sonja

[SplendidTree]

I am struggling because I lost three people from now until Christmas Eve and one of them is Sonja. October 30th is 7 years. I feel like I have no one to talk to about it. I don't like how she died. Not that I like when people die but her's was rough. I wish I could talk about it.

 

[BlEsSeD aBbY]

My prayers are with you. I know the pain of losing someone close, especially if they're death was a difficult one. Please PM me if you want to talk, I'm more than happy to listen. You aren't alone. God bless you.

 

[suzybeezy]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost 2 people suddenly who were very close to me this year so if you ever want to talk, my door is open.

 

[SplendidTree]

Thank you very much, sisters. I will probably PM you sometime later. I appreciate this.

 

[suzybeezy]

The important thing to remember when you start to feel down about loosing someone is bring a happy memory into the forefront of your mind. Let that memory bring you comfort. It can be difficult at times cause we miss them and wish we could still be with them, but knowing that we will be reunited one day gives me peace.

 

[SplendidTree]

There is a memory that is nice that I think of. It is the last time we spent together.

 

[suzybeezy]

Take that memory and let it give you a hug, you'll soon find yourself smiling. I think about the ones I've lost recently and while I am sad that I can't be with them, I feel so privileged that I had the time I had. And they're not truly gone, in that I mean, we keep them alive by talking about them and letting what we may have learned from them be passed on to others. For example, just recently I was inspired to do something that I probably never would have done after reflecting on my cousin who passed away recently. I think about her laughing at me and shouting down from heaven "you go girl". It makes me smile to think about that. Then I was able to share that with her sister, who has been really struggling, and she started laughing and we both got to have a little lift in our spirit sharing how she would have reacted to this. So keep thinking about that time you were together and allow yourself to smile as you fondly remember. Its hard to feel down when you're smiling.

 

[SplendidTree]

She was too young to die in my opinion. I am really really trying to find peace.

Sonja was a ray of sunshine. She could make everyone smile and laugh. She had such a crummy home life and I hardly ever heard her complain. I guess I should learn from her.

We used to walk around town in the summers. We'd go swimming at the gorge. The last time I ever saw her we laid out on the ground and looked at the stars and talked. It was peaceful.

She was so intelligent for a girl her age.

I miss her so much. I am glad God put her in my life though.

 

[power2theweak]

She was too young to die in my opinion. I am really really trying to find peace.

Sonja was a ray of sunshine. She could make everyone smile and laugh. She had such a crummy home life and I hardly ever heard her complain. I guess I should learn from her.

We used to walk around town in the summers. We'd go swimming at the gorge. The last time I ever saw her we laid out on the ground and looked at the stars and talked. It was peaceful.

She was so intelligent for a girl her age.

I miss her so much. I am glad God put her in my life though.

(((hugs))) I am glad that you are able to talk about it some. I think that will really help. Talking about my mom helps me deal with that loss. December 15th will be the two-year anniversary of her death. I have so many happy memories of my mom...I treasure each one!

It sounds like you have many happy memories of Sonja. I hope these precious memories will comfort you!

Remember, I am just an email away if you want/need to talk. I would love to hear more about Sonja, if/when you are able to share.

 

[Broken Hearted]

Praying for you sis Ive got a shoulder you can lean on and a listening ear. This also for me is a hard time of the year. I lost my mom 3yrs ago Oct 21 and then it will be 11yrs ago I lost my dad on Nov. 21 and then it will be 2yrs Jan. 3 I lost my baby brother. So I have alot of compassion and can truely understand. Anytime you need to talk Ill be there for you. I love ya and just want to be there for you anytime no matter what.