Social problems :(

[Barnabas71]

jesus is the best friend you can have, believe me. cos he dont let you down, he understands exactly how you feel. i know how it feels to have no friends. take care.

Yes I too can relate to that. If work colleagues have given me some stick (I should know I have had some pretty evil things said agains me over the years) it's nice to return home and shut the front door behind me -- and pray and know you have a friend in Jesus.

The best friend a man or women can have. Did he not give up his life for his friends?

 

[Jo1]

Yes I too can relate to that. If work colleagues have given me some stick (I should know I have had some pretty evil things said agains me over the years) it's nice to return home and shut the front door behind me -- and pray and know you have a friend in Jesus.

The best friend a man or women can have. Did he not give up his life for his friends?

Hi ive been thinking about you today and just want to encourage you. i had a period in my life where i wasnt seeing anybody and it was a hard time. I felt lonely and isolated I belonged to a church but didnt really have any lasting relationships. I think what most helped me through this time was listening to Joyce Meyer a godly teacher. she did a series on lonelyness i listened to it on the internet and i also got a book called STRAIGHT TALK. I think personally it is one of the best books she has done.Highly recommended! Its basically got different subjects in it, like lonelyness, depression, insecurity etc. and how to deal with it. she always said that if you feel lonely, develop your relationship with God and he will give you friends. Its a good place to start. You dont want friends that say bad things to you and pull you down like you had at work. Gods got great plans for you. pray that God will give you divine connections, the right friendships. you also say you dont know what to say to people. how about hobbies you enjoy? that could be a good conversation starter. Also if they are christians you can talk about Jesus of course. In the bible God didnt choose necessarily confident people. there was Moses he seemed a very humble man, and David the shepherd boy.God can use you. God can make it happen. I remember having a day when i couldnt stand not seeing anybody, i came to the end of myself. I was still hurting really on a close friendship i used to have. I remember the night before in my church group seeing two ladies hold hands cos they were close friends and it really broke me. the next day, i just had enough. Then God used a friend who i hadnt been in contact with for quite a while because she wasnt in a good place with God and I just had to seperate myself from her.She was my longest friend i had a good 8 years.She rang me out of the blue, she did the day before aswell! to be honest at first i reacted cos i thought what did she want? but it turned out to be Gods helping hand. It felt right getting back in contact with her. i felt so touched even though we hadnt been in contact for a good year,(we hadnt fallen out) she asked if i wanted to come round to her house cos she knew i was down. im saying all this cos God can make it happen! He cares how you feel. this experience really touched me and that i realised that God knew and understood. Im so gratefull to him for it. Take care I am thinking and praying for you. Do hope this helps you. God Bless. xx

 

[Ruby Moon]

thank you, it still hard to be a christian and not having relationships, and the friends I do get, I cling to them.

 

[Chococat]

I find that to be true. It's nice to have lots of acquaintances, but too many close friends are hard to keep track of, especially if they don't get along.

Plus it is better to have one or 2 genuine friends who will stick by you through thick and thin than scores of "fairweather" friends who just want you around when it suits them.

 

[LoG]

I got social problems

1. I want everyone to like me
2. I am scared of people
3. I got no friends online or real life
4. I don't know what to say to people

I suffered from those things for a long time myself.
Afraid of people and what they might think of me if they really knew who I was kept me isolated and fearfull of relationships. A deep sense that people would reject and abandon me at some point.

The process of recovering from that involved me first admitting to myself and others that I had a problem in those areas (which you have done), praying for God to heal me in those areas, step out in faith and take a few risks in letting others get to know me, and reading or listening to others who had recovered from similar problems. I realized as time went on that not everyone will like me and that even ones who do will sometimes do hurtfull things because they have their own issues but as long as my relationship with God is good, I will overcome.

These issues I find take time. There isn't a magic potion that cures me instantaneously, but as long as I keep looking to God to take away my fear of people and doing the footwork in faith, I come up higher every year. My journey in this area started about 10 years ago and I have come a long way since then. Most of my reading focus is in the area of codependency and although it may not be at the core of your particular problems, it is still a good starting point in trying to define what is.

Good luck and God bless

 

[Chrystal-J]

I have a huge problem with shyness and I found a book that really helped me. I don't normally read self-help books, but this one was good.
It's called: Shyness: A Bold New Approach.
Here's the link: http://www.bainvestor.com/shyness-bold-new-approach.html