Something to say or do

[looksgood]

Ok here is the deal...I am in an LDR and I think one day we may get to a point when there is nothing to talk about. Talk is all we can do cause I can't see her for another year now . I wish we could go off and do something. But we can't. So any suggestions on when we are all talked out? lol

 

[Iggster]

Looks,

The thing I've found out with my s/o, who I will marry soon, is that we never run out of things to say to each other. We talk about our daily walk with God, we talk about our day. We talk about everything. We haven't seen each other for a year either, now. I think because we pray to the Lord together is what kept us together for so long. He's saved this relationship more times than I could remember.

 

[looksgood]

Thats something I wonder about too. How is it that we can pray together? I mean I don't fully understand it. But I know that we both pray, and for each other. I just don't know much about praying WITH her. How does it work? I never really prayed WITH someone before.

 

[Ginsu]

I just don't know much about praying WITH her. How does it work? I never really prayed WITH someone before.

Well you pray, pray for her and yourself also, then when your turn is done let her pray for you and both of you....

 

[Learnin'2-4Give]

Do the 2 of you have instant messaging? Try praying "together" that way. You can type in a line or two and then she does.

Another thought would be to have a designated time each day to pray.

My former boyfriend and I used to pray together on the phone. We lived 64 miles apart--certainly not the long-distance that you have, but it was a problem nonetheless. We prayed for each other and we prayed for God's guidance and will in our lives.

The day he stopped taking my hand to pray, I knew our relationship was over and I was right. I really miss having him to pray with.

Praying that you and your special lady can find a way to pray together. That is something that can really give you a nice bond.

Julie

 

[tryin...]

mmm... talk about life in general and have a notebook and put lil things down you want to talk aobut. but also pray. how to pray together, you pray then he prays, etc... about anything and everything, yourselves, family friends... etc. good luck...

 

[KristianJ]

Looks,

The thing I've found out with my s/o, who I will marry soon, is that we never run out of things to say to each other. We talk about our daily walk with God, we talk about our day. We talk about everything. We haven't seen each other for a year either, now. I think because we pray to the Lord together is what kept us together for so long. He's saved this relationship more times than I could remember.

I'll second that...it works well and from there can flow many great conversations where you can find out more and more things about your s/o. And especially being accountable to each other about your walk with God...I'd consider that to be essential if you are serious on ensuring a godly relationship.

Learnin'2-4Give, great idea on the IM...I should try that out; it seems easy enough.

 

[looksgood]

I found it harder to pray with her over the phone than over im for some reason. I think that is cause I NEVER pray out loud though. God is working with me on that though.

 

[KristianJ]

I found it harder to pray with her over the phone than over im for some reason. I think that is cause I NEVER pray out loud though. God is working with me on that though.

Confidence to pray out aloud will come...God's helped me so much in leading others in prayer at church, but I hadn't really considered it as a useful part of time with my s/o until now. But even if you have to write stuff down beforehand, it will help you so much, and help build that confidence to pray openly and clearly in any situation, not just with your s/o.

 

[looksgood]

Confidence to pray out aloud will come...God's helped me so much in leading others in prayer at church, but I hadn't really considered it as a useful part of time with my s/o until now. But even if you have to write stuff down beforehand, it will help you so much, and help build that confidence to pray openly and clearly in any situation, not just with your s/o.

Yeah I used to lead prayer in church about 4 years ago. But then I went through a very hard time and I just couldn't do it anymore. Plus I think the old church didn't like my prayers cause they always nit picked them. But it has been so long now that I lost that confidence. But I know it will come. Cause after I talk with her and get off the phone and think of what I SHOULD have prayed...it becomes so easy lol. It IS very important to pray together and I know that God will help me out in that area.

 

[Mapik]

When you and your s/o are talking, be sure to talk about everything that you've done. Mention weird stories that have happened, or happened in the past that deal with the topic at hand. Share anything you can think of. Most of all, and as mentioned, pray. Before you hang up the phone, ask if you can pray with her. Perhaps maybe before? Maybe to bless the conversation at hand.... Anyways, pray and all shall be well.

 

[looksgood]

When you and your s/o are talking, be sure to talk about everything that you've done. Mention weird stories that have happened, or happened in the past that deal with the topic at hand. Share anything you can think of. Most of all, and as mentioned, pray. Before you hang up the phone, ask if you can pray with her. Perhaps maybe before? Maybe to bless the conversation at hand.... Anyways, pray and all shall be well.

Thats a good idea to pray BEFORE we talk. I think it would be a good way to put God first and all. Last couple times we talked the convo ended too soon (an hour into it) and we never got to pray with each other.