Socializing

[Xenofar]

So I have a slight fair of Socializing and finally summed up enough courage to stop lurking and actually ask about it....

I would rather do something by else by myself than talk to new people even if I want to talk to them, for example at the start of this year I went to a Christian camp out on some random nameless island, good fun, I met several people that were really cool and wanted to become friends with.....
so talking to them was fine, I would act myself (I can't do anything else), if *said people* started talking too me it was fine, but when *I* wanted to talk to *them* then I would get nervous about approaching them and think something like 'what if they don't want to talk 2 me, or don't actually like me and were just being polite' etc. etc.
yet when I got talking to them I was fine. *I can talk to them now actually, but that is only because I'm used to them and am faily certain that they DO like me =)*
But that is just it, it happens all the time, even posting on these forums I think *what if they don't appreciate what I say/I say the wrong thing/offend anyone/etc/etc....*
and often just talking to ppl outside of my immediate group of friends I get nervous and wonder what I "should" or "shouldn't" say or maybe even "meant to" say.. :/
so... help?

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

sounds like a fear that others have as well. The easier part of the forum like this is that it is as anonymous as you want, so you don't have to share everything at once.

Congratulations for taking a chance on participating rather than lurking. I hope you will find it to be a good experience.

 

[Johnnz]

If you generally lack self confidence socialising will not be very comfortable for you. Some teenagers have to work harder than others to develop good social skills. Thinks such as finding out what interests others have, being informed enough to have something to say from reading, watching the news etc helps with that.

John
NZ