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someone with knowledge please help me

I need immediate help with something.......

Im trying to get my life and faith back together, before I start I need an answer with something that has been pressing on my heart...actually its been torturing me everyday, when I wake up , all the time...I dont know what to do

to get to the point, I recently involved myself in a situation where I was passionately kissing someone I know and care for, and he began to pet me, on and off, between the kissing...this continued for about a half hour

clothes on, I got excited, and rubbing between my legs and my crotch....I convinced myself that petting was a stage before anything threatening, stages before anything hreatening salvation I barely hold on to by a thread...yes I know I need to progress

listen, I know it was wrong, and trust me it cannot under any circumstances be allowed again

since that day I've ben so anxious and guilty...you have no idea

will someone with real knowledge and not just a judgement explain to me what happened....if I was dangerously close to or if I have , in fact, lost my virginity forever....have I fornicated? to know that I could have makes me want to die but I really need to know... someone please...if you are wise enough to answer me talk to me...I beg you....I need to change my life but first i want to know what i am, where I stand

my nerves are too wrecked for me to be able to tell in I have or if I am shocked at what I allowed myself to get near

this is because I have had problems with anxiety, guilt, depression and it can affect my judgement...so really I dont know for sure


please dont judge me, but if god is telling you what to tell me, please do because Im over the edge
 

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Please, don't get any more descriptive!

First off, you will not lose your salvation now matter how far it got. Jesus died for your sins, past, present, and even the ones He knew you're still going to commit (future). I think, and I'm not really an expert here btw, the only way to lose your salvation is to reject Jesus (like continually, not left and returned kind of thing). That makes sense to me anyways, one can forgive anything but a refusal of forgiveness! So don't be so anxious.

Second, go from there, however far it went is however far it went, Jesus will forgive, now make a fresh start and try today to live the way that Jesus would smile about!

I hope that maybe helped a little!
 
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honey, you haven't lost your virginity. You did not actually do the act. Petting and kissing like that is dangerous b/c it can be one step away from going all the way. You need to be careful.

Jesus died and rose again just for this moment. You did not lose your salvation. You know what you did was wrong so repent and all will be forgiven. Don't beat yourself up over this.

You are a child of God. You are a repentant sinner. You are loved by Our Lord.
 
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Take it easy girl. You're human just like the rest of us.
God loves you. He's not going to dump you over this.
This behavior is difficult because we are born to desire, and messing around can be confusing because we like it and are designed to like it.
But it can lead to things that are not to be experienced outside of marriage.
Often, we have to make our own mistakes to understand.
 
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God made us with those desires and responses so that we can use them in the right situation -- married life! Do not be ashamed of feeling what He constructed you to feel. The judgment of when and how far is perhaps where you fell into error -- but He will not condemn you for that. He's quite well aware of human sexual feelings and responses; He's been dealing with people feeling them since, quite literally, the Garden of Eden -- where He commanded Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, and fill the Earth, before the Fall.
 
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