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Son hitting puberty!
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ROFL Yeah, nature can be pretty dusgusting. I'm sure she'll pass that along to her son to help him with his problem.sarahkuving said:
Seriously, whatever you do, don't give him a hard time about it as it could cause some psychological problems relating to sex. I remember the struggle I had with that when I was a kid and I know I'm going to be there to help my son if I ever have one. I hit puberty at 11 and it was aweful getting called on in school to go to the board to work a problem and my body betraying me in such an embarrassing manner.
God wired us to work the way we work. There is nothing wrong with what he's going through and someday I pray what he's going through will make it possible for you to have grandchildren to play with. Just be patient with him and if you have to, buy him some tighter jeans to help keep it under control.
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I'm glad to read this. I was a girl raised by my dad... and cos he never talked about periods and woman issues then for the short time in my youth it made me fell more awkward and more ashamed of being female and that it was wrong to know what you need to know. Far better to be relaxed and open and say what needs to be said... after all kids know about sex and puberty... they just need reasurance these things are natural part of growing up and how to deal with te practical sides.Kristy102 said:
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Don't worry about your son having erections in the home, it can be embarrassing when traveling, say on a crowed bus. I know when I was a youngster the vibration of a train would give me a erection, but I would be able to cover it with a paper or my books. But in the home don't worry about it, its natural and healthy.
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Holly3278 said:
False, masturbation will not limit the amount of erections he experiences (masturbation to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] will only affect that one in particular as the body goes through a refractory stage) Males in early teens experience several erections per day, more at night (often awakening with an erection) - this is perfectly normal and is a result of the mega increase of testosterone being pumped into his system. As he grows older, generally by mid-adolescence, the amount of spontaneous erections dies down.
It's good you have such an open relationship to talk to your son about his budding sexuality. It is also very rare - i grew up with only my mom and let's just say any discussion about sex while i was growing up left me feeling more than a little uncomfortable !!:o
Ray
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Ahhh yes puberty, hell, how getting an erection in the wrong place can be very bad for you.... :S
I will agree with the person who suggested you get a bigger shirt/T-shirt - these really do come in handy when you're walking about.
He'll learn to control it eventually, but for the time being, you need to let it run its course.
I will agree with the person who suggested you get a bigger shirt/T-shirt - these really do come in handy when you're walking about.
He'll learn to control it eventually, but for the time being, you need to let it run its course.
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Even though it's natural and healthy, it might be a little bit too natural and healthy! I think it's innapropriate but I know on his wedding night he will make some woman very happy... or very sore....lujack said:
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How can it be too natural or inappropriate? It's not like he's getting himself worked up on purpose. Give the kid a break.
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Selune, i think you should read all Kristy's posts before jumping down her throat. She said earlier -Kristy102 said:
"I'm saying that when he walks around with it and makes no attempt to hide it, he's not being very modest. Sometimes in public I have to stand in front of him because it gets so bad. I think he's just a little naive about the whole issue..."
Kristy, I think you hit it on the head when you said he's a little naive about what's happening and isn't reacting with the embarrassment most young males have when experiencing a spontaneous erection (thank God for school books, newspapers, ANYTHING !!!)
Hopefully him now wearing briefs instead of boxers will help some. Ray
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Athanasian Creed said:Selune, i think you should read all Kristy's posts before jumping down her throat. She said earlier -
"I'm saying that when he walks around with it and makes no attempt to hide it, he's not being very modest. Sometimes in public I have to stand in front of him because it gets so bad. I think he's just a little naive about the whole issue..."
Kristy, I think you hit it on the head when you said he's a little naive about what's happening and isn't reacting with the embarrassment most young males have when experiencing a spontaneous erection (thank God for school books, newspapers, ANYTHING !!!)
Ray
I have been reading this from the beginning (and posted early on too) and I still think she's being rather harsh about something which he has no control over. She mentioned it being a sin early on as I recall. I think that she could get him looser clothing and longer shirts, but his body is not going to somehow just stop producing testosterone (if it did I'd be more worried for him). Getting all embarrassed about this each time could develop negative reactions for him when he is married and wants an erection. I don't know why you think I'm giving her a hard time on this, I said that it is a natural thing to happen to a boy and it's not some sin from the devil.
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The reason why I'm so worried about it is the fact that he has no control over it. He needs to learn how to be modest with the changes he is going through.
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I think it's OK to speak to him about the need for modesty.
When I was that age, I was horrified at "getting wood" at inopportune times. It usually had nothing to do with any sexual stimulation... it was just a hormonal reaction.
I often found that going to the men's room and urinating (even if I didn't really "have to go") helped a lot. Maybe you could suggest that to your son the next time he's, uhh, in "tripod mode."
When I was that age, I was horrified at "getting wood" at inopportune times. It usually had nothing to do with any sexual stimulation... it was just a hormonal reaction.
I often found that going to the men's room and urinating (even if I didn't really "have to go") helped a lot. Maybe you could suggest that to your son the next time he's, uhh, in "tripod mode."
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unfortunately he's in "tripod mode" most of the time, I just think he needs something to hide that. It's just the way he was made.
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Thats what usually happens but he has to stand up sometimes especially in the mornings. I do the appropriate thing and avert my eyes when that happens.
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All the replies have correctly noted that teens often get erections that are not the result of sexual stimulation. However, I do not think you should discount the possibility of many of them being generated by lust.
Our society is saturated with sexually arousing or even erotic imagery; on tv, movies, magazine covers ( I can't believe the covers for women's exercise mags!), and the internet, plus there are many immodestly dressed women. I saw two two ads in about three minutes on ESPN in the gym last week; one was a beer ad that was like a porn film (just minus the most private parts), the other was an ad for a TV that featured a woman in a bikini the entire time. All these images are highly arousing to males--a teen male can become fully erect in three seconds simply from visual stimulation. If your home is not free of these types of images, this may be a part of the problem.
Your son is not unique, all males need to learn to honor God by guarding their eyes, heart and mind from lust. Two great books: Not Even a Hint, and Every Young Man's Battle, would be great resourses for you and your son. Finally, masturbation is not the answer; these two books make that very clear.
My wife and I are starting a purity program at our church, so we welcome the opportunty to discuss these types of issues now so we won't be too overwhelmed when we start having classes. Thanks for the great advice and for letting us be apart of this wonderful site.
God bless!
Our society is saturated with sexually arousing or even erotic imagery; on tv, movies, magazine covers ( I can't believe the covers for women's exercise mags!), and the internet, plus there are many immodestly dressed women. I saw two two ads in about three minutes on ESPN in the gym last week; one was a beer ad that was like a porn film (just minus the most private parts), the other was an ad for a TV that featured a woman in a bikini the entire time. All these images are highly arousing to males--a teen male can become fully erect in three seconds simply from visual stimulation. If your home is not free of these types of images, this may be a part of the problem.
Your son is not unique, all males need to learn to honor God by guarding their eyes, heart and mind from lust. Two great books: Not Even a Hint, and Every Young Man's Battle, would be great resourses for you and your son. Finally, masturbation is not the answer; these two books make that very clear.
My wife and I are starting a purity program at our church, so we welcome the opportunty to discuss these types of issues now so we won't be too overwhelmed when we start having classes. Thanks for the great advice and for letting us be apart of this wonderful site.
God bless!
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