So it's over... for now?

[KarateCowboy]

Dude, you appear to be good looking, intelligent, and a decent guy. If you want this to work with her then you have to work. Why can't you show your face around her family? Are you disfigured? Are you a former serial killer? Are you related to Rosie O'Donnell? If there's nothing to be ashamed of then why are you slinking around like Gollum in the Lord of the Rings? Stand up tall and proud and walk in the daylight as you were meant to be. Also, grow some cajones and walk in there and show them that it's none their business. Arc your back, grit your teeth and say to them that they've judged you wrongly, but it doesn't matter because it's none of their d***ed business. Don't you think your woman would love you even more if you showed her that you're man enough not to cowtow to her parents' wishes for your relationship with your woman?

 

[Jvn]

John,

Just read through all of your posts. We have something in common, difficult parents of the person we love. It is sad that some parents are so judgemental and oppressive. Here are some things that might help:

-Understand most young, beautiful girls are the "perfect angel" of the family and the family is overly protective and feels like no one is good enough for them. In fact, they are "jealous" of that person usually. You battle all of this from the get-go.
-It is HER responsibility to tell her family that she loves you and if they love her, they will be supportive. If they won't be, then they don't really love her. Sounds like she isn't brave enough to tell them this and if not, you will ALWAYS have issues.
-I am not sure why they don't like you, maybe that is omitted for a reason, but nonetheless, if you love this girl and want to prove something to her family, then put yourself in their shoes and try to figure what would impress them. Start there and work your way up.
-Tell her that if she loves you to stand up for you and if she won't then she doesn't really love you. You are not asking her to choose you over her family, but her family's cynicism has placed you both in this position. You have no choice. She will always be single at this rate!! You must tell her that it is over if she won't stand up for you and mean it!! You deserve better. I don't even know you and I can tell that.
-It is funny in life sometimes. When we are faced with a choice like this, our real feelings surface. If we are not forced to choose, we never will. We will do anything to avoid the pain. As humans, we are the best at procrastination.

Sounds like you are in a tough spot, but stay positive. You are very young, as is she and 5-10 years from now you will laugh about this, I promise. I'll say a prayer for you, bro.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Two Words: Las Vegas.

 

[Inperfected]

Hey mate...
I know in a way where you are coming from... But no parental issues, just that the bf no longer wanted to be with me.

However the heartbreak is the same... i recognise in you, so much of what was in me... Now taht was nearly a year ago. It aches doesn't it... And sorry to say, but it wil for quite a while yet... But don't hold out on forever with her.

Ask her a question, because in every relationship i've seen, this helps a mile with it all.. : Is their HONESTLY any chance of us getting back together... When i heard no, it was the first stage in getting over it.

As for the moment, don't worry about antidepressants, if the depression carries on over a few months, then you should worry about it, but as for now, dno't. it's situation depression at this point, and needs time.

Keep pouring it out, and write a journal... Don't not cry.

And more than anything DO NOT rebound... it's tempting, but hurts both parties..

Good luck mate. and pray you lil heart out...