Something major.

[Ryokeen]

I wanted to start off this New Years correctly with myself and God.
Many of you know I've been dating this girl for going on two months. We've known eachother for going on 5 months now. We've always been very close, as friends or as a couple. We're trying to be mature about the whole thing, as much as possible.

We were going to make a few promises to eachother at new Years but I decided after some thought to do something else way before we make any promises.
I am going to ask her to fast with me from sunrise to sunset Sunday, and pray and think about our relationship heavily. To see if God wants us here or if we're just filling in lusts or disires of our own selfishness. We're still going to talk regularly and what not, but we're going to do some heavy thinking and praying. The next time we see eachother, we'll see if we still want to make any sort of promise.
And yes, I really do think we're ready for this. I'm not trying to be naive.

What do you think about my desicion?(sp)
-Thanks.
It wouldn't be a promise, as in a promise ring, similar, but not the same. Nothing that would be unbareably hurtful as we are still young.

 

[Hediru]

I think that you are making a wise decision. I will pray for you and your gf that you will follow God's leading. Best wishes!

 

[Ryokeen]

Well, Thank you for your prayers!

 

[Hediru]

Well, Thank you for your prayers!

You're welcome!

 

[MN John]

I think you're on the right track. I'm reading into yuor post that your promise will have to do with keeping God first, exclusivity in dating one another, keeping pure, etc. You are doing well to be thinking along these lines.

 

[Ryokeen]

Thank you! I'm glad to see that I'm still going in the right direct with this, and I pray that I will.

 

[findinghope06]

i think you are making a wise choice in putting God first and really wanting what He wants. ill pray for you and your girlfriend too and that Gods will be done.

 

[Ryokeen]

Thank you, this is rather hard on me. We vowed not to say I love you until we knew that we're supposed to be where we are for now. It's rather difficult. I've been doing a lot of praying and thinking and I still feel the same way if not slightly stronger about her. Now I'm trying to find out if that's God telling me something or my humanily emotions. In the bible it says that he's in control of our will and our heart and that he fills our desires.

So is my question answered or is it just my emotions towards her?

 

[~Nikki~]

Please just remember that God takes any promises seriously and expects you to keep them...so I guess what I'm trying to say is be careful what you promise...as another poster has said, promising to put God first etc are good things to promise though...

 

[Ryokeen]

Exactly, I know God holds us to our word. I'm not going to do anything I will regret. The only way that I would make a promsie like that is if my Father and her father are there so if the feelings change the promise can be nullified. I've read about that.
Thanks for your concern and intrest in the matter!

 

[ericmartens]

That's actually really cool Ryokeen, I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers that you'll both be strong for each other. I have a lot of respect for you for thinking of this.

 

[Ryokeen]

Wow, that means a lot. Thanks for the words of encouragement. Ha, aside for being hungry and doing a lot of thinking and re-thinking, This isn't too horrible. I'm not 100% sure I have an answer yet but I think I'll know by the end of the fasting period.

 

[spokenforbyHim]

Ryokeen-

Wow...I was so surprised to look and see that you were 15. I couldnt find a guy my age with the maturity level that you're on. Don't get me wrong I'm very happy with my boyfriend who is 17, but geez. I'm just so impressed that you two are taking part in all these things. I believe you're doing the right thing. And I hope and pray that everything works out with you 2 and that you'll be very happy.

God Bless

 

[Ryokeen]

The fasting has come to an end. I now feel closer to God, closer to myself and closer to her. This is exactly what I needed. I feel refreshed in many ways. Thanks to all of you who expressed your concers, gave me encouraging words, or simply read and kept me and us in your prayers! It means a lot.

-Aaron