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Anyway, I'm struggling with the Orthodox take on divorce. Yes, it is true that Jesus said divorce is wrong except in the case of "porneia" (though there has been significant discussion over the centuries regarding what exactly porneia is). I can understand the rationalisation behind a wife leaving an abusive husband or a cheating husband.
But what if the couple just decides they don't want to be married anymore? What if they got married for the wrong reasons - like, they were so "in love" that they got caught up in the romanticism of it all and then realised there's no real solid foundaiton. THAT happens far more often than abuse or molestation or even adultery, I'd wager.
In that case they probably wouldn't grant a divorce. The Church has guidelines for what constitutes grounds for divorce. For example, I remember in a homily the priest talking about it once, he said that cheating or porn addiction or something like that would be considered cheating and thus could grant a divorce. I'm not sure about abuse. Of course, if you were married and divorced before becoming Orthodox that's a different matter and that sin will likely be considered wiped away in baptism.
Thanks also, for asking your questions here. I really apprecaite it. It's nice when people ask instead of just assuming!
Good morning, friends. We are having one of the usual discussions on OBOB and someone came up with these points on which our doctrines differ. Is this true, or how would you define these? Apologies if you find it put in a way that is offensive to you - no use changing the wording, you can read up the original on OBOB anyway!
There are at least 3 areas where they have departed from this:
The Immaculate Conception - there is a variety of teaching in the EO now - anywhere from Mary was immaculate her entire life, to Mary was a sinner until sometime before the annunciation, to Mary was a sinner until the annunciation, to Mary was a sinner until the birth of Christ to Mary was never immaculate.
This represents a marked change in the teaching of the EO regarding Mary and occured soon after the Reformatiuon and was in fact influenced by reformation theology.
Remarriage - though it is discouraged, they allow for remarriage even though it might result in condoning an adulterous relationship - they make no attempt at discerning if the previous marriage was sacramentally valid. It is considered a penitential marriage, rather than a sacramentally valid marriage that can never be put assunder.
This started in the middle of the 1st milleneium when the Orthodox Church turned their authority over the insitution of marriage to the Emperor. There was only one reason why someone could be remarried then and it was up to the Emperor to grant it. Then the next century saw the reasons evolve into 3, then 10 at the beginning of last century, and the last time I looked, it was about 20.
Contraception: This was a doctrine the EO stood firmly with us on until a few decades ago. At that point, it was firm EO teaching that artificial contraception was absolutely forbidden. Then things changed over the space of a decade, and now it is permitted with the permission of the priest.
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Thanks in advance! I am praying to the Holy Spirit that we do not get into a fight about this. I for one, and many others on OBOB, would love to come to a good understanding of these points, one that sheds a positive light on you (but not a negative one on us either, please. Remember, it's our Holy Week this week!)
I prefer it here. You give honest answers... there's never a lot of confusion or accusation going on.
But what happens to the Sacrament itself? If a person is married in the Orthodox Church, and then divorces and remarries... the sacrament of marriage stays valid for both marriages? I'm having a difficulty with this because of the Catholic view. I need to think in your understanding here.
Like, for us, an annullment means that there were factors impeding the Sacrament being conferred - sometimes so serious that it turns out the Sacrament was not properly conferred at all. Just as you can't get baptised again, or chrismated again, or receive holy orders over again, you cannot receive the marriage sacrament again (assuming the sacrament was valid).
I'm used to the notion that once you are married, you are married for life. If your husband leaves you just because he doesn't want you anymore, that doesn't change the fact that you were validily, sacramentally married.
Sure, an annullment might just be a fancy way of allowing divorce. But it deals with the validity of a sacrament.
I guess I'm getting into sacramental theology here. I'm a bit out of my league because I'm not quite sure how to ask the question.
But what if the couple just decides they don't want to be married anymore? What if they got married for the wrong reasons - like, they were so "in love" that they got caught up in the romanticism of it all and then realised there's no real solid foundaiton. THAT happens far more often than abuse or molestation or even adultery, I'd wager.
Mary NEEDED Christ to save her. To affirm the immaculate conception is to say that the cross was unncessary for her human condition - which is to say she was a totally different type of human than the rest of us. While God is certanily capable of that, it defeats much of her value to us - namely as the supreme example of a Christian life and the supreme hope of the fate of all Christians, the first of the Saints and the Queen of Heaven.
Mary NEEDED Christ to save her. To affirm the immaculate conception is to say that the cross was unncessary for her human condition...
Personally it has made me wonder if in Catholic eyes any of the other Sacraments could be deemed as never having occured because there was something 'wrong'. What? Thought you were baptized eh? Sorry, ruling just came down, you're no longer baptized. An actually we've also decided you never really were baptized at all.I also still don't get how it is that a sacrament could someone sometimes "not happen." It seems like it would make God more like a magician who must follow a certain formula or His hands are tied. And do other sacraments sometimes "not happen" and then when you're married should you always worry that maybe your sacrament "didn't happen" and you are actually just living in sin?
Exactly. Or with all the crazy priests they have, why aren't they going to some of them and concluding that sacrament didn't happen??Personally it has made me wonder if in Catholic eyes any of the other Sacraments could be deemed as never having occured because there was something 'wrong'. What? Thought you were baptized eh? Sorry, ruling just came down, you're no longer baptized. An actually we've also decided you never really were baptized at all.
And if not, what makes the sacrament of marriage inherently different from all the rest.
That's Donatism!!Actually, it CAN happen to any Sacrament - (not so easily to Baptism, since that can be administered by anyone with the right intention, even a non-Christian!) - but we have a theological explanation to cover such cases, so that no-one needs ot worry. Why don't you go ask on OBOB? There are people who know this far better than me.
Exactly. Or with all the crazy priests they have, why aren't they going to some of them and concluding that sacrament didn't happen??
Certainly if simply planning to use birth control or being too young before marriage is enough to make the sacrament not happen, one would think that molesting little boys would most certainly prevent it from happening...and yet that never seems to happen. It makes you wonder why God works in such a strange and arbitrary way...
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