You know what really is tiresome, people who assume that I don't want to know what God's word said.
I have read the scripture, tirelessly and the "other way" you are providing is actually going against what that scripture is saying.
When you quoted me about elders, you made it a point to say that the bible does not say "MUST BE" married, in your post #326. But I pointed out that in 1 Timothy 3:2 when the bible say that one "must be" blameless, husband of one wife, that automatically mean that they must be married. How exactly can someone be the husband of one wife but not married?
This is how I am viewing your "rebuttal" if I am wrong, you can correct me:
You assume that "must be" is only attached to the word "blameless" and that "husband of one wife" seems to mean
IF he is married than he must be the husband of one wife. That's the problem. "If" is conditional, but those qualifications for eldership that are stated in 1 Timothy 3 are not conditional. He must be the husband of one wife. The bible goes on to tell us "one who rules his own house well." How can someone rule his own house, if he is single? The husband should rule his family home, well and that includes his wife and kids. A single man is automatically disqualified because he does not meet the qualifications for eldership.
Think of those qualifications as boxes that must be checked off (legalism, yeah I understand, but for this purpose it works). Let's look at those qualifications in Titus:
Titus 1:5-9
For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you--
If a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy, self-controlled, holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able, by sound doctrine, both to exhort and convict those who contradict.
Now, before someone automatically shut there ears to everything I've said because you see the word "if" in there, let me say this: Read that verse again, that "if" is not a conditional if, it's not "if you find this type of man, than good but here are other exceptions" that "if" is more as "if you find this type of man than he need to be an elder, if they are not found with this qualities then keep looking."
read it again in the context:
For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination....
And these qualities are to set the man apart from the others in verses 10-16
I disregarded your opinion of that grammar because it actually had no barring on the verse, because that phrase "husband of one wife" is not conditional. It is a qualification that he has be married.
The problem with your analysis is this:
While you say that I am "allowed to have "ONLY one car", whether it means I have a car or not, I am not getting a service out of it. If you say that I am "allowed" to have ONLY one car, it can mean that "If I have a car, I must only have one" or that "I don't have to have a car". But that "if" becomes conditional. But the bible does not say "a husband is "allowed" to only have one wife"...it says "he must be blameless, husband of one wife." There is no allowance in that clause. He must...so therefore if he does not, he is disqualified.
Now, if your whole entire argument was based on the idea that I said "it is not Paul that allows us to be married but God" I meant that when you posted that Paul allowed us to be married and I wanted to point out that it is not Paul who allows, it is God. Paul does not command us to do something or not do something, it is God. God allows us stay unmarried for those who can and He allow us to be married. But unmarried or married, there is no difference in Christ. But when men are to take on an eldership role, that role is reserved for a certain kind of man who meet the qualifications. It does not make them better or worse than anyone, it simply mean the role is eldership is reserved for those who meet the qualifications.