So I guess I'm going to be single for life...

[lone soldier]

It kinda sucks, but I'm adjusting.

If I were a standard christian, I suppose this would be where I'd start blaming God for it, but I'm not and I won't.

Anyone else want to join the single for life club? It kind of sucks; the drinks are watered down, the music is lousy and the food is stale - you're alone too! But aside from that, it's not so bad.

 

[Rhye]

You wont be.
From what I have read (short amount-and dont know you but who cares) you seem like a someone who is trying very hard, honest, kind and will find someone. Just give it time and don't throw it away at the moment.

btw, music is never lousy even if you are single.

 

[HighwayMan]

Im not sure.

If there is a specific purpose for singleness, such as serving God in a monastery or something, that I can live with.

But in a world full of happy couples all around you...the point seems to be just to suffer.

 

[puffca]

It kinda sucks, but I'm adjusting.

My condolences...

If I were a standard christian, I suppose this would be where I'd start blaming God for it, but I'm not and I won't.

I don't think that's what a "standard christian" would do.

Anyone else want to join the single for life club? It kind of sucks; the drinks are watered down, the music is lousy and the food is stale - you're alone too! But aside from that, it's not so bad.

No, thanks, but no!!!

 

[mina]

I thought I would be single for life......and then I met my future husband. So you never know what life holds.

 

[Thunder Peel]

If you start thinking that way then you might be writing your own negative fate. And singleness doesn't have to be bad. Serve God where you are with what you have and let Him decide the rest. I think it's safe to say most of us here want someone but we find ways to use our time in this season to better ourselves and grow in Christ. That's where you will find your joy and peace.

 

[Blank123]

If you start thinking that way then you might be writing your own negative fate. And singleness doesn't have to be bad. Serve God where you are with what you have and let Him decide the rest. I think it's safe to say most of us here want someone but we find ways to use our time in this season to better ourselves and grow in Christ. That's where you will find your joy and peace.

what this wise man said

 

[singpeace]

Genesis 28:15
What’s more, I am with you, and I will protect you wherever you go. One day I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have finished giving you everything I have promised you.”


Isaiah 41:10
Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.I will strengthen you and help you.I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.


Isaiah 43:2
When you go through deep waters,I will be with you.When you go through rivers of difficulty,you will not drown.When you walk through the fire of oppression,you will not be burned up;the flames will not consume you.


You are never alone. I AM is with you.

 

[Evie1980]

I agree with all the people above!

I think that it is up to you how you view singleness. I am quite happy being single. I have been able to do more in the years I have been single than I ever thought imaginable. But that is how God works. He always exceeeds expectations but if you don't have any expectations...

 

[Adrianna91]

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[Spirit_Star]

Sometimes one will find love with they least expect it.

Being single does not have to be a bad thing. If you want to be with that someone special you just have to keep faith that God will bring that person to you at the right time. Its fine to tell God your desires for a spouse/life partner. Even your frustration of not finding that person yet.

I like what Thunder_Peel said.

 

[singpeace]

I agree with all the people above!

I think that it is up to you how you view singleness. I am quite happy being single. I have been able to do more in the years I have been single than I ever thought imaginable. But that is how God works. He always exceeeds expectations but if you don't have any expectations...

Grass is always greener - - - You are single, and I am married to a God-fearing husband who takes care of me. I envy YOU!

 

[lone soldier]

For those who like singleness, your opinion will probably change the older you get. As your biological clock starts ticking and you feel alone with no one to share your life with, no one to cuddle with and no child to hold in your arms. You realize the meaninglessness of money, fame, fortune and success... because truly successful people have successful relationships. Aloneness may last for a season, but to be stuck in such a state, is not pleasant. As you watch your friends marry and start families, as you spend the holidays alone, as you deal with constant questionings from family members of why you're not married, even of your sexuality, you may start to disappreciate your singleness. Or, there's always the convent or the monastery.

 

[Rhye]

And still I have hope. I hope that one day I can share my life with a man who gives as I give him. I hope that one day I can have a family and share my life with them. I don't want to be satisfied for me but to give to him, and to my children. I want to genuinely preserve my marriage! I want my home to be filled with children, I can love and cherish. To give them the kind of love my parents gave me. To discipline them the way my parents disciplined me. To sacrifice for them like my parents sacrificed for me. Am I ever strong enough to do any of it? I don't know. I get scared to be a mother sometimes cause I don't want to fail my children, and the thought of failing any of them, makes my soul hurt. And still I think at 27, what have I done to not get something like that in my life? How much time do I need, how much mistakes do I need to make, how long do I need to wait? And still I have hope and I give hope to others cause its that little string I hold on too before falling. I don't want to fall. If I do, I want to be caught my someone who would give me everything I would give them. I work so hard to get somewhere, and that somewhere is not good enough it seems. Its not good enough for anyone. I have accomplished nothing. And still, I hope.

 

[Allen1901]

The technical term is "bachelor 'till the rapture".

Like it or not I am a card-carrying member of this....club.

 

[mina]

I think hope is one of the important things to have....And I do think it's true that our ideas about singleness and self change as we get older and hopefully experience more of life on our own. Lots of people think they have it all figured out about singleness- their own and everybody else's and I often have to think that life (authored by God) doesn't always work the way we think it will or should. It's not wrong to have the desire to share your life with someone or to be a parent;. it's not wrong to have hope for those things. I don't understand how in Christian culture those good and normal things and feelings got twisted to mean if you want those things and are single you are terrible in your faith and aren't doing what God wants you to do and are "called" to singleness or that you would jump into any relationship for the sake of just being in a relationship. *Not that anyone here said that , It's just my perception from experience of being single longer than most in Christian circles. This is one area (singleness) that really puzzles me in Christianity. My experiences in discussing such things with other Christians haven't been good ones, but I sure have learned a lot and I'm thankful for my path - I've seen and experienced sides of the coin that everyone seems to have an opinion on. So Iguess I said all that to say this: If you have a desire for a good marriage and to be a good marriage partner to someone; then don't give up that hope. There's nothing wrong in that. Don't sit in it and stew in it; move forward, but don't give up hope and don't give up or compromise being an amazing person b/c the wait gets long.

 

[Tamara224]

For those who like singleness, your opinion will probably change the older you get. As your biological clock starts ticking and you feel alone with no one to share your life with, no one to cuddle with and no child to hold in your arms. You realize the meaninglessness of money, fame, fortune and success... because truly successful people have successful relationships. Aloneness may last for a season, but to be stuck in such a state, is not pleasant. As you watch your friends marry and start families, as you spend the holidays alone, as you deal with constant questionings from family members of why you're not married, even of your sexuality, you may start to disappreciate your singleness. Or, there's always the convent or the monastery.

I agree, singleness certainly isn't made any easier by societal pressure. Knowing that people think you're abnormal, defective, or even perverse for not marrying is tough to deal with. I get it from some of my cousins. It's the ultimate insult, in their minds, to remind me that I do not have a husband.

I've learned to just let it roll off my back. I can't let people's opinions define me. I find it much easier to be content in my singleness when I worry more about doing what God has given me to do in a manner glorifying to Him. Life is now. It can't be put on hold until we get partnered up. God has work for us to do now. There is joy in the work. Besides, I don't want to waste my life sitting around miserably waiting for it to start.

 

[Blank123]

For those who like singleness, your opinion will probably change the older you get. As your biological clock starts ticking and you feel alone with no one to share your life with, no one to cuddle with and no child to hold in your arms. You realize the meaninglessness of money, fame, fortune and success... because truly successful people have successful relationships. Aloneness may last for a season, but to be stuck in such a state, is not pleasant. As you watch your friends marry and start families, as you spend the holidays alone, as you deal with constant questionings from family members of why you're not married, even of your sexuality, you may start to disappreciate your singleness. Or, there's always the convent or the monastery.

eh... I don't care how old a person is, its depends on the focus and attitude of that person if they can be content or bitter. If you're focused inwardly on what you want but don't have, then yeah of course you're going to feel terrible. If your focus is on God and the world around you and choosing to be thankful for the life you do have? Its going to be pretty hard to feel that way.

I've met some very bitter single people younger than me. And I've met very happy and content single people in their 80s. Its a cliche, but its a cliche because its true: you can't always control what happens in life but you can control the attitude you hold.

 

[SneakerPimp53]

What positive action are you taking to change things if you don't like them? Success is never a certainty in life, but if you're not doing anything then why complain. By doing something I don't mean spending hours on dating sites or whatever. But real concrete action to get what you need if you want to get married. Are you in school working hard to make sure you get that really good job? Are you in the gym regularly and making sure you eat right? Because really, if you have a good job and are in decent physical condition it's unlikely you wouldn't be able to find someone to marry. If you don't have those things then it's unlikely you will find someone to marry you. If you don't want to do the work it takes get those things then you really can't find being single that bad.

When I got my discharge I spent a good eight or nine months being bitter that the uniform groupies weren't there anymore. Then it dawned on me: I'm in my late 20's, live with my parents, and work at Jiffy Lube. Not exactly a real wonder why I very rarely get dates and those never turn into anything. But the other reality is that I'm obviously not that heart broken about being the dateless wonder otherwise I'd be doing something to change it.

 

[MacFall]

I seriously doubt that I will ever date or marry. But I'm not going to blame God for it, because I recognize that it is my own stupid fault for screwing up the many opportunities I already had, when I was young and reckless and selfish. Now that opportunities are lacking to nonexistent, and I'm not exactly a hot commodity in the attraction/romance department, I'm coming to terms with a life of singleness. But coming to terms with it doesn't mean I like it.