So, I broke up with my fiancé...

[Maria Isabella Saule]

Sorry, I did not exactly know where to place this since it is not a problem caused by me. So, I have been dating my fiancé for awhile now and we were waiting until marriage but I discovered that she was cheating on me with another individual of the male sex. I guess I'm more than a little sour about it, she agreed that we should wait until marriage and then she cheats on me. If she couldn't abide who I live as, she could've told me instead of cheating on me. I'm so tired of people breaking my heart and tired of crying myself to sleep. I know in my heart and soul that I'm a girl, maybe I should just stop trying to date girls, maybe I shouldn't assume that all men will hurt me. I really don't know what to do for practically the very first time in my life. I just got out of hospital a few days ago and I find out the love of my life is cheating on me, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.

 

[PropheticTimes]

As painful as it feels right now, you will look back one day and realize that perhaps this was a blessing in disguise. I'm in my mid 40's and still single and when it gets me down I recall something I once read: "Some day someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else."

I was heavily abused by men in the past. It took me a long time to understand that not all men are monsters, not all men will hurt me, and I cannot punish any man for another's misdeeds.

For now, pamper yourself, give yourself the time and space to heal your heart. Don't give up on love, for it heals all things.

Your faith says 'pagan' but I'm praying for you anyway Keep your head up, your worthy of real love, love that doesn't hurt.

 

[chapmic]

I will be praying for you as well!

 

[Maria Isabella Saule]

As painful as it feels right now, you will look back one day and realize that perhaps this was a blessing in disguise. I'm in my mid 40's and still single and when it gets me down I recall something I once read: "Some day someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else."

I was heavily abused by men in the past. It took me a long time to understand that not all men are monsters, not all men will hurt me, and I cannot punish any man for another's misdeeds.

For now, pamper yourself, give yourself the time and space to heal your heart. Don't give up on love, for it heals all things.

Your faith says 'pagan' but I'm praying for you anyway Keep your head up, your worthy of real love, love that doesn't hurt.

I am no longer a pagan, I have accepted Christ back into my heart. Just don't know how to change my listed religion. It should not matter that I am super feminine, I had the exact part she wanted and she told me she loved me but she never respected the sacrifices I made for her. I was living as female when we met and she knew what to expect but I did all I could for her. I am not a girl physically but a girl emotionally, maybe I should stop trying to date girls and just be a straight girl. You know, marry a guy who loves me and I love back. My daughters deserve a mother and a father, not just a mother. However, I'm pretty sure that most men don't want a woman with the same parts as them. I mean, I could be wrong.

 

[PropheticTimes]

I would say stop focusing on who to date. Just love others and the right one will come to you.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

I will say first, congrats on becoming saved! Secondly there was a way to change your title, not sure what happened to it. You can post that you need help with it here (its private so no one will see it but moderators): http://www.christianforums.com/forums/member-services-center-msc.883/

Thirdly its true, not all men are scum. Though from my experience as a guy, ALOT of men I have met seem like it. Its hard for women to find good men here in america anymore. But its not impossible. Also as someone else said focus less on love, it will happen at the right time. For me it was at 30 years old. Marriage at 31. I had made finding someone my idol before that point so I am sure its why I couldn't find anyone.

 

[Brianlear]

Based on what you wrote, can I assume you are transexual and identify as psychologically female but have male genitalia? If so, well to be blunt, all christians should accept you as God made you but often they won't because they can't imagine why God would make transexuals. Well, he did, so it's our job as Christians to accept them. This world is turned upside down by fear and shame. And it is people like you who take the brunt of it. For that I am sorry.
I would say follow your heart. Perhaps this happened for a reason and the right person is just around the corner.

 

[JAM2b]

You need time to heal. Don't worry about who you should be with right now. Your focus needs to be on you. What do you need to heal emotionally from the damage done? Do you need physical recovery from being in the hospital? Seriously, it is OK if it takes a while. If you rush healing or skip over it, then it has a tendency to not turn out well.

Don't worry about your children's need for two parents. If you rush getting a second parent for them, then that person could turn out to be a huge a mistake. In an ideal world, kids need two parents, but this isn't the ideal world. This is the world with broken people who hurt others. Having only one parent is FAR better than having a lousy step parent or parent who is absorbed with dealing with a dysfunctional marriage.

When my ex husband and I separated and divorced, I made a commitment to myself not to drag my boys along with me through a string of relationships that could traumatize them further by me searching for a new mate, or to rush into something with someone that might not be the best situation for my sons. They have had some rough times without having a two-parent home, but they have not been harmed by me having the wrong people in my life. They are turing out to be OK, even with all the struggles.