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[m0eseph]

i have a friend that went through a series of sexual abuses as a child. he turned his life over to God at the age of 14 and is now 20 today. he recently went to a party thinking it was a get together with friends and got there to realize it was full of sex and alcohol. he didnt have a ride back, and didnt know what to do. so he stayed inside and ended passing out. He asked for a ride home and yelled at them. im his best friend and i was trying to get a hold of him all night cuz we usually talk all night. but i never got an answer. so i stayed up till morning till he called. he told me that his phone got turned off and that he had been sleeping for 2 days (covering up for what had happened). he then called me later to tell me the truth cuz he felt guilty lying to me. i was devestated. and i didnt understand why this happened. i told him im here for him and ectect. a few minutes after he called asking if i wanted to play a game with him online. i told him no that i was worshipping (crying my eyes out for what happened) and they he should be too. he really didnt want to, but i insisted and he did (so i think). an hour later i got online to game with him (taking a break from talking about it) and everything was all smiles and he was full of laughter. i didnt say anything, but it confused me on how he could be so hurt, then so happy (maybe God healed him). after him getting frustrated with playing games, he started ranting about stupid things at home. hes always been an angry person, and not an easy person to talk to when it comes to getting him to move towards God. Hes always had anger issues with his dad and his dad is very abusive. i know its venting when he says he waits for his dad to come into his room to start a fight and bring out his (said friend) new knife to use on him. hes been suicidle in the past. so have i. i, too, went through sexual abuse as a child almost similar to his. but he just pushes me away. and im really worried this time. REALLY WORRIED. please help?

before you say anything about him being 20 and living with his parents, he cant find a job, and has no car. neither do i. and he doesnt trust anyone else but me. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. ive been best friends with him for 3 years. and im stumped and im hurt. why would God let this happen to him again? AT THIS AGE? please :'( i dont know what to do other than prayer and prayer just seems too far away...

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

The best you can do is be there for him. I went through that too as a child. Not my parents but one of the orderly's at my institution. He probably has shut himself off from you when you dismissed him when he wanted to talk. The bubbly attitude sounds like he is trying to cut his emotions off from you to save himself from being hurt further. I am having a harder time reading it no offense. Just a wall of text but what I can say is this. Be there for him emotionally as best as you can. When you didn't say anything after his venting, he may have felt you weren't really there for him. Maybe that's why he is pushing you away. I really don't know I am giving my 2 cents the best I can. I really hope it works out because helping someone who is habitually suicidal is hard. Very hard but never give up on them. Godbless.

 

[Pal Handy]

The two of you need God in the worst way.
I am not talking about salvation in Jesus.
I am talking about surrender to Christ as your LORD.

When we first become a Christian by accepting Jesus Christ as
our savior, that is just the starting point.

What is suppose to happen is that you become a FOLLOWER
of Christ and that you are suppose to surrender yourself to Him,
good and bad and allow Him to have access to every part of you so
He can come inside you and heal you and recreate or renew a
RIGHT SPIRIT within you.

We all have junk when we come to Christ and Christ wants
us to give that junk to Him so that He can replace it with
His goodness, love, peace, joy, a sound mind and and a relationship
with Him that will carry us through our life and into His very presence
forever.

You can not change your friend and he isn't the one that came here
looking for Godly advice, you did.

So I will give YOU the advice and as you apply it to yourself and find God
in your life in greater and more intimate ways, you can help your friend.

Pray and ask Jesus to come into your life in a greater way.
Ask Him to forgive you of everything in your life and
tell Him that you forgive everyone who has ever harmed you.
(Trust me, you have to forgive to go on to the next level)
Then forgive yourself and forgive any accusation you may have
against God like...why did You let this or that happen...

Now ask Jesus to come into your life not only as your Savior,
Deliverer, and Friend but to come into your life as your LORD.

Then pray and ask God to fill YOU with His holy spirit and to heal all
Of your past hurts and to give you a brand new heart of love for Him and for others.

Surrender to Jesus and He will bring you out of all your past
hurts and pain and He will give you such a life that you will be able
to help your friend and others whom God will send into your life.

ps A great book to read is "Beauty for Ashes" by Joyce Meyers who
was herself abused as a young girl by her father and in that book
she describes her journey with God and how He healed her past
and gave her a wonderful life.

God bless...

 

[Ortho_Cat]

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