of my church...that does not mean I have sex with them.

The uniting is refering to the commitment not a sexual act. Where does it say SEX in that passage. Is that your own definition of unite?


Sex is sex!...Marriage is a comitment...with the most enjoyable sex imaginable.

Sex with a rapist is not a commitment nor enjoyable....God gave us this bond to christian married couples while outside the bedroom and in the bedroom. The original question at hand was about a bond not sex.
 
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I have been married to my husband for 4 years and we've been together for 6...From the moment I met him I knew he would be the one I would marry...I even tried to avoid him b/c of that....I used to be an extremely promiscuious person. Sex and being one had nothing in common. It was only for the purpose of pleasure. Sometimes I would have a monogamus relationship and then sex took on another purpose than just gratification. I never loved anyone like I do my husband. I had feelings for them, but I knew I would be allright. I missed one person for about three months after our relationship was over. We had been together for about four years...

My hubby and I got married...This was a person I could not walk away from. We have been through trials and tribulation, and we have tried to seperate...Since I have come to Christ things make more sense...Our seperations never lasted. We were always thinking of ways to reconcile. If something happened to him I seriously cannot fathom how I could go on...It would be only for the purpose of God. If he were to die a part of me would die. He is more than a help mate or a husband or a friend...I really cannot explain in words what he means to me...I thank God every night for giving me a husband that I am surely undeserving of. He is not perfect and niether am I, but I thank God that I have been blessed with a husband who I am truly and deeply in love with. The love that I have for him would be the same even if we did not have sex. Sex is only a very small part of being one flesh. People can have sex and be completely different on levels of emotional commitment, moral values, and ideals. Becoming one is complete not simply by entering another for a short period of time. Becoming one takes a lifetime.

My grandparents were married for 48 years. My grandmother died 2 yrs ago and ever since my grandfather has not been the same. A part of him died with her, and it saddens me to see him dying of a broken heart.
 
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water_ripple said:
My grandparents were married for 48 years. My grandmother died 2 yrs ago and ever since my grandfather has not been the same. A part of him died with her, and it saddens me to see him dying of a broken heart.

We lost my father 6 years ago next week. My mother is no more 'healed' today than the day she lost him. She has adjusted, maintained, and continues with day to day life, but the void he left, I fear, will never be filled.
 
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A soul tie is a bond created between you and another person. This bond can be created through sharing deep parts of ourself with the other person, and can include sex. A lot of times dating relationships create a soul tie and they really shouldn't because then when they separate a piece of them feels missing. But God can heal all. Remember Prov 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."

There are many interesting books including stuff on "soul ties" and everyone has a slightly different opinion, here is one I recommend (even if you are married): A Higher View of the Single Life by Reuven and Yanit Ross.
 
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wondering how all this fits into losing someone very close to you through a breakup. How does one explain the deep feeling of loss and at the same time the very real closeness you still feel for that special someone? I know alot has to do with the grief process, but what about the dreams, hearing her voice in the middle of the night, the overwhelming sense of feeling her presence out of nowhere. Anyone been there? Is there some kind of bondage thing going on here?
 
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openheart said:
wondering how all this fits into losing someone very close to you through a breakup. How does one explain the deep feeling of loss and at the same time the very real closeness you still feel for that special someone? I know alot has to do with the grief process, but what about the dreams, hearing her voice in the middle of the night, the overwhelming sense of feeling her presence out of nowhere. Anyone been there? Is there some kind of bondage thing going on here?
listen... if you get really close to someone, even a friend, it hurts when they are gone
the closer you are, the more the pain

if you go beyond God's "rules" say in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship the pain is at its worst

but it will get better, it WILL heal. it will. time will heal, you just have to let it..... some people never do let God heal or believe that it will ever get better and get bitter.
 
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I don't believe that the bond takes place in sex. If that were the case the rapist would be bound to all of his victoms and vice versa. The bond is a spiritual one first or at least is should be. The lack of this bond results in adultry and unfaithfulness. What God joins together are not the physical bbodies of the two people. The people join those.
 
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In the bond that took place between these two individuals. The bond was so strong. They met were introduced, met casually maybe ten times during a 2 year stretch of time. At the end of this time they agreed to get married and to this day can sense the other's pain, joy, distress, longing and even coming danger. That is the bond that is not made of sex and is not dependent on it either.
 
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