Soldier Boy

[Living4Him03]

This is another one for guys And girls too I suppose...anyone who has any insight

If a guy asks you what is going on in your life besides school...and you say that your luck with guys hasn't been so good, and then he asks why specifically you say that and then tells you about how he seems to always pick the wrong girls...is there a chance he may be interested in you?

Yes, I'm talking about the guy in Iraq lol and he got his care package I sent He thanked me for the support. I guess I ask this because today when I talked to him via IM it seemed like he wanted to know what all has been going on with me and that he wanted to ask if I've been dating anyone without actually asking. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it though. I still don't know what to say to him or how to be myself I even get nervous talking to him via IM lol.

 

[TriptychR]

First, take a few deep breaths. You'll blow a gasket if you spend too much time worrying and trying to read into things. You might also scare him away.

You may feel like you're not being yourself, or that you need to be something other than yourself, but your nerves are likely messing with you. If this guy is interested in you, yourself is what he's going to want to see. Nervousness is natural, but don't feel you need to scrutinize everything you say. The more you do, the less you're going to be yourself.

Be patient, be interested, but don't try to force things to the "big question." If it's God's will, you'll eventually receive clearer hints; I'm sure of it.

 

[Iggster]

First, take a few deep breaths. You'll blow a gasket if you spend too much time worrying and trying to read into things. You might also scare him away.

You may feel like you're not being yourself, or that you need to be something other than yourself, but your nerves are likely messing with you. If this guy is interested in you, yourself is what he's going to want to see. Nervousness is natural, but don't feel you need to scrutinize everything you say. The more you do, the less you're going to be yourself.

Be patient, be interested, but don't try to force things to the "big question." If it's God's will, you'll eventually receive clearer hints; I'm sure of it.

What trypty said...I agree.....Ditto!

You obviously caught his interest. But take it slow and pray about it. To think of it, a soldier is much more drawn to our Lord during these times. Pray with him and uplift him to God. Show him you truly care for him. I never prayed on IM with anyone. Just a suggestion....is all.

 

[Living4Him03]

Thanks for the feedback I have been praying for him as often as I can, especially each evening before bed or morning since there's a nine hour time difference. I hadn't thought of praying with him though. If we get to chat on the phone sometime I will definitely pray with him. I guess I just feel sometimes like I'm boring him but he seems to be interested in the mundane aspects of my life even hehe. I guess it is a tough job what he's doing. I hope he does have that time to grow closer to the Lord and really strengthen his relationship with Him. He's been leading a bible study for his guys and they have chapel on sundays. Ya'll are right though, I need to take it slow and be his friend and pray that the Lord will bring him closer to Him. I even told him today that from my past relationships with guys I have realized that dating someone when you aren't ready or haven't become good friends isn't a good idea. Thanks again!

 

[Living4Him03]

Man I tell you what guys are confusing! Today he was all talking about how Kirsten Dunst is soooooo pretty yadda yadda lol. I think he wanted me to complain about how a lot of guys say that, but I didn't. He seems very interested in my love life for some reason, even though the Kirsten Dunst comment seemed to be a way of telling me I'm out of his league as far as looks. My friends have told me I am lol but I guess that didnt' stop me. Who knows. Guys

 

[Out of the Flames]

Man I tell you what guys are confusing! Today he was all talking about how Kirsten Dunst is soooooo pretty yadda yadda lol. I think he wanted me to complain about how a lot of guys say that, but I didn't. He seems very interested in my love life for some reason, even though the Kirsten Dunst comment seemed to be a way of telling me I'm out of his league as far as looks. My friends have told me I am lol but I guess that didnt' stop me. Who knows. Guys

Sweetie, you're going to make yourself absolutely nuts if you try to keep analiyzing every conversation, looking for clues. Be happy! He obviously enjoys your company and wants to get to know you better. So relax and enjoy the fellowship. If that fellowship develops into something more, outstanding! If not, you'll at least have a close friend.

 

[Iggster]

Once the two hearts are molded as one, the two spirits intertwined, there is nothing on this earth that can stop the two of you from being together.

I tell my s/o Liv Tyler is hot. She comes at me with Collin Ferrell is cute. But she knows, if Liv Tyler shows up on my front porch, it's my s/o I'll pick. We have gone through alot to be together. Nothing can replace, nor substitute the great memories we've had to together.

Paralysis through analysis. I agree with out-of-flames. Don't over analyze. We're just being guys. We tend to talk out of the other whole sometimes. Thinking out waaaaaaaaaaay too loud.

 

[Living4Him03]

I had a good comeback to his kirsten thing though. I told him that Toby isn't so bad and then said him being in the movie sure makes watching spiderman sweeter hehe. I wasn't going to show any jealousy.

 

[Ps28:7]

yeah, it's not good to analyze ever situation and conversation you will drive yourself up the wall trying to figure out what he's sayin, and if u're not completely sure he is interested in a relationship don't push it, maybe he's just lookin for a friend, and try not to become too emotional attached b/c if something were to happen it would hurt tremendously if all your emotions were wrapped up in him... a good way to not become emotionally attached is to take things step by step and NOT to pray with him, even over the phone, "it causes major emotional connections which are best reserved for people who are committed to one another"(quoted by a guy friend with experience) that's basically all i have to say, it's cool that you are conversing with a valiant brave man who is fighting for our country, keep God in everything and ask for his guidance in the situation
God bless you and your friend
~hot4christ~

 

[Card42]

while maybe this is something
and maybe it's not
one bit of advice
i would give women
is to not think of men
like women
we're not that "deep"
what u see
is usually what u get

 

[Blank123]

hehe its tough for a woman not to over analyze things its what we do

But L4H03, just be yourself, it sounds like he really enjoys your company already, so you can relax