Social problems :(

[Ruby Moon]

I got social problems

1. I want everyone to like me
2. I am scared of people
3. I got no friends online or real life
4. I don't know what to say to people

 

[BelindaP]

Welcome to the recovery forum!

1. I would like everyone to like me, too. I don't think it will ever happen, though. I'm what they would call an 'acquired taste' in person. I do much better on-line. Probably because my fingers are slow enough that my common-sense can catch up with what I'm saying.

2. It's also very common to be scared of people. The world is getting to be a scary place. I think you'll find this area of CF to be a safe place, though.

3. I think that you'll quickly make friends here. The people are very nice.

4. I've seen your posts elsewhere, and I think you do OK. You may feel like you're not coming across well, but I think you say things just fine. Try to have patience with yourself. God loves you, and we love you, too.

 

[Ruby Moon]

Thank you for replying.

I guess if I could say more then a few words, I could make more friends!

 

[BelindaP]

I think you'll do great here! I'll sign on as your first friend.

 

[Everlasting33]

Hey, I understand how you feel! I sometimes go through the same thing...but you are free to PM me whenever!
Your negative feelings about yourself do not tell the truth (remember that

 

[Johnnz]

Was your family background a happy, safe experience for you, a place where you were loved and affirmed?

John
NZ

 

[Ruby Moon]

no no
my whole family is odd.........................

I also have a problem Pming people, I'm scared to upset them, plus I don't know what to say and scare to say the wrong thing.

 

[Johnnz]

Thanks.

My gues is your family background did not instill self confidence, or provide a stable, accepting, affirming environment for you. Consequently, and especially if you are at all sensitive, you would have tended to withdraw from people, you would believe that they did not really like or accept you. So, youhav eno confidence around people, and you greatly undervalue yourself. You probably fear rejection from others too, so you won't allow yourself to get too close to you so you won't get rejected later, or find out that they do not like you anyway.

Does any of this make sense?

John
NZ

 

[Ruby Moon]

yes, it makes sense.

 

[ERice2nd]

I have the same problems, I know its hard to deal with. I just try to be myself and get out and be seen by those around me. Usually my actions, that they witness, speak for themselves. Most of my neighbors think of me as a good person and I believe they understand that I am shy.

 

[treblebass]

I got social problems

1. I want everyone to like me
2. I am scared of people
3. I got no friends online or real life
4. I don't know what to say to people

i can totally relate...you sound A LOT like me...

 

[rocklife]

I also encourage you to let Jesus be your friend. He is always around (which is a good thing And get to know him by bible reading. I like comic book bibles and bible on walkmen, and bible movies. they are helpful.

I hope your family situation gets better. maybe putting in prayer requests for them also will help. I'm praying for you and them

 

[Ruby Moon]

I know
but you still need friends to touch, hug and talk to. I found out from experience sometimes being with Jesus isn't enough, humans aren't made to be alone.

 

[ERice2nd]

I know
but you still need friends to touch, hug and talk to. I found out from experience sometimes being with Jesus isn't enough, humans aren't made to be alone.

God agrees with you

Even though Adam had God to fellowship with, God still said this.

Genisis 2:18
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

 

[rainman11]

that's bizzare because in some respect that describes me perfectly. Ya I have all those same problems. Add to that never been in a real adult loving relationship. I've been in long term relationships but I wasn't really in love. I have had great success in business. I'm a millionaire actually. But now life has actually become so boring. I've done it all so to speak. The only last thing I'd like to have is someone to truly love but I just doubt that's ever gonna happen. I try to have faith but faith or no faithing nothing happens anyway. Anyway pray for me.

 

[Ruby Moon]

I will pray

 

[Chococat]

I can relate to a lot of what you Ruby as I often worry that people don't like me. I do have a few friends both on and offline but not a lot. One of my online friends is really popular and I often wish I could be like her. In fact I often wonder why she bothers about me as a friend when she has so many other online friends. Btw if either of you want to pm me you are more than welcome.

 

[Ruby Moon]

awwwwwww, I don't think popularity is everything its hard to keep up with alot of people.

 

[BelindaP]

I find that to be true. It's nice to have lots of acquaintances, but too many close friends are hard to keep track of, especially if they don't get along.

 

[Jo1]

I got social problems

1. I want everyone to like me
2. I am scared of people
3. I got no friends online or real life
4. I don't know what to say to people

Hi sorry to hear that. i struggle socially too. especially in church with relationships. count yourself having a friend you can always pm me anytime. jesus is the best friend you can have, believe me. cos he dont let you down, he understands exactly how you feel. i know how it feels to have no friends. take care.