Something Romantic ;)

[Living4Him03]

Amen.

 

[BlestVessel]

Duly noted, Living, but for those of us who LOATHE puzzles, any similar project or boardgame will do. (I remember working with a boy in woodworking class in high school and thinking it would be so romantic if he were my husband! lol)
It's just fun to create something together, or watch him let you kill him in a game.

 

[Living4Him03]

Let him? I like for a guy to play his best. I am very competitive. If he doesn't beat me several times I will get bored lol. I like a challenge. I haven't ever been a big puzzle gal myself, but if you get one that's like a 3D puzzle or something that takes more time and thought that's pretty cool. I guess it was just being around Alex I tried to build the puzzle myself and then he noticed I was having problems and tried to help but we were both stumped so we worked together to finish it. It was fun. Anyway, yah it's romantic to work on a project or something together.

 

[Living4Him03]

Oh, I didn't even think of this one til Warrior Poet mentioned he has a truck. A picnic in the bed of a truck looking up at the stars is a romantic idea It's also pretty cheap. Just have to find a place where it's actually safe!

 

[Brittany108]

Hmm . . .ever seen the movie "Bed of Roses" ?? This guy completely fills up this ladies' house with red roses! Very romantic! . . .Lol, but a bit extreme I suppose . . .

 

[Brittany108]

When i was 20 i invited my girlfriend who i had been dating for a couple of months (after chasing her for ages) around to my house..... I had this long curvy driveway and then stairs leading to my room.... So i sticky taped 12 roses one by one alone the path, some on posts, some on trees etc all the way to my room.... attached to each rose was some words which when she got all the way to my room added together to make this poem i'd written

I loved doing that and she cried (in a good way), we dated for 6 years in total after, of course now she's married to a complete loser instead of me!!!!!! :-(

I'd love to do something like that again, although obviously not the same thing as that'd be weird....... but alas it's been years since i've remotely liked anyone!!!!

Wow! Maybe my original notion was not as far fetched as I thought! That was totally awesome Paul!! You are a sweetie!!

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

Maybe I should cut an paste all of this, and file it under "Educational"..........I have no skills....... and I'm about as spontaneous as a dead cat......

 

[BlestVessel]

Wow! A true romantic! That is really awesome!

I guess I am. Bed of Roses used to be my favourite "romance" movie... but the fact that they all include pre-marital sex and nobody demonstrates their love by waiting in movies anymore is a turnoff.

I was thinking, though, when my husband is courting me (meaning, he's made his intentions known), I'd really search to know him. There is no one thing that's romantic for everyone. [THIS'd be good to write down, Dateless ] I'd search and ask his likes, dislikes, when a good time to talk is, when a bad time to approach him is, when he needs space, when he needs to spend time with the guys or with God instead of me, whether he prefers spontaneity or well-planned and organized things, how I can comfort him, how best he is served, how he feels loved. BTW, the best book on romance is The Five Love Languages-actually, it's one of the best relational books, period. What is more romantic than someone expressing love so that you feel known, understood and loved? Romance is devotion and commitment, determination to "wash their feet" every day and direct their walk in the Lord in ways He has enabled you to.

I look forward to being married and showering my husband with every kind of affection, from cooking and cleaning to giving him massages at the end of a long day, putting his towel in the dryer while he's in the shower, leaving him silly notes, calling him at work to pray with him on lunch break, surprising him with special dates and gifts, all the way to fully trusting him when he leaves, seeing him as who he is AND who he's becoming, openly and honestly sharing myself with him without judging or criticizing or emphasizing his errors or weaknesses, praying for him continually, supporting him and submitting to him however I can.

Singletons who want to marry tend to look at it as this enormous honeymoon, but it's going to be a lot of work, a LOT of work. Living continually in the Spirit and two halves working to remain united in direction and purpose and steadfast commitment. Many things will need to be overlooked and forgiven, wives will have to learn to stop nagging and trying to change their husbands and take charge in any way, husbands will have to learn to listen and to continue to pursue their wives. God's timing is so awesome, because He primes us and prepares us. That doesn't mean we can't ask God to prepare us in certain areas we know we lack in and pray for our future-spouses and their faith and direction and preparation to put up with us the rest of their lives. It's easy to say "this is how it'll be when I'm in a relationship" or when.... whatever else we want to happen finally does happen. But God's timing is PERFECT. And if you aren't who you plan to be then, and you're not doing now what you think you will then, get ready! Holiness first, the rest is added unto us.

lol Apparently, I have a lot of supressed passion on the subject! I've been tempted to be impatient, but God and His ways! How can we girls think we NEED a man much when our Lord, Love Himself, is so rich, so filling!

Enough said.


Love,

April

 

[Raanan]

Oh, I didn't even think of this one til Warrior Poet mentioned he has a truck. A picnic in the bed of a truck looking up at the stars is a romantic idea It's also pretty cheap. Just have to find a place where it's actually safe!

Road trip to Alaska. You can drive to pretty much anywhere and be miles from anyone, surrounded by beauty matched only by the man you are with.

 

[LivingWorship]

I've always thought a drive in movie in a convertable on a starry night would be pretty sweet...also a still night on the beach. Being seranaded might be cool lol

Hmmm... great ideas Leslie! My better half loves the Porsche 911 Boxster... so if I could get my hands on one even for a day, would satisfy that one... other two I have done, and yes they are sweet.. Did the still night just tonight actually... and on the serenading, one anniversary I sat in the centre of a heart made from candles and played my guitar to her in her backyard, and it was a cloudy night.. the clouds cleared for around an hour and a half... as soon as we got up, the clouds came back... God gave us a perfect window on the universe!! I wrote a song for her (and I reckon it sucks but she loved it because it was for her "D)... anyhow one other thing I'd like to do is write her name out in candles on a still night...

 

[gsmithcat]

Two Valentine days ago, my small group (we were the Working Singles small group, so we all had nothing to do on v-day) had dinner together at an Italian resturaunt. At one point, we asked the staff to turn off the background music and then all the guys got up and serenaded the girls. I was on the bass along with my friend on guitar and another on the bongos. Then you have to picture 10 guys singing (badly) to 10 girls in a crowded resturaunt. We sang Sister, Mother by Sixpence None the Richer.

 

[Highland Watchman]

The most romantic thing I've done... Well, there have been a few, and some of them rather quirky, I must say...


There was a girl who I liked probably about 4 years ago, but I was really shy, and she was in a very bad, very abusive relationship already. Well, this guy cheated on her and they broke up. I offered to drive her home from work the next day... (I even promised her mom that I'd get her home safely). But guess who should turn up not 5 minutes before the end of her shift but the other guy. Being a coward, I let him take her, and she never showed up for work the next day... because they had gone on a "make up" trip to Edmonton.

Several months later, I was meeting with a younger buddy of mine and he was telling me about this girl that he really liked. And he asked for me to help him with this, because he had no clue what to say to her, or even what to do to get her attention. Turns out, it was the same girl, and she had broken up with this other guy, but this time for good. Like Cyrano de Bourjourac, I felt inadequate myself, and I figured that this young man before me was more worthy of her affections, and that I wanted to protect her from her ex... So, I wrote him a romantic poem to give to her... of course, written with my feelings and what was on my heart, then I gave it to him and he signed it in his name. Then we went together to the flower shop and chose a dozen roses... 11 of them were yellow, and one was red, to symbolize that she stands out, and also given the language behind rose colours, it sort of fit. He bought the flowers, then gave her the flowers and the poem. My plan sort of backfired, as I trained this young man too well and he told her the truth behind who really wrote the poem, and my hand in everything. So she came into where I was working about a week later with a few of her friends... (all three are models, by the way), and asked for me by name. I was working at a pizza joint at the time as a delivery driver. And if there is a place of roughneck, heathen partiers, that would be the place. The three favorite topics of conversation were parties, sex, and booze. I was the resident Christian. So seeing three models coming into the store and asking for the "Christian boy" who does not have interest in any of that stuff was definitely enough to cause at least a few jaws to drop. lol! Both of us went our separate ways soon after, but we've sort of kept in contact, except over the past year or so. THAT was funny!

Also, two school years ago, I was um... well, I was kind of the "pet" of a group of girls at school. I say that because I was friends with all 9 of them, and I was the one that they came to with various misunderstandings about guys and stuff...I had a few crushes, yes, but my relationships with them at that point were mainly like that of a lone brother born into a family of all sisters (which is not how I actually grew up... the oldest of 3 boys...).

Anyway, at the end of the year, because all of us were single, and I wanted to do something special for them, I wrote them a mass letter, addressing each of them personally, and bought a single rose for each of them. Then I bribed my room mate to provide the wheels and we went to a Vietnamese restaurant that I have been known to frequent near the school. While at the restaurant, I read them the letter and presented them with the roses (which was the first that ANY of them had ever received.) Then we ate... some of them were a little hungry afterward, though, because they are more squeemish about trying new things... But afterward, the 10 of us went and played a few rounds of glow in the dark bowling at a bowling alley nearby. We were then going to go for ice cream, but the place was closed, so we bought some at the grocery store... Then we went to see "Nowhere in Africa", a foreign film done in German... it seemed good when we were about to go in, but there was a fair amount of VERY explicit sexuality, and the plot really wasn't going anywhere. Then, while Andrew (my room mate) drove some of them home, I walked home with Jen, who later became my girlfriend and fiance, but is now my ex...

How we started going out, I got her a job at the school, where I was already working, and we spent a lot of time together over the summer. One day, we went to a random stop on the subway... Bloor and Islington in Toronto, and we went to a Japanese restaurant there, which was completely new to her as an experience... Turns out, they were also having a street festival that night, so we walked along Bloor and swing danced a little to the band on the stage, then walked back to the subway. But before we got there, we took a side trail into a nearby park and lay down on the grass and looked up at the stars. That was definitely a night to remember!

Also, in March of this year, I bought a rose for Jen when her friend Katie was in town. Then the two of us found her in the cafeteria during lunch time (with several people in the caf at that point), and I presented her with the rose in front of everyone. Not knowing what to do with it, she blushed and left... but everyone knew about it within a few minutes, as I had a bit of a reputation at that school, so everyone knew me. I think Jen was just embarrassed by the spontanaiety...

I proposed on Mother's Day, right after an incredible weekend with me graduating, my parents flying across the country, my anointing and commissioning at TCLG, the church where I sort of interned at... The moment seemed right, even though I didn't have a ring yet (which I got a few weeks later), so I asked, and she accepted...

Then in August, when she came back from India, I made a special trip into her town to see her when the plane came in and spend the weekend with her family. That was when things started to shake... She told me she was having second thoughts... So I made up a poem with coupons attached for backrubs and full-day dates, and I planned a specific date when we could just go and have fun. Little did I know that was when she dumped me.

So yeah, those are a few of the romantic things that I've done. There are more, I'm sure, but that's what stands out in my mind at the moment.

 

[sunshinejennii]

WOW.......so many romantic people on here. I'm trying to plan a surprise midnight picnic and hook up fairy lights and stuff to the car - slight problem I don't drive! but I'd love it if someone did that for me. I think, as a surprise for my mum and dads wedding anniversery I'm going to set up a picnic for them at the bottom of our garden next to our stream and hang fairy lights and put round candles. Only problem is myself and my two brothers hmmmmm...........:s

 

[gizmo03]

The simple and little things are romantic to me.... a quiet night watching movies together, just driving around no certain destination just extra time for the two of us. Some other little things are a weekend get away together(when you know nothing sexual will happen) and one big thing I would love is a candle light picnic on the living room floor with music playing.

 

[KeilCoppes]

The most I ever tried was cooking omelettes & fried zucchini together for dinner, and somehow I somehow out of the blue just happened to have matching placemats, candles, and a center runner to grace a card table after an afternoon of buying and planting flowers (open shades onto the back patio and a due time elsewhere for safety).

 

[KeilCoppes]

So yeah, those are a few of the romantic things that I've done. There are more, I'm sure, but that's what stands out in my mind at the moment.

I understand - the same girl I made dinner for later said that the romance was just too much and that I should cut it out (zzzzt). Romantic bug flies into bug zapper (zzzzzzt!). When we broke up, she did say that she had felt loved, but romance bugs somehow just aren't the same after they've been zapped.... she just didn't feel what she thought she should.

Hmmm - time to go back and study cooking techniques. If she's not there to enjoy cooking together, at least you get the fruit of your labors in cooking! (watching carefully lest zapped romance bugs fall into the pan).

 

[Tink]

Simple things do me in everytime. Kisses on the nose, little notes, a card, even those cheesy gumball machine rings.... Perhaps I'm a little odd, but if someone loves me everything else fades into the background...

In Christ,
Tink

 

[Nico]

i used to hate all things traditional--you know flowers and all that. now i like things that are unique and show that he's thinking specifically of me and attempting to get to know me, or do something he knows is special to me or to us. so for flowers (although they all seem to die on me the next day--that's why i'm not such a fan) i'd prefer a unique flower as opposed to the traditional roses. roses get so boring. i'm an artist, so planning something for just the 2 of us in a museum or gallery would be cool. the fact that we're alone and together seems to be an impt. element to the romantic aspect. i tend to not like things that get overly cheesy or feel contrived. yeah, yeah, what does that mean? it means don't take me on a "romantic" picnic somewhere w/roses and stuff just b/c you think it's considered romantic. take me somewhere, like the arboretum in may b/c that's when all the lilacs are in bloom and you know that i love lilacs. make it specific to me. b/c then i know that you're listening and that you're making an effort to get to know me. i personally would feel awkward if a guy serenaded me. reading to me is fine though, as long as the book's good.

 

[SOLDOUT4HIM]

My dream date:
I want to take her to a restaurant my mom told me about when I was little. They do romantic candlelit dinners and the entire restaurant's walls are windows, the restaurant overlooks an ice skating rink. You can watch the ice skaters in the snow. It'd be really cool.

or:
I'd pick her up in a limo, have a bottle of expensive red wine and we would walk along the beach barefoot hand in hand. It couldn't happen for at least a year though, I'm not yet old enough to drink.

 

[SFSJ]

#1 write me a song someday

#2 have an amazing prayer life with me (and intiate it whenever)

#3 come up behind me when I least expect it and wrap his arms around me, holding me as long as he can

I'm a simple, hopeless romantic....