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some advice please.. what do you think...

OneKickinGuy

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Im lookin for someother peoples view point on this situtation that happened. I have talked to people i know about this, so im lookin for advice from those who dont know me.

in the last few week, i met a girl at my young adult/college group. I first met her and her friend on a tuesday night. we went to Apple Bees with others from the group after the group meeting. I sat next to her and was able to talk to her and get to know more about her.
Sunday came and i seen her again at church with her friend. we talked again before church and sat together during church.
Tuesday came again, she came with her friend. we ended up sitin at the same table together. we were laughing and playin around at the table just havin fun. playin with a bag of candy we would take from each other and act as if we werent gonna share it and silly stuff like that... so afterwards, she and her friend help me clean up the tables (im on leadership time). She helped clean up in the kitchen. Very willing to help me out in any way, smiling and laughing alot. lots of eye to eye contact all night. so we head over again to Apple Bees to hang out. i got there a little late. She was savin me a seat. so again with talk get to know each other more. I commented to her that i would like the waiter to return cuz i was out of water. She kindly oftered me some of her water out of her glass, i acepted, so she poured it into mine. later she got a chicken salad. she liked it alot. tho she didnt like the croutons. so she told me i could pick them off, while she ate. so we are still talkin, laughin with each ohter and others in the group. later, one of my friends' got some ice cream, but before eatin it, decides he dont want it. so She asked for it and he give it to her. Her friend askes for a bite. then i, jokingly, said i wanted a bite too. she gave a bite. she and i ended eatin all the ice cream bite after bite. i never touched the spoon. so later we all get up to leave (apple bee's is closing, so thats a good reason to leave)... so out side we go. by this time of night, there was only four of us left. Her, her friend, my friend and me. we are all standin out side talkin alittle and sayin bye. I said to everyone as they are walkin away, "does anyone want to go see a movie this friday night?"...her friend had to work, my friend said to call him, she said, well i dont remember if she said anything if she did, i didnt hear it... so then i remembered that i play volleyball saturday night, so i said to them, while they are almost to their car/truck, "anyone want to play volleyball saturday night" She turns around and says "oh i love volleyball and i want to play"... so im like "ok, kewl" then out of the blue, she runs over to me, and smiles, says "i want to give you a hug!" i said sure. she gave me a hug and ran back to her friends' car, i then, realized i didnt have her number so i said "how do i get a hold of ya about this weekend" she shouted her number back to me.. got in the car and drove off. well i jumped in my truck and took off. just after i got on the freeway, i realized they are behind me. they pass me, she was smiling and waving at me while her friend drove by...

so.. tell me what you think. was she being friendly, more. is this typical? cuz this is the most friendly girl i have met and only know for one week. i have talked to her enough to know her more then just small talk. she is christian and has been for many years. we have quite a bit in common so far.

Thanx

(i also posted this under "Singles".. .. tho thanx for all the replies. )
 

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Sounds pretty positive, but also be careful. I've been in the same place and gotten burned. I'm not trying to be a downer, just trying to speak from the voice of experience. Some women don't understand boundaries very well and some women just like the attention.

Make sure to keep the Lord as your focus and seek Him for wisdom and guidance. It sounds like she likes you, but let the Lord lead your path and make Him the treasure of your heart. Also remember that love is deaf, dumb, blind, and stupid, make sure you have a brother that can speak truth into your life.

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Yes... definitely- some girls (sorry ladies) do not know boundaries, and they play with a guys heart and do not know what they are doing. They aren't intenional and if they knew how it feels- they wouldn't do it. But then again, From reading it- it sounds really positive. She might not even be like that! If you feel the Lord is giving you the go ahead to enter into a relationship--I suggest, you start moving in that direction. But go with a clear head, and a purpose and a plan in mind.

Good Luck! Sounds Exciting!

Dave.
 
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Girl is coming on way strong. I would procede with caution. I once was one of those come on strong types and I know what it did to guys. It's confusing and someone can easily end uo getting hurt. I would ask these other people who are going out with you a lot what they think. They may see something totally different and they are there and we are not.
But honestly I would say she needs to back off. Especially with the being sop forward with the hugging and stuff. But that's just me.
 
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One week, or even a month, isn't much time. If I were in your place, I would probably be thrilled, but I'd also be kinda freaked out, because she does seem to be a little too friendly too soon. As hard as it might be, I'd say the most important thing right now is to try to keep things in perspective. Enjoy the attention for what it is, but proceed with caution.
 
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A lot of the girls that used to be in my church were huggy. You just can't let it go to your head or anywhere else and think of them as sisters in Christ. If you like eachother and want to get in a relationship, just make sure God is leading you and not your flesh.
 
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Thanx everyone for you comments. I have been prayin about it alot. Takin it slowly is what im gonna do. I told one of my friends about her and he lend me a book he read, "Ten Commandments of Dating" by Ben Young & Dr. Samuel Adams. its good, i have read the first five commandments the first day. I would recommend it to anyone. check it out.... again thanx, its helped...

Any more comments are welcomed...
 
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Multi-Elis said:
Why are so many of you taking such a romantic point of view? Common this is only the first week of friendship! It doesn't mean that much.
Why are we looking at it as a romantic thing? Staring into his eyes giggling making conversation saving seats giving her new friend hugs. If these are not the actions of a smitten girl, said girl needs to check her actions.
 
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Sounds like she likes you to me. Be careful. Watch out for being alone. Its generally a good idea to not be alone with a girl. Like you talked about, go to a moveie as a group or play v-ball with a group. Just proceed with caution. Another good book to read is: "When God Writes Your Love Story." God Bless. If its God's will it'll work out. Pray! Its the most important thing.
 
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superdave said:
If you feel the Lord is giving you the go ahead to enter into a relationship--I suggest, you start moving in that direction.

Actually it sounds way too early for that. A feeling of a "go ahead" at this point would probably not be the Lord... Give the friendship time to grow first.
 
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A feeling of a "go ahead" at this point would probably not be the Lord... Give the friendship time to grow first.
Finally somebody else who talks sense. I just think that just because two people are atracted to each other doesn't mean they should sudenly think that this may be THE ONE. And how many guys have I quickly become good friends with with nothing romanitic coming up? I'm talking about guys who wanted to lay their head on my lap, peel oranges for me when I was sitting next to them eating, guys who would pinch my cheek, spend the whole day near me when hiking, and I asure you that there was nothing romantic between us, non of them is the One, and they each have their own sweet ones now.

And how many times have I been infatuated with sevral guys at once? Are all of them ment to be my "Ones"?
 
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